Dauphine

I know some people may feel I'm being dramatic here but I really am beginning to think this. I can admit that I'm quite pretty but I feel hindered by all the hair on my body. I still have lots and lots of weight to lose (I'm over 200) but it doesn't bother me as much as the hair. I really really want to just be like all my friends and not hair to worry about hair on the sides of their face and chin, and hair on my chest and breasts. I have hair on my stomach and butt and back and I just can't keep it under control. It's because of this that I keep guys in my life away. I'm 21 and I'm a virgin and it's not because I've never had the chance, I have plenty of times, it's just because I feel so embarrassed by how hairy I am I can't imagine letting a guy see my naked body.
Is there anybody else that feels this way? If so what did you do about it?

*In the title it should be your, sorry!

Stargirl

Well Dauphine, I go through the same thing I have facial hair and i cant stay over with friends or family without feeling so selfconscious. Every morning I have to pluck or shave it makes me angry that i cant be like everyone else "normal". It is a very hard thing to deal with but you will find your own ways to deal with it as I have. I use veet for excess body hair. it works!

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joyblack

It's not the hair that will keep most of the guys away -- most guys are just fine about it.

I shave my face (men's-type electric razor) and leave the rest.

ohlawdy

sometimes i feel like it's messing up my life, too.

i'm just very careful to keep it maintained...maybe when we're older and less insecure we won't care so much? (i'm 21, too)

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a16630

My experience is that most guys are not fine with it. I live in the south and all the men I meet are turned off by the facial hair. And yes my life would have turned out very differently had I not developed the facial hair. I am 40 something and finally got rid of the hair with laser, electrolysis, bcp, met. The chance that I will meet a great guy at my age is very unlikely. But my life is what it is and I've accepted that.

mary1

My life quality is influenced in a very negative way by facial hair,too. I've been plucking and shaving so much that my skin, my eyes and even my right hand are ruined ( a tendon is very inflamed because of years of plucking). I'm 47 now and otherwise good looking but this facial hair is driving me crazy. It's not true that with age one cares less about appearance. I have always cared about mine. I'm a teacher who has to appear in front of students every day and it is getting harder and harder to get rid of the hair and to hide the effects of different methods of hair removal. I would die of shame if some day a student commented about the fact that I have a beard.

My facial hair has never been worse than it is now that I am approaching menopause. I have a question to those who are about my age: is there a chance that facial hair growth will slow down a bit after you have gone through menopause?

joyblack

There may well be regional differences in this and I'm sure there are differences between individuals. And I certainly know that DH wasn't turned off by my moustache stubble when he first met me -- I hadn't shaved for 24 hours and the coarse black stubble was clearly obvious.

But what I meant was that most guys in my experience aren't turned off by the fact that a woman has the ability to grow facial hair. I was really thinking about the fact that quite a number of us here have husbands, boyfriends etc. who really aren't fazed by the fact that we shave. I don't know what they would all think if we all stopped shaving completely. In ordinary workaday life I don't go out in public with obvious moustache or beard growth, so the general public in our home area never see me with any obvious moustache or beard growth. If I let it grow when we're on vacation in the backwoods, then when we go to get provisions in one of the neighboring small towns people will certainly stare at me.

I'm glad you've been able to reach a satisfactory result now. There are great guys out there and I do hope you meet one. I find it easier to relate to guys now than I ever did when I was a teenager.The chances of me (I'm 54) being a beautiful woman are non-existent. However I reckon that I'm quite an attractive woman and the way that plenty of guys relate to me would seem to show that it's a fair comment.

joyblack

I have certainly found it very much easier as I've gotten older and more secure and confident.

The fact that I've got a DH and kids has helped enormously.

The fact that I've got a great sexual relationship with my DH has been very important in all this -- yes, I have as much moustache (and nowadays beard) growth as many men do, and though I've obviously-female nipples, my chest is practically flat, but I've also got a very high libido and so has he and we both know that we have a vastly better physical relationship than most couples. And we're still married after 32 years which is more than most couples!

And the fact that we've got kids has been important in building my confidence -- no-one can say I'm not a "proper" woman, because I've got the kids to prove I am functionally a woman.

And the fact that DH and the kids are totally accepting of the fact of my moustache and beard growth, not to mention other hair, has been very important too. The fact that I shave every morning, just as DH does, is just treated as normal in our house. And if someone calls at the door in the late evening, one of them will usually notice if my beard stubble is beginning to show and offer to answer the door for me so that I can slip upstairs for a couple of minutes to shave. If DH and our kids can accept my beard growth, why shouldn't I accept it myself?