I had a D&C yesterday. I have not been on the board in years we have two healthy daughters one was a 3 1/2 year infertility baby and the other a surprise Met baby. This baby was also a Met baby we were not trying or preventing and were excited to be welcoming a new member of our family. So excited I quit my part time job to be a SAHM then we lost the baby. I have a huge since of guilt since we listned to to the stupid doctor who wanted to treat me like a normal pregnancy. NOT AGAIN I will not be taken surprise by my PCOS I have no idea why I thought this would not be a factor I did nothing to prevent this miscarriage I did not make them do early lab levels or sonograms. I am so mad at myself for losing this baby!!
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Oh honey I am so very sorry for your loss!! I had the same thing happen with my first loss, my ds was a blessing in disguise (didn't know I had pcos yet), my dd was 2 yrs of infertility treatments, so when we conceived around her first birthday on my own, I was ecstatic!! But, sadly I lost that baby at 6 wks.
So, we decided we needed the extra monitoring and hormone level checks and such that my RE could provide, and started trying right away again. Our first medicated cycle we got our bfp, and this time we WERE monitored, we had labs done, we were on every med possible to keep this child.
At 6 wks 4 days we had a strong heartbeat of 135 bpm. I was released from my RE to my OB.
At 9 wks 2 days I had my first ob appt, couldn't find the heartbeat on a doppler (I'm heavier and it's still early), but I pushed for an u/s.
15 mins later my ob said baby's growth stopped at 7 wks, and there was no heartbeat. I had a d&c the next day, this past tuesday.
My point is please please please don't blame yourself!! I know how hard that is!! But I lost one on my own, and one with the extra protection of an RE and all the monitoring that goes with it! It sucks so bad and hurts like hell, but you did NOT lose this baby!! Something inside it was wrong, something that wouldn't let it stay around too long, and I know it doesn't take an ounce of the hurt away, but please try to stop the guilty feelings, I promise you, you did NOT do this at all!!!
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In so very sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you. Hang in there.
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I am so sorry for your loss. I don't want to sound like an echo but I have to agree with danibell -- this was NOT your fault! Please stop blaming yourself. I'm sure that's hard right now, but I wish you peace in the days and weeks ahead.
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I am so sorry for your loss but you ARE NOT to blame. All the monitoring in the world cannot prevent miscarriage (unfortunately). Again, I am so sorry.
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BFP 12/18/07-m/c Jan 08' BFP 04/06/08-2nd m/c April 08' BFP 10/15/08- 3rd m/c Jan 09' @15 weeks onto recurrent pregnancy loss testing...
BFP 07/26/09-surprise natural BFP
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I am so sorry for you loss. I am having similar feelings of anger and guilt towards myself (I just had my d&c on Tuesday), second guessing myself. Did I eat something bad, did I miss a dose of progesterone, etc etc. I know it isn't my fault and your loss is not your fault either. But it is hard. I am very sorry you have to go through this. I have been thinking about getting some counseling to work through these feelings. Have you seen anyone?
Sharon
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Sofia Rose 7/20/04 conceived after 2nd IUI
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12/5/07 - BFP EDD: 8/11/08
1/18/08 - we lost our baby - feeling lost, sad and confused
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I'm so sorry for your loss! It becomes easier to assume your body has figured things out if you have some living children, but unfortunately terrible things can still happen. Please don't blame yourself, there was nothing intentional at all. I actually gave up getting early labs after my 5week loss, because all it did was stress me out, nothing beneficial happened from it or the progesterone I went on.
Hugs coming your way!
__________________ Metformin 1500mg, Yasmin, managing IR/pcos with lower carbs
First pregnancy ended at 23 weeks due to incompetent cervix.
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Second loss March 9, 2004 at five weeks
Third pregnancy, Cerclage at 13w
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