dx:missed abortion 10/16...what's next?

Loralyn · 10-20-2003, 01:19 PM

My first u/s on 10/8 showed only a "sac".

My second u/s on 10/16...the "sac" got smaller and no hb.
DX:missed abortion.

My RE said to call them as soon as I start bleeding and if I get tired of waiting he will schedule a d&c.

I just don't know what to expect next. Will it be painful to misscarry on my own? Will I need to go to the hospital? Should I schedule the d&c or just let it happen naturally?

I am really scared.

Any advice...or share your experience.

Thanks.

Lory

Brandy B · 10-20-2003, 01:50 PM

Oh Lory, many, many hugs to you. You were due one day before me and this makes me want to comfort you even more. I am so sorry this is happening to you and your family. I can't tell you what you should do. It's a personal choice only you and you dh can make. I went through something similar. Our first u/s @ 5w6d was right on schedule. Our second u/s @ 7w3d showed a tiny miracle w/ a heartbeat but w/ growth that was a week behind. The hb was only at 85bpm when it should have been well over 100 by then. We were told that our little one was dying and to expect that by the next u/s a week later that this would be the case. Our next u/s confirmed the worse, our miracle had died between 7.5 & 8.5 weeks. I was also given the choice to wait and m/c naturally or schedule a D&C. I didn't want a D&C and decided to wait. The RE gave me 10 days to m/c on my own before she wanted me to call and schdule a D&C. Ten days came and went. No m/c. I did the only thing I could do and schduled the procedure. By the time the day came around I was 11w and had started to spot and cramp the day before. I could have waited as this is what I had wanted all along, but it had been almost 3 weeks since we found out our miracle was gone and I just wanted this all to be over. So last Thursday I had the D&C w/ my dh by my side. It wasn't pleasant either way but I'm glad that it is done. The emotional pain hasn't stopped and I don't know if it ever will. I pray that you come to the decision that is right for you. It's a difficult one. Please know that I'm thinking of you and pm me if you would like to talk further.
Many hugs & much love...
BB

jbds · 10-24-2003, 08:04 PM

I had my third mc on 10/09/03. My first mc I did not know I was pregnant until I actually mc. With my second my beta was so incredibly low that they said it would never grow. I waited about three weeks and then bled for 23 days. With my most recent mc I was about 6 weeks or so and decided to have the d&c because I could not wait for it to happen on its own. Either way it's painful emotionally. But, I have to say that I had more discomfort with the d&c, however it may have been because it had been twins and my lining was much thicker than it had ever been. It took about two weeks to get back to normal, physically. I really wish we didn't have to suffer through this. At least the women here know how it is for us.

JBDS

Loralyn · 10-30-2003, 11:24 PM

Thank you guys for your support.

It finally happened on 10/28. It started with very heavy cramping. I called the nurse on call, she called in a prescription, but by the time DH got back from the pharmacy with it I had been vomiting from the pain so he took me to the ER.

I was given morphine and toradol and phenergan for vomiting. The cramping lasted for several hours but finally went away.

I passed tissue about 18 hours later at home.

It was the worst thing in my life. I do not see how you guys go through this time after time. Right now I am not sure I ever want to TTC again...maybe I'll feel different in time?

Thanks for listening.

Lory

Katia · 10-31-2003, 08:33 AM

Lory, I am so sorry that you had to go through this. I am in a similar situation. I had some bad news on Wednesday, and I am now bracing myself for the worst. This is the most awful feeling in the world, knowing that it's going to happen, and that there's nothing I can do about it.

Brandy B · 10-31-2003, 10:56 AM

Many hugs, Sweetie, and much love...
Give yourself some time to heal...
Thinking of you...

BB