http://www.soulcysters.net en Sat, 21 Nov 2009 02:36:28 GMT vBulletin 60 http://www.soulcysters.net/images/styles/soul/misc/rss.jpg http://www.soulcysters.net http://www.soulcysters.net/how-long-af-after-m-c-295873/ Fri, 20 Nov 2009 16:01:28 GMT My AF stopped completely in 2005. I have been on bcp and met and still didn't really get them as I should have. Anyways I haven't had a cycle since January however I got my bfp in July and miscarried 3 weeks ago. Have any of you gotten AF after your m/c even if you didn't get them regularly on your own? If so, how long did it take for AF to kick in?

I know that everyone doesn't get AF after pregnancies but I'm just wondering if there is any luck for me. ]]> Coping with Pregnancy Loss dollface1982 http://www.soulcysters.net/how-long-af-after-m-c-295873/ http://www.soulcysters.net/pcos-miscarriage-placental-separation-want-try-again-help-coping-295531/ Tue, 17 Nov 2009 02:12:10 GMT I have a healthy, little girl who was born in April 2007. It was a high-risk pregnancy because I had preterm contractions starting at 24 weeks, but she made it to 38. She is such a blessing, & even more so now. I was diagnosed with Hypothyroidism in November of 2005 & PCOS in June of 2009. I am on medication for both. With my PCOS, I was having a period every 2-3 weeks & spotted in between. We tried for 3 months to conceive our 2^nd child. The baby was healthy and growing. At 12 weeks, I went to the ER with heavy bleeding and clotting. Baby was healthy, heart beating, and the technician even inadvertently discovered our baby was a boy. Bleeding stopped, & was sent home to wait and see. Next night, bleeding & clotting started back along with cramping, went to the office next day & discovered a large blood clot had formed & separated the placenta from my uterine wall…the baby died. I had to go straight to the hospital for a D and C. I am so heartbroken over losing my baby…he was already loved so much. I am scared about it happening again. I am wanted to try again after a month or so…I want to move on, but I will never forget the child I lost. I just don’t want to lose another child. I am looking for any guidance and anyone who has gone through this similar situation I am also really confused because after doing some research today I discovered that Metformin can decrease your chances of a miscarriage. I was told I didn’t have to take it anymore at my 7 week visit…so I stopped. I also discovered that higher insulin in your body can cause the placental separation…I have 2 disorders that causes my body to hold insulin in longer. I also read that taking a baby aspirin can help. I didn’t know any of this last week, but I wish so hard I did. I lost my baby on 11-12-09. I know I can’t play the what-if game, but I am trying to get information to equip myself with next time. Any advice on my situation…..any advice on pregnancy after…..I just need people to talk to right now. ]]> I am heartbroken and confused.

I have a healthy, little girl who was born in April 2007. It was a high-risk pregnancy because I had preterm contractions starting at 24 weeks, but she made it to 38. She is such a blessing, & even more so now.

I was diagnosed with Hypothyroidism in November of 2005 & PCOS in June of 2009. I am on medication for both. With my PCOS, I was having a period every 2-3 weeks & spotted in between. We tried for 3 months to conceive our 2^nd child. The baby was healthy and growing. At 12 weeks, I went to the ER with heavy bleeding and clotting. Baby was healthy, heart beating, and the technician even inadvertently discovered our baby was a boy. Bleeding stopped, & was sent home to wait and see. Next night, bleeding & clotting started back along with cramping, went to the office next day & discovered a large blood clot had formed & separated the placenta from my uterine wall…the baby died. I had to go straight to the hospital for a D and C. I am so heartbroken over losing my baby…he was already loved so much.

I am scared about it happening again. I am wanted to try again after a month or so…I want to move on, but I will never forget the child I lost. I just don’t want to lose another child. I am looking for any guidance and anyone who has gone through this similar situation

I am also really confused because after doing some research today I discovered that Metformin can decrease your chances of a miscarriage. I was told I didn’t have to take it anymore at my 7 week visit…so I stopped. I also discovered that higher insulin in your body can cause the placental separation…I have 2 disorders that causes my body to hold insulin in longer. I also read that taking a baby aspirin can help. I didn’t know any of this last week, but I wish so hard I did. I lost my baby on 11-12-09. I know I can’t play the what-if game, but I am trying to get information to equip myself with next time.

Any advice on my situation…..any advice on pregnancy after…..I just need people to talk to right now. ]]> Coping with Pregnancy Loss Mommy_of_Lily http://www.soulcysters.net/pcos-miscarriage-placental-separation-want-try-again-help-coping-295531/ http://www.soulcysters.net/its-been-3-years-295528/ Tue, 17 Nov 2009 01:58:53 GMT Ok so its been Nov 12th 2009 made 4 years since i had a miscarriage and i think i have may have lost it just a bit over the past few days ..
I had a huge fight with my hubby ..i was an emotional wreck .. I mean i just was feeling so worthless and unhuman ... And it didnt help that he didnt even remember the date .. im just so sad inside and its very hard for me to express myslef to the people in my real world .. i feel like they dont understand all they ever say to me is you'll be a great mom and why not adopt do foster care ... Sumtimes i wanna say to them B**** did u adopt , did u do foster care ... I know i know its crazy for me to be so angry at them .. its just i am angry . ]]> Coping with Pregnancy Loss Delicate Soul http://www.soulcysters.net/its-been-3-years-295528/ http://www.soulcysters.net/scared-start-trying-again-295385/ Sun, 15 Nov 2009 06:53:57 GMT I miscarried in August (7 weeks) and think we might be ready to start trying again next month. I'm scared though. I had such an odd first pregnancy (monoamniotic twins, concieved naturally). Even my doc was surprised. We really want a family, but I can't bear the idea of miscarrying again. I think I feel as good about it as I ever will, though.

Does anyone on here have any "second times the charm" stories? This first miscarraige was really hard on me and I'd like to hear that for someone who miscarried early on, it still turned out OK.

Thanks for readin! ]]> Coping with Pregnancy Loss Kate29 http://www.soulcysters.net/scared-start-trying-again-295385/ http://www.soulcysters.net/newbie-wishing-i-wasn-t-posting-here-295350/ Sat, 14 Nov 2009 21:09:55 GMT Hi everyone, I am 6 weeks pregnant and started having spotting bleeding around 2 days ago. The OB said to come in for blood testing on 2 separate days next week and they can tell for sure, but that it is almost a definite that I would be experiencing a m/c. I am bummed out, but more worried about the future and if my husband and I would be able to have another child. My son is 15 right now and I had him when I was a teenager. I have had PCOS for as long as I can remember. I never knew there could be problems with miscarriage and pregnancy with PCOS. I only thought there were fertility problems associated with it. When I told the nurse that I had PCOS, she only said it would make me uncomfortable as my pregnancy would have progressed...what did she mean by that? Any ideas? Thanks for taking the time to read this and I am so glad I found this forum! I know of so many people with PCOS and they seem to know as little as I do! Hi everyone,

I am 6 weeks pregnant and started having spotting bleeding around 2 days ago. The OB said to come in for blood testing on 2 separate days next week and they can tell for sure, but that it is almost a definite that I would be experiencing a m/c.
I am bummed out, but more worried about the future and if my husband and I would be able to have another child. My son is 15 right now and I had him when I was a teenager. I have had PCOS for as long as I can remember. I never knew there could be problems with miscarriage and pregnancy with PCOS.
I only thought there were fertility problems associated with it.

When I told the nurse that I had PCOS, she only said it would make me uncomfortable as my pregnancy would have progressed...what did she mean by that? Any ideas?
Thanks for taking the time to read this and I am so glad I found this forum! I know of so many people with PCOS and they seem to know as little as I do! ]]> Coping with Pregnancy Loss angeleve76 http://www.soulcysters.net/newbie-wishing-i-wasn-t-posting-here-295350/ http://www.soulcysters.net/scared-feeling-small-295257/ Fri, 13 Nov 2009 16:27:20 GMT I debated posting something so obviously pointless, but then I realized it might be cathartic. I see so many strong wonderful women here who have been through so much worse, and my heart aches for you.

I'm turning 35 this month. DH and I have been TTC for almost 2 years. It was starting to become a joke for me... I thought pregnancy and children were for other people and I was a ridiculous little girl for wanting it and trying for it.

I got my first ever BFP on 10/12/09 at 12DPO. We were shocked. Pregnancy can actually happen to me??? It took DH a bit... he was skeptical at first, but week after week the signs were going so well, tests were going well... He became really attached. It was the sweetest most loveliest thing I've ever seen and I love him about a thousand times more for having seen this in him.

My first ultrasound was last week at 7w2d and it was the first sign something might not be right. They could only find the gestational sac. This week at 8w3d (yesterday) they found the yolk sac (possibly even 3 of them...) and the fetal pole measured 5 weeks. No heartbeat. We had to wait a long time in between having the doctor start the ultrasound with these findings and when the ultrasound technician could see us. I will never forget DH talking to me about the hope he still saw, reassuring me over and over. It was dashed when I asked the nurse if there was any chance. She said it was very very very small, if any.

Here are the main things I'm having difficulty dealing with:
1. I feel like I didn't deserve it in the first place, so I feel like I don't have a right to mourn. I wonder if I made it up in my head and my body followed along. I still feel like that ridiculous little girl wanting things too grown up for her (yes, even at 35).
2. I feel like if I do enough research, understand enough about miscarriages and their misdiagnosis that I'll be able to avoid it. If I know enough and think hard enough, this baby will somehow figure out what it needs to do to be okay and will fix itself.
3. I'm scared of how the miscarriage will happen. I don't know what to expect or what to do when it happens (no matter how much I've read). Do I need to do anything to prepare for it? How will I feel emotionally when it actually happens, and how will we both cope with it?
4. I'm scared we won't get pregnant again. After this beautiful taste of what could be, I don't want to be without it again. I love this feeling of hope, joy, anticipation, power, nurturing, confidence, and pure pure love. But knowing it's going away, possibly never to return, is almost impossible for me to bear...

I'd like to mention I am not a religious person, so I don't believe that this baby will be with anyone after it leaves me, or that it has left for any reason other than there was a problem with its conception. It would not give me comfort to think either of these things.

I'm not sure what to do from here. Living each day seems like such a stupidly normal, mundane thing to do after knowing to expect such a loss. It feels like it would be more suitable to become a zombie with no purpose or passion.

Thank you so much for reading. I truly appreciate you all. ]]> Coping with Pregnancy Loss evilbee http://www.soulcysters.net/scared-feeling-small-295257/ http://www.soulcysters.net/s-not-okay-295120/ Thu, 12 Nov 2009 02:18:54 GMT yesterday was my sons bitrhday. he would have been 3. he died at six months from sids. i always here its ok. i hate it. it's not okay that my son is gone. i will not touch him or kiss him. i will never get to comfort him when he falls and scrapes his knee. i never heard his first word or saw his first step. he is dead. gone. i cant look at his picture or talk about him without crying. no one calle me to see if i was hanging in there or just to say i am sorry, i know you must be hurting extra today. i never got to celebrate a birthday with him. i miss his smile. i am mad and my faith is shaking. It isnt fair and its not okay to me. I miss him. everyday. i do not know if this pain will ever end. its not okay! ]]> Coping with Pregnancy Loss shaunsmom04 http://www.soulcysters.net/s-not-okay-295120/ http://www.soulcysters.net/stillbirth-delivery-295059/ Wed, 11 Nov 2009 15:23:57 GMT What happens before/ during/ after a stillborn delivery? I just found out yesterday that our baby girl has died. I am 21 weeks into my pregnancy and was advised by the Dr that I would have to be induced. Im not sure what to expect with labor. I have 2 other children and have gone through labor before, but will it feel the same? Also, do we hold our baby after? Name her? Baptize her? Cremate her? I know ultimately, these are decision my husband and I have to make, but I don't know what options will be given to us.

It's a very sad day. We conceived on our second round of Clomid and thought everything was going great since I was well into the second trimester. ]]> Coping with Pregnancy Loss gigibark4me http://www.soulcysters.net/stillbirth-delivery-295059/ http://www.soulcysters.net/could-simple-baby-aspirin-294907/ Tue, 10 Nov 2009 01:53:58 GMT Ok, we just had (well waiting to start) our third miscarriage, chemical pg. I am going over and over everything I did or didn't do, and comparing this time to my daughters cycle.

RE wants to do chromosome testing but I just found my old records and saw that we had it and it was normal. We also had all the other RPL testing and they were normal as well.

I thought the first two chem pgs before Lauren were from low progesterone, but the second one had progesterone of 33 and this time it was 23, so within acceptable range.

So now I am researching everything I can and found that Met helps reduce % of miscarriage. I am already on 1500mg so covered there. I also found that baby aspirin can reduce % of miscarriage, I was on it with Lauren but not with this cycle. Could it really be that baby aspirin is all that was needed for this to work!!??

Anyone have any thoughts? Up to tonight I had decided not to try again even though RE said we could and since my BETA was only 16 the last two draws to just could the first day of bleeding as CD 1 and take my meds CD3-7 again. But now, thinking aspirin may be our saving grace... I am thinking I may try just one more time... HELP!!! Should I? ]]> Coping with Pregnancy Loss mystik817 http://www.soulcysters.net/could-simple-baby-aspirin-294907/ http://www.soulcysters.net/endometritis-after-d-c-294772/ Sun, 08 Nov 2009 23:22:37 GMT I have spent the last 3 days in the hospital because of an infection and swelling of my uterus after my D&C. If I wasn't already emotionally drained... that made it so much worse! I'm so glad to finally be home. I have never been in so much pain! I swear it was worse than child birth. If it weren't for the narcotics they were shooting me up with I swear I would have died... lol maybe not died but I sure felt like it. I've decided to change Dr.'s since I've come to find out she should have put me on antibiotics after the procedure and didn't. Now after three days of IV antibiotics I'm on oral meds.

I was wondering if any of you ladies have had issues like this after a D&C? I wouldn't wish it on anyone. It really worries me now too about trying to have children again any time in the near future. I hope there's not too much scar tissue now. ]]> Coping with Pregnancy Loss ans05 http://www.soulcysters.net/endometritis-after-d-c-294772/ http://www.soulcysters.net/17-week-miscarriage-294538/ Thu, 05 Nov 2009 17:05:38 GMT I posted this similar message back in the pregnant cysters thread. I just delivered my baby last Wednesday. I went in Tuesday to find out the gender of my baby and was told that they couldn't detect a heartbeat. My baby was dead. Come to find out, he had been dead for almost 3 weeks. I had no signs no, no bleeding... Just nothing. The week before, I had just gone to get my anatomy scan and everything was great. My baby was bouncing around and everything. I have no answers, I didn't get an autopsy but maybe I should have. Do any of you think I should have gotten an autopsy done? I wasn't thinking clearly, now I don't know what has gone wrong with my baby. I blame myself everyday now. I feel that it is my fault my baby has died. If the defects came from me, how can I go on knowing it was my body that killed my little precious baby boy?

What were the causes of your losses? I just need some type of direction of where to go from here. It took me a year and a half to get pregnant and all I keep hearing is well you got pregnant this time, it will happen again. I don't want to hear that!! Ladies please help me. I know that we all don't have an understanding of this but I need hope in my life right now and its just not happening. I'm just torn. ]]> Coping with Pregnancy Loss dollface1982 http://www.soulcysters.net/17-week-miscarriage-294538/ http://www.soulcysters.net/no-one-told-me-294478/ Wed, 04 Nov 2009 23:37:36 GMT about these awful cramps!!! Good god all mighty save me. They are something fierce lol. I knew they were going to come but by golly are they intense! Hope this is the one and only D&C I ever have to do. So for anyone else who has had one.... when do the cramps slow down? They gave me some methergine to contract the uterus for a while since the bleeding was quite bad as they tell me. Anyone have any advice at all??? ]]> Coping with Pregnancy Loss ans05 http://www.soulcysters.net/no-one-told-me-294478/ http://www.soulcysters.net/file-under-what-not-say-someone-who-has-had-m-c-294395/ Wed, 04 Nov 2009 01:48:12 GMT I had someone say to me that God was doing me a favor by making me have a miscarrage. Her exact words were "someone up there is looking out for you." meaning since there was something wrong with the baby, I am better off.
I know she ment well, but it made me upset.
I just had to get my feelings out there to see how any one else feels about it. ]]> Coping with Pregnancy Loss sammykins http://www.soulcysters.net/file-under-what-not-say-someone-who-has-had-m-c-294395/ http://www.soulcysters.net/d-c-what-expect-294383/ Wed, 04 Nov 2009 00:01:14 GMT I'm scheduled for a d/c tomorrow and I have no idea what to expect. This is my third loss but my first d/c. Does anyone have any advice? ]]> Coping with Pregnancy Loss ans05 http://www.soulcysters.net/d-c-what-expect-294383/ http://www.soulcysters.net/book-recommendation-294322/ Tue, 03 Nov 2009 15:30:51 GMT Does anyone have a book that they can recommend that would help w/ dealing w/ loss and infertility? Does anyone have a book that they can recommend that would help w/ dealing w/ loss and infertility? ]]> Coping with Pregnancy Loss rkaras http://www.soulcysters.net/book-recommendation-294322/