Does anyone consantly worry about what others think?

Carrie76 · 01-03-2006, 08:29 PM

Hi there,
I have been on anti-depressents now for over a year. It has helped with my depression but one think I have really noticed that it has not helped at all with my paranoia. I feel like im always constantly worrying what people think of me and worried incase people don't like me. Im constantly trying to please people all the time and its beginning to get to me. Does anyone else ever feel like this? and if so how do you deal with it.

I would be so grateful for any advice

Carrie

linny loo · 01-03-2006, 08:34 PM

i do one thing i try to think is most people are to busy thinking about other things to be thinking bad thoughts about complete strangers i find it helps a bit jst thinking that and yes i am always trying to please people so i don't really have any advice about how to help

i'm sorry your finding it so hard *hugs* i think you could do with those

sorry my advice is not much good i mainly wanted you to know your not alone

good luck sweety

lyndsey

ps pm if you ever need anything

Carrie76 · 01-03-2006, 08:49 PM

Hi Lyndsey,
Thankyou so much for your reply, it has made me feel alot better. You are totally right, that is going to be my new year resolution to try and stop worrying so much

Take care Carrie

tomsqtee123 · 01-03-2006, 08:49 PM

Carrie,
I am the same way. I always worry about what other people think of me and if they look at me a certain way I am wondering if they are looking at me because I am fat and not as skinny as them. I am taking Lexapro for my anxiety problem but I still tend to worry alot. I really don't have much advice to give since I am going through that myself but I wanted you to know that you are not alone. (((hugs)))

nicole47 · 01-03-2006, 08:54 PM

I'm not important enough to other people for other people to spend lots of time paying attention to me, much less thinking about me (except people who think highly of me like my DH). Other people have their own issues to deal with.

Anyone who does look at me and think something negative without knowing me is very superficial and isn't worth worrying about. Who cares what losers think? I'm above that. Much more important to positively impact the lives of people who are worth it, and they're worth it because they care about every part of me, not just my exterior.

Hang in there!

Catwoman2005 · 01-04-2006, 06:12 AM

I go through the same thing... I always think that people are judging me... I am worling with a therapist, who is helping a TON!!!! Although I don't know if I can completely get over it as I was a figure skater for a long time and being involved with a sport that has a lot of judging, it kinda gets ground into your head, not mention the way I was picked on in school... But I am managing most of how I feel with my therapist...

Hang in there...

Bearcat · 01-04-2006, 06:19 AM

Are you doing meds alone or meds in conjunction with some sort of talk therapy? The pills are great to control the brain chemistry, but after a while I saw I that needed to learn new patterns of thought and better coping skills. The antidepressants took a back seat to talk therapy with a pro and I'd hope that route is open to you, as well.

demora · 01-04-2006, 05:07 PM

I am the same way. I always and have always worried about what other's thought of me and I always think if someone behind me is laughing, that they are laughing at me. I always get really upset when someone doesn't like me. I worked with a therapist and got at a better place with myself and now what other's think is less important then it was, but I find it creeping up every now and then.

I know it's hard, but I also know that I am a good person and if they don't like me for whatever reason - it's their loss not mine.

I hate going places where I don't know anyone - like parties or get togethers because I feel like everyone is looking down on me. My palms get all sweaty and I just try to blend in with the wall or the floor or something. I went to a yoga class last night and I almost didn't go in because of I didn't know a soul. It's so hard and something I have to work very hard to overcome.

Try not to let what other people think - or what YOU think others think of you - get you down.

Carrie76 · 01-05-2006, 12:19 PM

Hi there,
I just wanted to say thankyou to you all for your advice and kind words, it has helped me greatly. I think I might speak to my doctor the next time about going to some sort of therapist to see if that might help any.

Thanks again
Carrie

maycontainnuts · 01-05-2006, 11:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Carrie76

Hi there,
I have been on anti-depressents now for over a year. It has helped with my depression but one think I have really noticed that it has not helped at all with my paranoia. I feel like im always constantly worrying what people think of me and worried incase people don't like me. Im constantly trying to please people all the time and its beginning to get to me. Does anyone else ever feel like this? and if so how do you deal with it.

I would be so grateful for any advice

Carrie

Definitely tell your psychiatrist about that.

Naymarie · 01-10-2006, 05:48 PM

Hey! I too always worry about what other people think about me. I have been on prozac for my depression and anxiety; but it only seems to be working for the first part. It bothers me to go into anywhere that is busy because I feel like people are judging me by what I wear and how I look! I do have my good days though when it isn't so bad. So for the new year for all of us lets hope that we have more good days!!

01-10-2006, 06:20 PM

Hello!

Once on Ricki Lake (ssh!!) she said "if you hear someone laughing on the street, do you automatically think its about you?" and I was thinking -well yes of course, and she was saying - don't you realise it could be about anything, someone could have just done a fart! or they are thinking about something that happened to them last night. This really made me realise that people aren't all too worried about judging new people they meet and forming bad opinions on people....... (though obv some are but they are not worth worrying about)

on another tv programme about a makeover - the advice was "stop worrying about what other people think of you, and start considering what you think of other people."

I know I haven't put my point across as well as I'd hoped as I am just rambling, but I hope you can translate a bit of what I'm saying into common sense which may help you.