(I guess this is directed more at Tim, but is an open letter so I can ramble....my special talent)
Lighten up dudes!!!! LOL
I'm almost sorry I posted on this forum because I cannot stand confrontations. But, when I asked the sensitive fat wife & sex drive question, I wanted down right nitty gritty honesty. And that's what I got. If every man who responded said that it never ever effected them....I would think you all were full of doo-doo! I even thanked the gentlemen for their sincere candor. My hubby's stray ear or back hair bugs me sometimes. But I don't love him any less for it. Being turned off by something doesn't mean you love him/her any less. I couldn't love my DH any more! Sex doesn't equal love, skinny or hairless doesn't equal beauty. Blah blah blah. Don't patronize me or start playing violins by telling me what you think I want to hear. We have PCOS, we're not fragile demure little creatures who need a knight in shining armour to kiss our tears away. While I crave more personal attention...I'm not foo-foo. I'll kill my own bugs, thank you. LOL
I just wanted to know why this and why that, because I've never met a guy like my hubby before. I'm hornier than most gals and hairy-er too....and I'm not the most secure chick in the world, but that's my nature. So let me ask and say what I want, and let the guys answer and say what they want. Not being honest is downright wrong. Don't pad the truth....I'm not that kind of chick.
Honestly, I was only half joking about being 2nd wife, next to DH's TV...that is one of our "issues". (But then again, I'm addicted to the puter LOL) Sure, I agree it is sad that I feel that way (like a fly on the wall sometimes). I do want more one-on-one attention from DH, but most gals do!!! But I didn't mean for that comment to be taken so seriously. Any of you that know me well, by my other posts...know I love to joke around, especially about myself. But I hate the TV and yes, sometimes I resent it. But hello? Who DOESn't have issues in their marriage?? I'm one extreme and he's the other. In fact, most of our issues are not PCOS related nor do we talk that much about PCOS. And in a way, I'm darn glad. I don't want to be bogged down or obsessed any more than I am with this stupid condition. And you know what? Life goes on with and in spite of PCOS. And if my hubby treated me like it WAS a huge deal and dwelt on it all the time....do you know how depressing that would be? Yes, it's important, but it is NOT our entire life. Let it be my job to obsess. I'm good at that! LOL We have to simply deal with it and get on with our lives. Fat, skinny, hairy, smooth, children, child-free....
Also, I'm glad my hubby's NOT on this site, because I hae spread our lives out like an open book and give way more details than I probably should. But that's just me. And if he joined, I would be embarassed for sharing what I do, wouldn't get the feedback from you guys like I want/need, and I'd have to be on my best behavior. What fun would that be? haha
While I do appreciate you, Tim, feeling bad for me...I can fight my own battles. I'm sorry I stirred things up and set off a domino effect. But, on a positive note, it sure got you guys to talking! This forum was getting boring.
All of you guys on this site are highly supportive. I could not ask for more from my 'brothers'. If you want me to leave this forum, I'll be glad, too. Because if I stay, I'm gonna ask some tough questions, and I damn well better get stark honest responses or I'm gonna nag and whine. We women are good at that, ya know...
I'm sorry I quoted you Robin- I just thought your little tv comment was cute- I took it as a joke...and I wanted to explain that to Tim. I should have stayed out of this.
I think I am going to stick to being a lurker more than a poster in this forum from now on. I don't want to start trouble.
Aimee
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I'm trying to diffuse the tension that I inadvertantly stirred up. I confused Tim who found some things I said disturbing and I feel bad for all this to get blown up, because I think my comments were the straw that broke the camels back.
Everyone has a right to feel what they feel, but I do think how you say something is extremely important. I'm not harping on Tim, fussing at him, or *****ing. If you can't see I'm reaching out to Tim (and everyone else involved) then what can I say? I tried! I'm not fussing or *****ing at anyone...just trying to make everyone understand all the points I've made lately with my sensitive questions, etc.
I'm trying to be a peace keeper. I don't think anyone here WANTED to piss anyone off or hurt anyone's feelings. I'd like to think everyone has good intentions.
(maybe I should go watch TV with my husband and let this work itself out. I'm obviously floundering here)
Robin
Robin, don't take it personal. It's very hard for some people to distinguish things over the computer. Instead of thinking first I think they just take things at "face value" and post right away.
((((HUGS)))))
I feel ya about being addicted to the PC too!!! LOL
Thank you for your obviously random insult at "some people who don't think, take things are face value, and post right away."
While you might think I'm rude, that's fine - as several people who have come to my defense on this board have said, people are entitled to their own opinion and whether Robin was joking (half-joking, as she said, which entitles half-truth), I'm entitled to take what I want from a post, as well.
If you don't like what I have to say, just don't read it and then these flame wars wouldn't ever start.
- Tim
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Very well said. If a perons isn't going to be honest on here then why bother being here and posting. What's the saying, "Honesty is the best policy" Just because opinions differ doesn't mean one person is necessarily right or wrong. Just agree to disagree and leave it at that.
Robin, maybe instead of a negligee you could find a shirt with a picture of a t.v. on it and ask your hubby to come turn you on?? (I am kidding, I hope you take it that way) LOL..!
And one more very important thing... Robin, would you kill my bugs for me? They grow 'em 10 times bigger here in the south. Piture a cockroach the size of a mans thumb that flies!!!!!! (called a palmetto bug) ick!!
LOL, the t-shirt idea is a good one!!! I bet that would work! hahaha
I live in Florida, where palmetto bugs come from! Those aren't bugs....those are aliens from another planet. I have a phobia of those, actually....can't help ya kill those. hehe
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I agree that honesty should be at 100% on this board. Too many people on here are uncomfortable about posting their true feelings. I say if you feel strongly about something and want to post it so be it. Its a message board, you have the right to say anything you want and if people dont like it, look the other way.
I love honest opinions even if I dont care for the response, I get enough bull**** at work
BTW(nothing against you torie) but I personally dont see the difference in one of your first posts being negative or your 3000 post. Its not like its an elite club and your only allowed to express negative opinions after you have been a member for awhile, its a message board.
Auty I realize that but there is this thing called "first impressions" and it's just that.
If you post 2999 times and your 3000th post is rude, people will have already seen your true side and know that your not always negative or that you speak your mind, etc.
However, if your 1st post is rude, how are we to know what kind of person you are going to be when you start out so negative and how does it make you look?
That's all I was saying, I should have been more specific.
Don't fight over what I said, please! 
I'm sorry 
Golf clap for Robin! 
