easy pregnancy????

ChantelleC · 01-08-2008, 04:59 PM

How many of you found it easier to get pregnant after your pregnancy or loss? Did you find everything started to balance it's self or are you just more fertile?

Fleegle4 · 01-08-2008, 05:48 PM

I found it easy to get pregnant after my miscarriage (first time out of the gate six weeks later), which I had read might happen if you tried in the first two cycles. I don't think they know why exactly.

As for an easy pregnancy..... well, I started to efface at about 22 weeks, had regular contractions at 23 weeks, and after they were able to stop those, I've been on bedrest until at 32 weeks they said I could drive and "move around more". I'm almost at 33 weeks now, so we'll see how much longer he stays in here. I've been on progesterone shots since week 22, and they will go until week 35. My problem wasn't an incompetent cervix, and they're not sure what it was. I did have a fibroid degenerate and get painful right when I had the pre-term labor episode, so they think it might be "irritable uterus".

StormsDreams · 01-08-2008, 07:08 PM

I still required fertility treatments after my loss...and i agree with fleegle....
my current pregnancy has not been easy at all............at all...

ChantelleC · 01-08-2008, 07:27 PM

my loss wasn't due to anything with the uterus i think it was just one of those things. how did you tell you where in early labor

ChantelleC · 01-08-2008, 07:28 PM

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Originally Posted by StormsDreams

I still required fertility treatments after my loss...and i agree with fleegle....
my current pregnancy has not been easy at all............at all...

If you don't mind me asking why has yours not been so easy? is this common?

Fleegle4 · 01-08-2008, 08:43 PM

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Originally Posted by ChantelleC

my loss wasn't due to anything with the uterus i think it was just one of those things. how did you tell you where in early labor

Scary part -- I didn't. The week before, I had had a bout of a few painless contractions at night, so I called the doctor. He asked if I could sleep through them (yes), so I went in in the morning, and he found that I was 50% effaced. There was no further contraction, so he started me on the progesterone shots.

A week later, when it was time for my shots, I had started to develop a pain in one spot in my uterus. I could feel a hard spot there, and I thought it was a foot or something. I went to the doctor, and she said it was my fibroid. I asked her for Advil, and she said that if I needed pain management, I had to go to Labor and Delivery so they could hook me up to a fetal monitor to see what's going on. I said "oh, I don't feel that bad" and went home. About two hours later I decided to go, because I really wanted an Advil to stop the pain, which was constant.

When I got to L&D, they hook me up to all the monitors. I'm watching these peaks and valleys on the screen, but I'm not feeling them at all -- just a constant dull ache. The nurse comes over and says "you're not making me happy, you've got a better contraction pattern down than these ladies here to give birth". So they start giving me terbutaline to slow down the contractions, and at some point they gave me something for the pain. Once the dull ache was gone, I could feel when the uterus was contracting and then I could see what the monitor was picking up, but it didn't hurt. The terbutaline didn't work all the way, so they admitted me to administer what they called a last-ditch effort to save the baby. (The doctor said "if this doesn't work, there's nothing left to do") Ironically, it was a massive course of intravenous muscle relaxants (basically just a LOT of Advil, which I'd been asking for all day), administered every six hours for two days. That worked to both calm down the uterus, and probably, we think, shrink the dying fibroid enough that it hasn't given me any problems since then. Our best guess is that the degenerating fibroid was irritating the uterus so much that it was causing it to contract. Once we calmed down both the uterus and the fibroid, it's been okay since then. Except for the bedrest and not working, of course.

I had told the L&D nurse that I thought these were just Braxton-Hicks contractions, and she said "we hate that term. You have any kind of regular contractions, you come in". So I've been 50% effaced for at least 11 weeks now, my cervix shortening got somewhat better over time (it had gotten as low as 2.1-2.7 cm, over time it's now 3.3-3.8, which is considered normal for 32 weeks, and they're much nicer to me now), and we've all just decided that a short soft cervix is my "normal" now.

So labor, especially early labor, won't always be fireworks and painful. It may just be "feeling weird". But if I remember your case, you were in the second trimester when you lost your baby. You should be labelled high-risk with another pregnancy, and they'll check you out more often and more thoroughly.

StormsDreams · 01-08-2008, 08:46 PM

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Originally Posted by ChantelleC

If you don't mind me asking why has yours not been so easy? is this common?

I had bleeding from day one...a large bleeding episode at week 9 (sub choronic hematoma), i had an abdmonical cerclage placed at week 12 (recovery took about 2-3 weeks), i have diabetes, have been to the doctors at least once a week since being pregnant and am now up to three times a week...
Clearly i am high risk and not your average pregnant lady! SO its not common at all!
WIshing you well!

ChantelleC · 01-08-2008, 09:46 PM

Well when ever it happens next i really hope they take better care and watch whats going on more. i just wish i knew what my body was doing half the time. I really hope all goes as well as it can for those who are pregnant best of luck

uwalcott · 01-09-2008, 02:57 AM

Unfortunately I have found it much harder to get pregnant since my loss in August. Also it didn't get any easier after giving birth to DD. I guess it's different for everybody.

SweetPea76 · 01-09-2008, 11:19 AM

I have found that it is much easier for me to get pg after a loss. I lost my first pg (12 months of trying) at 11 weeks. First full cycle after the m/c I got pg and 9 months later had my son (not an easy pg, but that had nothing to do with the loss). My third pg (10 months of trying) ended in m/c at 6 weeks, and once again I got pg the first full cycle after the m/c. 9 months later I had my daughter. My docs have said that since my hormone levels are wacky, I probably need to lose a pg each time before I can carry to term. That the failed pg "normalizes" my body and prepares it for a healthy pg.

uwalcott · 01-09-2008, 03:48 PM

That is interesting. I never really thought of it like that, that a failed pg could normalize hormones and prepare the body to carry a baby full term. I don't think it's that way with me however-- but then again, my loss was caused by a chromosomal abnormality in the baby not because I have any problems carrying (at least that I know about). It's scary to think I might have some problems I don't know about yet because the genetic issues have hidden them from me.

Miracle07 · 01-09-2008, 06:16 PM

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Originally Posted by SweetPea76

I have found that it is much easier for me to get pg after a loss. I lost my first pg (12 months of trying) at 11 weeks. First full cycle after the m/c I got pg and 9 months later had my son (not an easy pg, but that had nothing to do with the loss). My third pg (10 months of trying) ended in m/c at 6 weeks, and once again I got pg the first full cycle after the m/c. 9 months later I had my daughter. My docs have said that since my hormone levels are wacky, I probably need to lose a pg each time before I can carry to term. That the failed pg "normalizes" my body and prepares it for a healthy pg.

This is very similar to my situation. I got preg with DS right after having a m/c.

wahoo96 · 01-09-2008, 08:29 PM

I'm glad to hear so many ladies have had success immediately after losses. Right now my m/c is so recent (12/20) and I'm so emotionally raw I'm not 100% sure I'm ready to try but if I do it would be so wonderful to have a easy, fast chance of conception.

ChantelleC · 01-09-2008, 10:03 PM

you lost your baby the same day as me hun. I really hope your doing better, well as best as you can at this point. if you need to talk i'm here for ya

katiekeen · 01-09-2008, 10:10 PM

I've been trying for two years since my miscarriage without any success at all