Is this fair?

mluvsd · 08-03-2007, 04:42 AM

Can someone with a strong faith.... can you please help me reconcile how God feels this is fair. http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/20097968/
This woman has just had her 17 child and i've been fighting for 10 yrs just to have one... as have so many of you. So many hours, days, months, and years of pain trying to have a baby and this woman can pop them out left and right.

i used to think that maybe God was punishing me for something. I just don't know what to think. My neighbor is a great woman and a dear friend, she is a very devout, church going woman.... She and her husband have 10 kids...living right next door to someone who has pcos. i have such a hard time with this.

i don't want to constantly feel jealous..... but what do i do? what do you all do?

Mommy_at_Heart · 08-03-2007, 06:09 AM

((Hugs))

First of all, it's not a matter of fair. It's a matter of God's will. Some are meant to have large families, or no families, or some where in between. Sometimes we don't get *exactly* what we prayed for, but we always get what we need. If we could only see what HE see's!

Unfortunately in this world, evil causes bad things to happen, or we mess up some where along the line and it can alter plans we have our hearts set on. God doesn't promise to fix it so that no matter what happens we get our way, He promises that NO MATTER WHAT, He works things out for our good. Even if we mess up or have something horrible happen, He's there to make sure it benefits us in some way.

Never give up on your hearts desire. Know that nothing can stop God from doing something He wants to do, and if that's give you a baby, all the doctors and test results and 'advanced maternal age' aren't going to stop him. And even if towards the end of your life you haven't had kids, at least you've lived with a more joyful heart and out look.

Many prayers for you!

Rae*ShadowWolf · 08-03-2007, 06:49 AM

While I may not be Christian, I often wonder the same thing. I'm 27 years old, and cannot get pregnant. There are times I believe we must go through the pain of not having children because perhaps we aren't ready in this lifetime to have one. Perhaps Karma, perhaps something else. All I ever wanted in life was to have a child, and now, I know, I never will. It angers me considerably when people have children for sake of having children and don't see them as the gift they are. It angers me when people can have children and don't take care of them, when I know I would give that child whatever they needed, no matter how much it sets me back financially.

I shake my head to matters like this. There are no answers to be given. We can ponder our entire lives, but never understand this. Why? What did I do to deserve this? This is what lies in constant agony in my head.

I wish I had something constructive to say that hasn't been repeated a million times before. All I can say is that you have others like you who wonder the same thing every day -- you are not alone.

Kathy2579 · 08-03-2007, 09:43 AM

God has a reason for all. That family is blessed yes. But when it does happen for you... gods will make that child the most prefect angel ever...