I've read where a lot have said that it helps to name the baby. I am struggling with this since I was only at 9w and there was no way to know the gender. I think I may just choose a gender-neutral name. I really do feel that it would have been a girl though. When I picture when I think about the baby I always think of it as a girl.
Did all of you name the baby? Did you have a hard time with it like I am and did it help?
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We had a m/c in December and we want to name the baby. I think ours was a girl too. We still have to decide on a name. I wanted her initials to be M.I.S. because our last name starts with S. It is definitely helping us. I know other moms did name their babies even if they didn't know what gender tha baby was. Its hard to pick a name when we didn't find out about the baby until it (she) was gone.
I don't know if mine was a boy or a girl, but I felt it was a boy. So, I named him accordingly. I was only 5 weeks along, and most people give me a weird look in real life when they hear I named my lost one... but it feels natural for me to have named him. It is a comfort to the grieving process to have a name, it seemed to make the baby more real for me. Especially since I wasn't even far enough along to get an u/s.
Go with whatever feels right (*hugs*)
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We named the girls, they were far enough along to know, and with this baby, he was sent to genetics, so we will find out in a few weeks if it was a boy or girl. They sent the baby to genetics to find out if something was wrong with chromosones. But my husband and I both this of the baby as a boy.
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I didn't name my first two because they were both early losses and it felt weird for me but with this one we had started calling him Henry or Hank for a nickname while I was pregnant so he will always be Henry to me.
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Our first loss was at 14 weeks 2 days and we knew he was a boy. His name is Daniel Lawrence. Our second loss was at around 8 weeks so we didn't know the sex and chose the name SweetPea. Both are in a memory box with a nameplate on the front with their names. And it has helped to be able to call them by name.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
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I found naming my losses helped me deal with the pain of losing them my first loss was twin boys who we named Mitchell and Orry, with my second loss which was twins again but only one i named him Dylan and the surviving twin my 17 yr old DS is Cameron. I also named my last loss at 25 weeks as I knew that it was a girl which we named Sheridan. I think it helps the healing process and allows you to acknowledge the precious life you were carrying.
I am in favor of naming what your heart feels is right, because no one in the world is loving that baby or missing him/her like you are, and it's none of their business how crazy it might sound. Anything that helps us cope is the right thing to do.
And having a later loss that required a name for a birth certificate made it easy to choose a meaningful name for Mary Catherine (her grandmothers' names). A name is all I could ever give her, so it is very important to me. I hope you feel the same way and that it is easier to talk about your little sweetie by name instead of "it" or "the miscarriage" which are so cold.
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We just lost twins @8wks, I never even thought of the fact that they will know the sexes when the chromosomes come back! I don't know if I want to know!! We affectionately call them "The Specks" since my son has been into Horton Hears a Who, because "a person's a person no matter how small." It just seems to fit. We are going to put the u/s pics from 6wks when they had little heartbeats and a couple of the cards we rec'd in a box or something. We were pretty attached to the idea of them, even in such a short time.
Sorry for your losses, everyone.
I lost my angel at 6 weeks officially.. they had said I was 8 weeks but then the ultrasound put me at 6... Even though we didn't know the gender I felt like it was a girl, but we had names picked out for either. Since I felt so strongly that she was a girl we named her Kayden Marie. I found for me it helped for her to have a name. No matter how far along I was she was my baby so I needed a name to help me in the grieving process. At first I hid everything that we had gotten for her but now I look at it and I made a memory box so that she is with me in some sort of phsyical form. It iss still hard for my Husband to see the shoe's he got for her so I keep them all hiden away until he is strong enough.
We never officially named our baby (we m/c at 6 weeks) when we refer to him/her we call him/her our angel baby. Now that I have a DD I wonder about naming him/her so I can someday explain it to her....that she had a brother/sister.....do you think it would be strange now since I m/c 2 years ago....
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Sorry I meant to give you my thought for his/her name: Raye Lee this is after me and my husband his name is Randy and his initials are RAY and my middle name is CaraLee so I have always liked it. I think it is a personal choice. A M/C is so emotionally devistating I don't think anything really makes it easier maybe for comforting.
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If you have a strong feeling about the gender, then definitely go with that. Moms always know best.
I had 3 miscarriages, but only felt strongly that I wanted to name one of those babies. The first m/c was only a couple days after my BFP, so I didn't feel I needed to because I wasn't quite attached yet - plus, I didn't know the gender or have any feeling what it was.
My second pregnancy was twins. I lost one at 8 weeks, and the other at 15 weeks. I knew that they were a boy and a girl because of a dream I had:
I was holding 2 babies - a boy and a girl, then an angel came down from the sky and took the boy from me, leaving me with only the baby girl. The very next morning was when we found out that one of the twins had died.
I didn't name the boy, but when we lost the girl at 15 weeks, the only way I could move on was to give her a name, so we named her Jenna - the name I picked out for my first daughter before I was even married.
There's no right or wrong thing to do. If it'll help you to name your baby, then go ahead and do it. Don't let anyone tell you it was too early or anything like that. Each person is different.
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