Melvin'sWifey

PCOS deals with a lot of hormonal imbalance, so I don't see how it COULDN'T affect our personality, mood, life, etc. If I was the same exact person who'd lived the same exactly life WITHOUT the PCOS, I'm willing to bet I'd have a totally different personality and probably not be so *****y sometimes. Ha!

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JourneykLa

I was a total witch before I had hormonal intervention. My first husband could not even look at me. I feel badly about the way I treated him, but it was like I was powerless to control it. We divorced and it was due to my moods. He could not stand being around me. I did not like myself either. Anyway, I got divorced and went on BC and spironolactone. Then I went on a diet and lost 186 pounds. I'm a totally different person. So mellow and calm. Nothing ruffles me. Not to mention that my periods are back in check all on their own now that I lost weight. Losing the weight really helped me get my hormones and body functions back in check. Me and my second husband get along so well it amazes me. Now last month I took Clomid and I don't know if it worked yet. Should know sometime next week. I hope I don't have to take it again, because I was so witchy about a week and a half after I took it I felt like I was going out of control again. Things are calming down for me again and I'm going back to my mellow self. I definitely know it made my moods swing hard. It's a horrible way to live.

Kelli

sallyn

i have to agree...before i got treatment and while my stupid testosterone was really high, i was really aggressive, confrontational, and always stressing about something. if it wasn't that, i was depressed over having gained weight without knowing why and it wasn't coming off no matter what i was doing it. then, i also hated myself for my fantastic facial/body hair that would make werewolf look bald. anyways, i think this had a huge impact on the relationship i was in too and we ultimately broke up. (i'm still unhappy about that, lol, i wish he could realize it was pcos related, not "me"). just a few months later, i began treatment and sometimes i feel like myself. but other times, i am still moody and get depressed that i have this wonderful disorder, lol. for a little while in the last few months, i did stop taking my meds and i noticed i was getting angry/aggressive and ready to kick @$$ much more so than usual again. so, yeah, i really think the disorder changes who we are. i don't like it, lol. thanks for starting this thread, it makes me feel a little bit more normalized with this.

shakey

Hi,
I don't think its effected my personality much but my mood swings are mental, just today i was on the phone to my Dad to ask him to pick something up for me and he said he couldn't because it wouldn't fit into his car which by any 'normal' persons standards this would be ok but not me, I completely flew off the handle at him and had to hang up because i knew i was going to say something really nasty and regret it and as soon as i put the phone down i burst into tears but not just any 'normal' tears full on uncontrolable tears, i had to get my mum to come round and calm me down and within 15mins i was fine you would have never thought that i was an emotional wreck 20mins previously. arghhhhhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!

Sweetface

Yes. Very aggressive in relationships and dating. If I dated someone and was in a relationship I wanted to call the shots which men are geared to do. It was like a fight for control and I couldn't figure out why I was doing it. My friends without hormonal issues had no problem giving advice to how I should be but it did not register because hormones change your mental structure and how you even understand things and how you feel. So, after I went on Met the first time, all of a sudden I was feeling feminine again and men were pursuing me right and left and basically, I was emitting a different energy and I can't say its a personality thing, but my emotions were calm, mellow and quiet and I was very well thought out. But then I went off Met because I lose insurance and it made me sick, and then I moved to the country where there is no stress like a city and I got hot flashes, but no emotional disturbance, just high arousal at times. I thought it was because I was relaxed finally and could feel a libido, but it wasn't, it was the testosterone climbing back up. Then just in the last 8 weeks I became miss clingy, *****y and severly compulsive *****y woman and my boyfriend headed for the hills and thanks to my friend, it hit me. I needed to go back on Metformin. Really, I could not believe the emotional loop I was in over him leaving, but it wasn't anything I could stop. So I went back on Metformin and within 3-4 days I'm mellow, although my family told me today that I say NO too much now. Every question they asked me was answered with a No. I'm not wanting for much right now. The Metformin has really changed my emotions and behavior so quickly and really I'm grateful. Now, if the boyfriend would just come back and believe me that it really is the hormones and that I am not a psycho case. It's really hard to tell someone "No really! This is not me at all!" especially when you can't control it until your on Met.

I'm one of those people that prides myself on balance in the past so it's very embarrassing to even admit I have severe swings like this without medicine. I have a healthy respect for hormones now. They control so much, much more than I ever realized. If a woman has no hormonal disorder, she takes it for granted, like I did. She can't possibly know what it's like to not feel in control of the emotions. I didn't until I had this.

I don't have hair on my face or anything masculine about me except aggressiveness and a tendancy to argue or prove something which are masculine traits. When on medicine, I'm docile, could care less about arguing because I take nothing personal and I could care less about proving anything. What a difference Met makes...

Glenys

I get really bad PMT (or PMS whatever you want to call it) so that every month there has to be this HUGE fight with my partner to the point that we're talking divorce-wish-we'd-never-met-wrecked -each-others-life etc. At these times I also get these desperate suicidal feelings so that I have to literally force myself to stay put for fear I'll do something bad to myself (although the worst I've done in the past is bang my head repeatedly against a wall). Also I have tended to either go running to friends or phone someone up spouting my woes and making my life and situation seem pretty dire which has backfired in relationships with these people. It took my husband and I ten years of this to realise that the worst times and fights we've had most probably have been caused by PMT/PMS but we haven't managed to find a solution to it, anything to help me. Knowing what causes it helps to a degree and I know when I start to think irationally and everything goes wrong (my cooking, which isn't my strong point, goes completely wrong at these times too) what is up but how to stop??? I am on Met and daily take Vit B Complex, Folic Acid (I'm also trying to concieve, but pity any child born into this!), and Multi Vits. Any suggestions??

Gwenneh

I am absolutely a different person since starting treatment for my PCOS. My moods are much more stable, and I am much calmer, particularly in dealings with my husband! I used to snap at him quite a bit; now things are MUCH more stable. He's such a saint for putting up with me!

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Sweetface

I feel so bad for you, poor girl - and hubby too. 10 years is a good amount of time for a man to stick around to those types of emotions. Are you on medicine? If you are not up to 2000mgs of Met, you might want to talk wiht your doctor about increasing your dose. Go to a specialist, endocrinologist as they read levels differently than an MD. I was going thru major melt downs over any perceived hurt and so I totally get it. And also, female freinds are supposed to understand but unless they have a hormonal disorder they will never ever understand. It's not just PMS. It's PMS times 10. I told my sister I was compulsively commuicating to my BF and he wanted a break and I got whacked! She said, "Honey, all you have to do is stop and he'll be back." I said, "But I can't stop when hurt and not on Met, I CAN NOT STOP!!!" she said "Oh." And women friends get pissed when you don't take their advice either.

But I am very happy to say now that Metformin lowers the testosterone big time for me, so I'm normal now, except I have no desire for sex. I'm sure all the men will come chasing me now that I don't want it! Why does it always work that way?

Really, not to get off topic, but how much Metformin are you on?

Glenys

I'm on 500mg Met 3 times a day. I'm in the UK and on the Isle of Wight so finding a specialist is difficult (I only got Met because I went to a fertility specialist 1 1/2 hours away and paid a fortune to have tests I should have already had on the island to tell me what I already knew (the specialist on the island wouldn't even consider I had PCOS!!) so my hopes of getting the dosage upped are slim!