Whenever my boyfriend would try to touch my face I would stop him. Even though i take care of my hair very well, i'm still worried about it. He asked me why and I said my dermatologist told me that by touching my face was the reason I used to break out really bad so it's just a habit not to. He bought it hook, line and sinker. So, it's a good thing to say to keep them from doing it without getting suspicious.
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Whenever my boyfriend would try to touch my face I would stop him. Even though i take care of my hair very well, i'm still worried about it. He asked me why and I said my dermatologist told me that by touching my face was the reason I used to break out really bad so it's just a habit not to. He bought it hook, line and sinker. So, it's a good thing to say to keep them from doing it without getting suspicious.
But it is a bad thing that you have to hide it from him. I am sure that he would not mind if you have extra hair. When I was with my ex, he went thought the whole diagnosis process with me so he understood, but when I met my new man I was PETRIFIED for him to feel it. However, I had a talk with him about it and lo and behold he understands! So maybe open up a dialouge with him, so you don't have to hide...
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It's just one of those things I wish not to share with men. Just like other female issues, I just feel it's a personal thing that I deal with. I mean we don't share "everything" about our womanhood with men and the hair thing falls into that category with me. If he notices and asked I'd share the reason but there is no way I'm spilling the beans if I don't have to. There's some things that are best left unsaid.
I know how you feel. I pull away when hubby tries to touch my face sometimes. He used to do it a lot, and now I think he understands that I don't like it and usually doesn't. We haven't talked about it exactly, but in a round about way he knows that I have extra hair. He's said that he doesn't care... and that if it were a problem he would have spoke up when the Dr asked if I wanted to take meds for it. Hopefully that means that it's not that bad, or I do a great job of hiding it!
Well, I keep myself WELL groomed all the time! A bit obsessively you might say, but hubby knows I really don't like to have my face touched and he's cool with that.
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It's just one of those things I wish not to share with men. Just like other female issues, I just feel it's a personal thing that I deal with. I mean we don't share "everything" about our womanhood with men and the hair thing falls into that category with me. If he notices and asked I'd share the reason but there is no way I'm spilling the beans if I don't have to. There's some things that are best left unsaid.
If he notices and asked I'd share the reason but there is no way I'm spilling the beans if I don't have to. There's some things that are best left unsaid.[/quote]
I agree. I have been with my now husband for ten years and I'm still not comfortable with him touching my face. We've talked about it once before but we left it alone bc he knows how I feel about it. I never bring it up. He still tries to touch my face sometimes, and I always pull away somehow. Its very embarassing but we never mention anything about it anymore.
I can understand you don't want your bf to touch your face but lieing to him or hiding the real reason from him isn't a good way to carry on a relationship.
I hate the hair on my face but i've always been up front about it being there hell my husband knows i have it and he see's me pluck it on a daily bases.
But let me ask you this why live a lie to the person your suppost to love?
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My boyfriend knows everything about me..all the hair issues and stuff. I kinda wish i had never told him because now i feel so inadequate whenever the hair problem gets out of control...My friends tell me that i share way too much info with him but sometimes i can't help it...I agree with lexer though, some things are best left unsaid..If could learn to keep these things to myself...sigh
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My boyfriend knows everything about me..all the hair issues and stuff. I kinda wish i had never told him because now i feel so inadequate whenever the hair problem gets out of control...
I'm sorry but I'm confused.... but why do you feel inadequate? I would think that you would feel alittle relieved knowing that when the hair gets out of control, it is not a surprise to your boyfriend and he understands alittle bit of what you're going through.
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My friends tell me that i share way too much info with him but sometimes i can't help it...I agree with lexer though, some things are best left unsaid..If could learn to keep these things to myself...sigh
WHAT? As your soul cyster, I *commend* you!!! PCOS and its symptons are not easy to discuss. It is especially difficult when you are in a relationship, but remember that *communication is key*. I personally think you did the right thing.
(this is not directed towards you)
I am so annoyed at the fact that some of what women experience are considered *taboo*. As women, we are naturally the caretaker, well what about our needs being taken cared of!!! I love the fact that this site provides wonderful support, I love to see women stand together and provide strength and encouragment.
We should be able to feel comfortable when discussing our wants, needs, pain, discomforts and desires....
you have a point. I feel inadequate because i feel like since he knows i have these issues he notices them more and on days like today, i feel so unattractive. ..even though he's constantly telling me i'm beautiful and how much he loves me.
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you have a point. I feel inadequate because i feel like since he knows i have these issues he notices them more and on days like today, i feel so unattractive. ..even though he's constantly telling me i'm beautiful and how much he loves me.
I know how you feel sweetie.. I'm having one of those weekends, when I let my hair grow long enough to wax. It's my bi-weekly ritual. I notice during these times, I am super sensative.
All in all, hair is beautiful.. so when he looks at you, he's just admiring your beauty
Oh my God! that's exactly the reason why i feel the way i feel today.
I let the hair grow everywhere because i was going to wax it all this weekend. I found out today however, that my waxing lady went to india for a month...so i have all this hair...
I hate shaving...I don't know about you ladies, but my skin gets irritated when i shave and i have lots of burning after all. It's a nightmare.
Tonight i'm wearing some really long pjs and i'm not letting my bf touch me..i just feel so ugly.
thanks for your words..you're very sweet.
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I'm also a f/t student, so I prefer to wax. I wax the hair myself, have been doing so for years. Originally, I just waxed my eyebrows and some chin hairs.. over the years, whew, lol... what once took about 15-20 mins now takes at least an hour. Hopefully, I'll have my first LHR treatment in a couple of weeks.
Sometimes, I have to shave if the hair starts growing during the middle of the week. I use a very hot towel and wipe my face with it, then wash it with moisturizing soap, then apply a very hot towel again, shave and apply cocoa butter (which has natural healing agents in it)
I can't recall the name of the wax I use, I'll send the info in a pm later on today if you like... but I just microwave it then apply it to my skin with a woodend popsical stick.
The waxing on my face i do myself but my legs i can't dol. I wish i could because it would save me so much money...I have so much hair on my legs though, i mean thick hairs..everywhere -starting from my growing area all the way to my ankles...
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The face touching issue.......... 
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