Facing a D/C...What to expect?

tndrmrcies · 06-29-2004, 12:59 PM

I just found out yesterday, my little one isn't viable. Everyone else involved thinks a D/C is best. I guess it's the fastest way to get a little bit of closer. I just have no idea what to expect. I'm so upset that I can't even ask the right questions of my dr. If it doesn't hurt too much to talk about it, would someone tell me what to expect?

lots_of_dots · 06-29-2004, 01:28 PM

((((big hugs Karla))))

I am so sorry for your loss. I can't talk much about a d&c because I've never had one. I've always opted to go naturally (the first three were spontaneous so I had no choice but with the last two I was given the option of natural or d&c and I chose natural). For me, natural is the best choice. My dr will only do a d&c with general anesthesia and I see his point but it scares me.

How far along were you? I know this last time if the sac was too big, my dr wouldn't have given me a choice. I was 7 weeks along but the sac was measuring behind and was small so natural was an option.

I pray god gives you the strength to make the right decision for you and helps you through this sad time. If you ever need to talk, please feel free to PM me.

((((more big hugs))))

~Traci~ · 06-29-2004, 05:50 PM

I'm so sorry for you loss {{{{HUGS}}}}

Here's my story:
I was terrified of the D&C. I was so afraid that I wasn't going to wake up or that I was going to wake up & have no memory. Everything turned out fine during the D&C though. My 1st loss was a chemical so it was natural. My 2nd loss was @ 9 wks but the h/b stopped @ 7 wks. I was carrying 4 so the only option for us was a D&C. My 3rd loss was natural @ 6 wks. Basically, I went into the hospital & checked in. They took me back & set up my IV & everything. My dr. came in to talk to me along w/ the anastesiologist (sp?). They put something in my IV to relax me & also the anastesia. They brought me back to the OR & all I remember is rolling in there & seeing the light. The next thing I remember is waking up & having an asthma attack. I stayed there for about 30 more minutes until my heartrate was stable (DH got to sit w/ me then) then I got to go home. I had a follow up appt w/ my dr. in 6 wks where I got the all clear. I did have to take 1 month of BCP's (at my RE's request b/c I had some HUGE cysts) & I also got muscle relaxers, pain killers, & something for infection so I didn't get one (they give this to everyone that goes in for any kind of surgery).

Good Luck & {{{{HUGS}}}}
Traci

tndrmrcies · 06-30-2004, 09:35 AM

Thank you for your posts. It means so much to me to talk to people that understand. I go this morning for the d and c. I'm still not sure I think it's the best thing, but my dr., dh, mom, and pastor think it is. I can't really argue with that kind of authority :-)
Thanks again for your kind words and support.

Karla

Blue-eyed girl · 06-30-2004, 05:31 PM

Karla,

I'm so sorry for your loss and by the time you read this you probably have already gone through the procedure.

My D&C was at 12 weeks, where the baby stopped developing at 9. I had major cramping and bleeding when I went to the doctor so he decided to do the D&C because I was in so much pain. I went to the hospital later in the day and they started pumping me full of IV fluids. At like 1:00am they took me to the OR, the anesthesiologist put me out and I woke up in recovery. The doctor said he was glad we went that route because there was a lot of tissue inside my uterus. And that was it.

We didn't start trying again right a way because it was such an emotional time. Don't give up hope - I'm currently 13 weeks along with my 2nd pregnancy and this one just feels different. I wish you the best.

lots_of_dots · 07-01-2004, 03:36 AM

Karla - I've been thinking about you. How did the d&c go? I hope all went well and you feel better soon. ((((big hugs))))

tndrmrcies · 07-01-2004, 02:36 PM

Thanks Blue-eyed Girl and Stephanie,
I'm sure you all know how much it means to have people to talk to that understand. My d and c went well according to my doctor. Even though the jerk told us to be there at 10 for a 1 o'clock procedure. Thankfully the nurses were very good to me. I guess my RE has quite the reputation with the hospital for thinking the world revolves around his schedule. If nothing else, it gave me a chance to be mad at him and distract myself a little bit. I don't know how many nurses asked why I come so far to see my RE. They just don't seem to understand there aren't any in rural upstate NY. I know I'm babbling about stuff that has nothing to do with anything. I'm just trying to distract myself from the fact that one of my closest friends just called to say she had her baby this morning. She didn't know about the miscarriage. I know I shouldn't have told her either but she asked how I was doing and I'm a terrible liar. I feel like an awful person for taking even an ounce of happiness away from her happy day. Well, I'm supposed to be resting, so I guess it's back to bed for me. Thank you all again for listening.

Karla

~Traci~ · 07-01-2004, 09:38 PM

I'm happy to hear everything turned out ok. I can't believe you had to be there so early! I think I had to be there maybe 1 1/2 hrs early but that was to fill out paperwork, etc.

Take it easy,
Traci

tndrmrcies · 07-02-2004, 11:36 AM

Thanks Traci,

Physically I'm feeling pretty good, but still trying to take it easy. Emotionally I'm hanging in there. I just wish I didn't have to talk to anyone who doesn't understand for about a month or so. Unfortunately life isn't like that. DH keeps asking when I'm leaving the house. I keep reminding him that they told me I needed bedrest the day after the procedure and to take it easy for a few days after that. He's really been great, but you know they have no idea how you're feeling about it all.

~Traci~ · 07-02-2004, 03:45 PM

I didn't go over IL's for about a month after my D&C. It was so long that my SIL asked why I was avoiding them & if they did something wrong. I had to do it b/c 1st of all I was ashamed that I wasn't giving them a grandchild & my BIL & SIL can be pretty cruel sometimes, I just couldn't deal w/ it. At the time, I thought that they would blame me for my m/c happening when it had nothing to do w/ anything I did. I totally understand just wanting to avoid everyone right now. My MIL had a m/c & she still said some pretty stupid things to me. My mom had a m/c & she even said some pretty stupid things to me to "try" & make me feel better...some ppl "just open mouth, insert foot" when a women has a m/c...

{{{{HUGS}}}}
You take your own time to feel better & feel like seeing ppl.
Traci

tndrmrcies · 07-02-2004, 06:58 PM

Thanks, Traci. It's good to hear how other people have dealt with people after their losses. It makes me feel better about the fact I'm avoiding calling a friend back, b/c I'm having a good day.

I know exactly what you mean about avoiding the IL's for a while. My DH hasn't even told his mom yet. I won't do it, so it's up to him. I love my MIL, but she alway managed to say something to bother me prior to this happening. I can't imagine what she might say now, even though she too has had a miscarriage.

As for my mom, she had several of her own. I think she had three, but I'm not sure b/c she has never really talked about it with me. I didn't know she needed progesterone in her pregnancies until I told her I was on it. I also didn't know she had had at least one d and c until now either. I almost wouldn't mind her saying something stupid at this point, because it would mean we were at least talking about it. That's not my mom though. She doesn't talk about her feelings much. It really sucks at a time you could really use your mommy.

Thanks again, Traci.

Karla