Thread: Do not rescusitate order has been issued

I'm so sorry for your loss and for the upcoming loss of your neice.

Personally, I don't think there is ever a "best" time to lose a child. It hurts whether you are barely pregnant or if your child lived after birth. No one should have to experience the loss of a child, and the stupid comments made by others just makes the grieving parents feel worse.

Gosh, this week has been terrible! I've heard from so many women who are going through losses and it breaks my heart. To me it doesn't matter whether your baby took a breath or not - it's a loss all the same and we grieve all the same. My heart breaks for you as you go through yet another terrible family loss. You must be going through so many emotions with being upset over your niece and happy for the impending birth of your little one.
I wish you all the best and I'm happy and sad for you all at once - G/L.

Kim, I'm so sorry about your niece, but I'm very glad that your SIL will have you to comfort her. You'll know everything she's feeling, unfortunately.

My stitch removal was AWFUL, but my cervix was fully infected. I do remember thinking, after it was over, that it wasn't as bad as it could have been. And the docs all said that it was as bad as it was because of the infection. So I wouldn't worry too much!

Adrianne, everything you wrote, I've felt a thousand times. I did get to hear Rivi cry his first cry. And his goodbye squeak broke my heart into so many pieces that I know it will never be whole again. But, as you said, I wouldn't trade any of it for anything in the world.

I'm just having a sad day.

Thanks everybody...well, shes gone, poor baby... Just got the call. My two kids are there visiting their grandparents and the first thing my dsd said was 'she's with aimee and dana now mom...they'll take care of her..." They will go to the funeral...i had to remind my son to 'behave' himself hes only 5 but i said remember how sad we were and how aunt and uncle need you to be strong for them...basically i was telling him to not poke people and tell them they were getting a flue shot like he did with us and our visitors at the girls memorial...i know its hard for someone so young to really understand the memorial 'etiquette' but i'm sure he understands the sadness...thats sad in itself for a 5 year old...



So i called my sil...i kind of wimped out and responded to her machine as opposed to face to face cuz i dont how she'd cope so soon...my mil said they are both wiped out and extremely tired...so i want her to be able to talk when she's up to it...i just hope thats not tacky. and of course my message might not have gone through cuz i screwed it up so i had to do it twice...my voice was shaking and i was losing control but i held it together somehow...at least she can call me when and if she's capable.

Anyway thanks for all your well wishes...and i just want to say that if anyone ever contemplates getting a cerclage for a next pregnancy...DO IT!!! I had mine taken out today...he showed it to me...i CANNOT believe that little thing saved my pregnancy...if i had had that with my girls who knows what would have happened...i think thats whats so hard to contemplate right now...but i just cant go there its just so weird that so many things happen on the same day... here we are just like i said grieving one baby while anticipating another...

anyway...i'm thinking of all our angels tonight...they have a new friend...sighhhhhhh

{{{{HUGS}}}} I just don't know what to say.... I'm sure your family felt the same way when you lost your girls that they were grieving 2 babies while anticipating 2 more.

{{{{HUGS}}}} again
Traci

Oh Kim, that just breaks my heart. My thoughts are with your SIL and the whole family. I can't imagine losing my little girl - it's just too overwhelming to even contemplate. I know your angels will take good care of her. May peace be with you all.

Glad your cerclage came out with no hitches. I may need one next pg as my cervix was dilating by the end of the 2nd trimester, so I'm glad you shared your expereince with us.

May your niece and your little angels RIP.

((((hugs))))

Kwannabee-I'm so sorry. I've been checking back to get an update. Your dsd sounds like a smart, sensitive girl. A very thoughtful comment on her part. Hugs to you and your family.

My heart and prayers go out to the both of your families ((((hugs)))