I don't think you've any reason to feel so abnormal.
It's most probably that your high testosterone levels stopped your labia from developing much at puberty, but as you're aware from other posts, it's also given you the ability to orgasm readily and even to ejaculate.
Your clitoris doesn't look all that large, though it's hard to see how long it is -- it looks as if it's just the glans that's showing and that it's uncovered.
Your DH clearly enjoys the ability you have not just to orgasm but to ejaculate. You have everything that's necessary there and it's neat. I'd say you should just enjoy having what's a particularly tidy arrangement :-)
Thanks Joy! Its nice to hear that from a woman.. I mean, men pretty much like everything they see, provided it isn't too crazy looking, so I never really believed I was normal.. but hearing it from another point of view makes sense. I guess we always kind of want what we don't have? I have heard others complain about big labia minora, and here I am wanting to having larger lips!
I don't really think my clitoris is that big but it is really hard to compare, considering most have a clitoral hood that covers a big part of it.
I really need to be thankful.. you are right, I should be proud of my "neat" arrangement and the ability to have really great orgasms. Thanks again, your posts have really helped me out
Sorry for posting these directly to the site, but I couldn't link them because they are set to private on my flickr website, so this is the only way to display them.
I don't have PCOS, but it runs in my family and I suspect that I have higher than normal testerone levels. Also, I've noticed that my clit is larger than normal (normal is said to be 5mm or less) and has been growing more the further I progress into my 20's (I'm 23 now).
Mine is 9mm long and 6mm wide.
Well, now that you've posted pix there are just a few points that I think could be made
* You've got a well-developed clitoris, but it's not enormous. The most obvious thing about it is that the hood is well separated and there seems to be an obvious indication of where the urethra would have run to the end of it, had it been penile, which it isn't.
* You've well-developed inner labia
* Your outer labia don't seem to be very highly developed
* Your vagina proper seems well-developed
* Your pelvis seems to have "rotated" in the typical female manner so that the top of your labia terminate between your legs, rather than in front of your legs as is common before puberty.
In short, I don't think there's anything that most doctors would comment on as extraordinary.
Well, now that you've posted pix there are just a few points that I think could be made
* You've got a well-developed clitoris, but it's not enormous. The most obvious thing about it is that the hood is well separated and there seems to be an obvious indication of where the urethra would have run to the end of it, had it been penile, which it isn't.
* You've well-developed inner labia
* Your outer labia don't seem to be very highly developed
* Your vagina proper seems well-developed
* Your pelvis seems to have "rotated" in the typical female manner so that the top of your labia terminate between your legs, rather than in front of your legs as is common before puberty.
In short, I don't think there's anything that most doctors would comment on as extraordinary.
Thanks so much for the reply. I've actually brought this concern up to a Dr. before, and she said there is a huge range of size that is considered "normal" and that mine was completely normal.
I guess what wigs me out the most is that I'm definitely large on the normal scale and although it's never been brought up by Dr.'s (unless I mention it), it has been brought up multiple times by an ex boyfriend. My current boyfriend seems to like it though.
I mean, men pretty much like everything they see, provided it isn't too crazy looking, so I never really believed I was normal.. but hearing it from another point of view makes sense.
I think men will be happy as long as there's an appropriate opening there and they'll be happier still if there's a clitoris they can play with.
However, I think you (and I) have got much more than most women in the sense that we can orgasm readily and even ejaculate. Now, of course that comes about because of high testosterone levels over a lifetime, but it means that relations with DH can be far more physically pleasing than a "normal" woman could have. And that applies to both him and me, in our case. I need that ejaculation before I can get to sleep at night and if he's away I've got to stimulate myself, but it's not remotely as satisfying as vaginal orgasm achieves.
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I guess we always kind of want what we don't have? I have heard others complain about big labia minora, and here I am wanting to having larger lips!
I've reached the conclusion that it's not really a question so much of what we have, but of what we do with whatever we have.
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I don't really think my clitoris is that big but it is really hard to compare, considering most have a clitoral hood that covers a big part of it.
Looking at the photo again I think that if the skin around it weren't holding it in so tightly it would come out further.
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I really need to be thankful.. you are right, I should be proud of my "neat" arrangement and the ability to have really great orgasms.
It's really neat, and not only does what you've got work in terms of your guy being able to "get in" but you can even ejaculate. That gives you the possibility of developing a fantastic relationship with him, if my experience is anything to go by. And it's more fulfilling the relationship gets as you learn how to satisfy each other more and more completely. To reach ejaculation together is a mind-blowing experience and physically fantastic.
Thanks so much for the reply. I've actually brought this concern up to a Dr. before, and she said there is a huge range of size that is considered "normal" and that mine was completely normal.
I guess what wigs me out the most is that I'm definitely large on the normal scale and although it's never been brought up by Dr.'s (unless I mention it), it has been brought up multiple times by an ex boyfriend. My current boyfriend seems to like it though.
I don't think a doctor would consider it out of the ordinary. Probably the most a doctor would notice is that it's well-developed and the hood can clearly be retracted. A lot of women have never even tried to retract the hood and in many it adheres to the glans. My understanding is that most guys seem to go on the principle of "the bigger the better".
How on earth did you manage to take the pix? I've never worked out the mechanics of how to do that, even if I wanted to, which I don't :-)
Sorry for posting these directly to the site, but I couldn't link them because they are set to private on my flickr website, so this is the only way to display them.
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Your vagina looks quiet normal to me. Yes, your clitoris is a little on the large side, but not unattractively so in the slightest. Everything seems nicely developed. Like Joy pointed out, a big percentage of men take on "the bigger, the better" attitude so it is nothing to be ashamed of. Thanks for posting your picture It makes me feel better about posting my own and its nice to see variety! We are all different and unique, and that is a great thing. It makes me feel silly that I feel self-conscious sometimes.
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However, I think you (and I) have got much more than most women in the sense that we can orgasm readily and even ejaculate. Now, of course that comes about because of high testosterone levels over a lifetime, but it means that relations with DH can be far more physically pleasing than a "normal" woman could have. And that applies to both him and me, in our case. I need that ejaculation before I can get to sleep at night and if he's away I've got to stimulate myself, but it's not remotely as satisfying as vaginal orgasm achieves.
I completely agree. I have talked with a few of my friends about their sex lives and they say that they either can only orgasm by themselves or they have never had an orgasm at all. My jaw just hit the floor.. I couldn't believe it. I have been having orgasms since I can remember (and very frequently, up to 10 times a day!) I have also rarely had the problem of not being able to orgasm during sex (only when I am extremely tired).
My husband is very talented in bed, but he told me that his past gfs have had trouble orgasming and that he felt so self-conscious about it.. now that he is with me, he feels much better about himself. 95% of the time we have absolutely mind-blowing sex and I love it! My past partners, including my DH have loved that I am so enthusiastic, that I genuinely love sex, and that I can squirt. Those are things that I thankful for, despite having this syndrome which is horrible in so many different ways.
That is another thing I have noticed.. that for most women, they say that doing it themselves is more satisfying than having sex.. while I (and I believe you do too) find it much more pleasing to orgasm with a partner. It is frustrating to have to do the job if my DH is not around.. I would much rather have sex than masturbate. I do not always have to ejaculate to get to bed, but there are nights when I have to or else I will stay up all night!
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Looking at the photo again I think that if the skin around it weren't holding it in so tightly it would come out further.
You are right.. I see that as well. I think that is true. I have been told I have a big clit, but like I said, it has been hard to compare since most girls have a hood covering up a portion (or sometimes all) of their clitoris. My partner (or I) have never had trouble finding it, so it definitely isn't a bad thing
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It's really neat, and not only does what you've got work in terms of your guy being able to "get in" but you can even ejaculate. That gives you the possibility of developing a fantastic relationship with him, if my experience is anything to go by. And it's more fulfilling the relationship gets as you learn how to satisfy each other more and more completely. To reach ejaculation together is a mind-blowing experience and physically fantastic.
You are absolutely right on the money about this. We have ejaculated together a handful of times and it is just so intense! I just lay there almost in a state of shock because the orgasm is so powerful. I am not sure why exactly, but it is just so much more intense than your typical orgasm.. almost body and mind-numbing. I really do appreciate these abilities, and it is so nice to find a silver lining with all of this.
How on earth did you manage to take the pix? I've never worked out the mechanics of how to do that, even if I wanted to, which I don't :-)
It's easy. All you need is a digital camera (assuming you don't want some photo guy seeing your goods!) with a self timer. Once you set the self timer, set the camera on a small dresser or something near your bed, press the shutter, then position yourself in front of the camera.
I finally managed to take a pic, embarrassing as it might be. Please ignore my weird inner labia.
I am attaching it directly, because I can't upload it to my photobucket.
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It's easy. All you need is a digital camera (assuming you don't want some photo guy seeing your goods!) with a self timer. Once you set the self timer, set the camera on a small dresser or something near your bed, press the shutter, then position yourself in front of the camera.
My camera is a cheapo without a timer, so I kind of squatted on the floor, pulled my belly out of the way so I could see where I was aiming, and snapped the pic. It took me about 10 times before I got what I was aiming for, and not just wierd pics of my fingers. lol.
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You look just fine as well elocinintherain. And there is nothing wrong with your inner labia either! We are all comparing ourselves to porn stars.. a lot of them have work done and have their inner labia airbrushed out. The reason I was so self-conscious about not about inner labia is because I have read that men actually love them! Anyway, yes your clitoris is on the large size too (not a bad thing at all) but not huge. It is nice to see so many different types!! I am especially happy to see larger clits too.. one thing we can think PCOS for
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Thank you WhitneyG. I've always been really aware of my inner labia, and I don't like them. They don't really fit with the picture I have in my head of what they are "supposed" to look like, but I suppose everyone is different.
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