I'm wondering if anyone else has the same problem as me.
I'm 22 years old. Girls my age... Have sex and enjoy it. But for me, I'm not that interested in sex. Really, if it was up to me, I wouldn't have sex. I'm just never in the mood. It comes and goes really. Like once a year, I will really really want it... like alot. For about a month. And it goes away. I know it has something to do with hormones, and now I am on BCP and I was hoping the urge to have sex would come back. I've had this problem for quite sometime. I think I've gone nearly a couple months without having it.
Don't get me wrong, I love my fiance very much. I find him attractive and everything. But I just don't feel... sexual.
Is that weird?
Also, does anyone else feel like seamen is like acid to them? I mean, when you know what is in me... it burns. I wonder does that have to do with my ph levels or something (I know, I said PH levels but I don't know how else to explain it)....
Is that weird also? Any suggestions or anything?
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I'm 20 years old and though I can't say I relate on the acidic sperm part, I can say I feel pretty similar to the no desire for sex. I also love my boyfriend very much, find him attractive, etc., but usually just am not in the mood. We fool around in other ways and do have sex but, I would be perfectly content to do it once per month. I think as of now it's been about two months though.
We use to do it all the time, sometimes several times a day and it was great [sorry if TMI]. It slowly started to die down, especially after we moved in together. I was also hoping the BCPs would get me started again, and sometimes I try to trick my mind into thinking I want it but it doesn't seem to get me far.
I think it's strange and would love to get going again old times. I'm too young for this but don't really know what else to do.
BCP may be the culprit...I was on trinessa (generic of ortho tricyclen) for three months and my sex drive totally disappeared...I had to take myself off because it was causing too many problems with my relationship...My testosterone levels are high so my drive has never been an issue unless I was on BCP--thats when I lost total interest in sex...About two weeks of coming off of them I was back to "normal"
Reading the part about the sex drive is so me. Been married for almost 4 years and hate sex. I still find my DH so attractive but just no desire to bd. It was birth control at first now I think it is hormones and a mixture of "timed sex" since we have been ttc since 2004. It has become a "thing" I do to make dh shut up! Try talking to your doctor but it is probably your bcp. The are doing their job, warding off birth!!
On the semen question. I have "hostile" cm and mine tends to kill off DH buddies but there is never a "burning". Don't take this wrong , but have you been tested for any STD's? You might just have an irritation to his semen. I hope you find out what is going on down there!! Keep us informed!
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oh boy i hear ya bout no sex drive. i dont know what cures this problem but it seems to help if there is other stimulations during intercourse like a vibrator. my DH seems to think the just get on method will work and doesnt understand but sometimes the "suprize" approach may help even if your not in the mood. if not you could always fake it. lol sorry
Nah, faking it isn't the way to go. Faking it is lying, and there's no room for that in what should be a trusting relationship.
Anywho, I do know when I was on BCP's I had a "normal" woman's drive, whereas off of them, I wanted it all the time. So there's definitely a connection there. It could also have something to do with self-esteem, negative body image, things like that. I think also that part of the problem is that most guys think that women should just "want it". Honestly, if it were only that simple lol. Even females in the animal kingdom have to be wooed, they aren't just in the mood and ready to give it up with one little sniff from a male lol. Men are like bottle rockets, women are like ovens. Takes a while to get the fire stoked!
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You could be allergic to him-- no, its not always a STD that causes a reaction. Ph is off with me too, doc's know about it. Reducing sugar intake helps a bit. Also if you're using lube it could be that too.
As for the low desire- I can't help you there hun. Although DF needs to learn not to ask for it until you come around, it can be difficult but it seems to help.
My mom experienced the same problem as me as the being 'allergic' to my fathers seamen (TMI again, sorry) and she's been explaining this to since I was a child. So I know it's not an STD, and I get checked every year with the doctor.
And it's not like it's new, it's actually been like this for quite a few years, and only in a specific time, like I notice near my periods, I am more likely to feel burning, or uncomfortable feeling when it is inside of me. I will double check with the doctor, but I think it has to do with acidity levels and such.
With sex, I just started BCP three months ago. Before that, I haven't been on birth control since I was 16. I totally feel like everyone else when it comes to a low sex drive.
I feel better to know that others are like that. Especially Xtori to know that you are so young like me, and feel the same as me.
I really thought it was something I did. I feel bad I don't wanna have sex all the time. But knowing that you all have similar feelings makes me feel better!
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I feel better to know that others are like that. Especially Xtori to know that you are so young like me, and feel the same as me.
Another thing could be that most women dont peak sexually until they're in their 30s...I am nearing 30 and definitely notice a difference now versus when I was in my early 20s....
I have like, zero sex drive. None whatsoever. It wouldn't bother me if I never had sex again, at least not with my husband. That being said, we're also struggling with relationship issues right now, so that's probably part of it for me. It's difficult to have sex when you're sleeping on the couch, like I am (yeah, I know, his a** should be on the couch, not mine!).
In an effort to save my marriage, I brought it up to my doctor a few weeks ago, and do you know what she said to me? "First, let's work on your depression, anxiety and exhaustion issues...then we can move on to your sex drive!" So...sigh...I haven't found an easy answer. Just wanted to say that I totally relate!
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I have like, zero sex drive. None whatsoever. It wouldn't bother me if I never had sex again, at least not with my husband. That being said, we're also struggling with relationship issues right now, so that's probably part of it for me. It's difficult to have sex when you're sleeping on the couch, like I am (yeah, I know, his a** should be on the couch, not mine!).
In an effort to save my marriage, I brought it up to my doctor a few weeks ago, and do you know what she said to me? "First, let's work on your depression, anxiety and exhaustion issues...then we can move on to your sex drive!" So...sigh...I haven't found an easy answer. Just wanted to say that I totally relate!
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Do you think your lack of sex drive has anything to do with you and dh's problems? Sex just as much a mental act as it is physical--well atleast thats how I see it, I may be wrong...But my experiences when me and my ex broke up, I was soooooo disgusted in men period (i know, not right to blame the next man for what the last man did) i had no desire to deal with one let alone sleep with one...I jus was just turned off completely by men...Took me 10 months to work past that...
i'm the same way i'm 22 and i've been with my boyfriend for 2 yrs (i dont see how he stands me) but i just never have the urge now and then yes i get those urges but its never for long....maybe because there is so much pain with it, I dont experience the burns from the seamen but i do get cuts now and then from dryness and that really burns. but i dont believe its the meds, i dont use any so i cant say its that. it has to be the PCOS.
up untill about 4 months ago i had no sex drive but i had to have "timed" sex as we are ttc, ever since one month i started using preseed, and had sex more than usual.. i have just wanted it more...its weird, i feel like the more i have it, the more i want it. and also, it might work aswell if u try making yourself feel sexy, whether you dress up, or get your hair done ect... if you feel sexy your more likly to be in the sexy mood...
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It's strange because for me, BCPs are causing extreme dryness. I also have self-esteem issues and other problems, which are definitely not conducive to a great sex life. I wish BCPs weren't such a pain in the you know what (and I don't mean a*s!).
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