tukeetukee

I know.. I ended up telling a few friends about it and they were OK with it. And then we had a conversation about this girl at school who has had SO many abortions that she had to find a new planned parenthood to go to because they wouldn't do anymore for her (she had like 6 or 8 in a year at the age of 16.. and she wasn't shy about it either.)
I was kind of ranting about people like that and then one of my "friends" said "Do you think your judgementalism may be the reason you have PCOS? Like maybe this is karma biting you in the butt for being so judgemental about other people having abortions. Maybe you don't DESERVE a child until you can be understanding... maybe someday when you learn to be understanding, you'll be able to get pregnant."

I was like "maybe PCOS and the infertility it usually comes with is the REASON I'm so bitter and judgemental! Maybe I see things the WAY EVERYONE should see them." Ugh.. I went OFF on her.

After that, i just stuck with telling people I was really close to.

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JTsbabygurl

I don't blame you for going off on her. I'm sorry but that is just sick for somone to do that. What is wrong with her. And you have pcos is not karma. I don't know what she thinks. It's better to stick to tell people who you can trust and who will understand. Also your friend dosn't know if you can or can't have children. For all she knows you can have kids with no problems. So people shouldn't try to state facts she dosn't know.

Atlanta Chick

I can see how that could be misinterpreted! LOL! (I went back and read it) Actually I was the jerk (Believe it or not). He was all like, "What's wrong? Are you okay? What exactly is it? Etc... I was the one who down played it. But we talk about it more now and he's SUPER supportive!

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Atlanta Chick

I totally agree with you! Kudos to you for putting her back in her place and allowing her to see the situation through your eyes!

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JTsbabygurl

Awwwwwww well that's good. It's good to have people who support you, My boyfriend is supportive too. He still dosn't understand/ He thought I was going for a check up today. I told him I am going just to ask questions about my PCOS.

areeba

I'm usually a big blabbermouth but I find for PCOS it isn't really necessary to announce to everyone. If I was very overweight, i might tell people because then I would feel 'vindicated' about my efforts. Some people judge overweight people as lazy, so telling ppl abt the diagnosis would tell them that laziness was not a cause at all.

I've noticed some people tell a hundred people, but then when others inquire about how they're doing, give diet tips, etc., they get pissed off! Yeah of course some people have weird opinions, but to me, when you reveal something about yourself, usually it is done with an expectation of some input, right? We may not like it, but don't offer such info if people's comments will bother you.

As for my bf, I would probably tell him but day to day details ("ooh my cervical mucus is like egg white") don't help him, might add unnecessary stress, and might kill his sex drive since he is getting TMI 24/7!

Monki

I talk openly about mine...Of course I was just diagnosed on Tuesday, but I'm sharing it. So many people don't have a clue what it is (including me until recently) and I think it's good to know that there is no shame!

jade_rs

Where I'm from most people are so poorly educated about the condition they're more likely resigned to think you're just infertile so I'm cautious about who I tell.

I think you can tell who will understand and who won't...be mindful though that ignorance about something makes poor judgment easy for some people.

MsMango

I was only officially diagnosed a couple of months ago (though I've always had VERY irregular periods). Thus far, I've told only my dh and my mom. My coworkers are mostly men, so I don't really feel a great urge to have that conversation with them.

stacey99

I told my family once and showed them a brochure from my doctor about pcos, and they couldnt stop laughing about the hirsutism. and said i should be lucky because kids are not that all that, plus i have plenty of neices and nephews to spoil. and they said it was all in my head. What losers, and when i do something they dont like or they are upset with me, they're always quick to throw in my face(especially my sister who has 5) that i am just jealous because they had kids and i cant, and we could be arguing over who turn was it to take grandma to the store. The only person who understands is my dh and younger brother. My mom isnt even supportive, not that she ever really was. The kicker is every few years one of these idiots ask me when are we going to have kids, like hello how many times do i have to tell you my condition. So i choose not to tell them anything else. My husband is my biggest support and his mom was too before she passed. So i figure if you have supportive family members, you should tell, but if you have assholes like mine then its best to keep it to yourself. According to my crazy grandma she says the reason why i dont have kids is because god doesnt think i deserve any and i havent done anything to earn them. good luck on what you choose to do. sorry for the long response.

stacey

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ThinkPink21

Only my mom knows. I'm scared to tell anybody else because I don't want them to look it up on the internet and assume that the symptoms of PCOS define me. 'Cause I'm sure my friends would read different things and assume they ALL apply to me. It's just something I prefer to keep private. Although I wish some people did know so they could understand why I feel so sick and tired a lot of the time..

PinkJen

Until I saw this thread, I didn't even consider not telling people. I think the first thing I did was come home and call my family to tell them! I think in my case, I almost needed to as almost everyone around me could tell something was wrong. I gained weight, lost a lot of hair, and had hot flashes (those were the symptoms others could see, so they were hard to hide). It was quite obvious something was wrong, and everyone would guess it was a hormone problem. So, once I got the news I was so relieved, I told everyone! But now that I have seen other's stories, I can see why some wouldn't talk about it, and after reading your stories, I have decided it's probably not best for me to tell anyone when I'm TTC, I get enough pressure already! So thank you for sharing, it has made me more aware of how others perceive PCOS!

MsHiss

I told my husband, my sister and my mother immediatley. My DH and I had been trying to have a baby for 8 years at the time and finally knowing what was going on was a relief.

I tell people pretty freely if I think the info will help.

Mim

Tukeetukee... wow. If that was your answer, your friend is probably right. Not very wise of her to say it to you (that's really the kind of thing you think, but don't say), but... wow.

But on the topic to hand, eh. If it comes up, it comes up. It's more that I'm personally satisfied to be able to put a name to what's wrong with me, than I care about other people knowing about it. Frankly, my medical history and/or conditions are none of anyone's business but mine and my doctor's.

Atlanta Chick

Aww Stacey! Kudos for you being strong enough to share that with us! @ Unsupportive family and friends! We get enough grief from strangers!

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