This one falls along the lines of the she's pregnant and i'm not thread. My newphew is a high school dropout, so is his girlfriend, they are both 17, have no jobs, and guess what?? yup, she's pregnant. I told my best friend (who is his stepmom) that this would happen.. funny thing is that i found out before her.. (she doesn't know yet) It doesn't surprise me because of the example that's been set for him.. his mother has men in and out of her life, discusses her sex life with both of them and last night when she found out she screamed at the girl that she better get an abortion. I am beyond disgusted. I hope that this girl does not have an abortion and that she will instead choose adoption. My brother in law has previously stated that he will not help him out if he gets his girlfriend pregnant because it is not his responsibility to raise his grandchildren. Considering the fact that my nephew can't even be bothered to even get a job or a ged ( he only finished 8th grade) I think adoption is the best option for them, but of course my opinion is not welcome. I have been sworn to secrecy by DH but I feel like my husbands brother (who is nephews dad) has a right to know.. especially since his son is still under age, and living at home with no job. Don't know what to do.. DH will probably never speak to me again if I tell his brother. Currently this nephew is on probation for stealing and has never been held to any responbility by either of his parents. I think that some of my husbands family act very trashy, but of course he gets mad at me because i'm judging them.. all i have to say is sorry sweetie, just calling them like I see them!
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Wow-yea thats usually tha way it goes tha last people on earth that need/desreve children always end up having a lil football team! But i thk that u have to respect ur husband's wishes and not tell his brother-bc honestly its not ur place.Ur nephew is gonna have to man up and tell him or his girlfriend. Best of luck to u and ur family!
Typical. I'm sorry you have to deal with this. IA w/ PP, respect your husbands wishes as hard as it may be. Hang in there!
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Thanks for the advice! I ended up not having to say anything... my other sister in law found out and broke the news.
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First off, I'm a dropout & I don't have my GED yet. I don't think it's fair to judge someone by this. I could probably have blown away anyone of my family members in school & they've all got a diploma.
Second, it does sound a little like you judge them. Why? As they say, it takes all kinds to make the world work. I've met some down right Redneck hillbillys. But you know what, nicest people you could ever have known.
Third, A very good friend of mine just had a baby, was a total piece of work when he got his gf pg. Since then he's gotten out of trouble, got a job & is working hard to take care of his family. You never know, sometimes people surprise you. But I'm glad that they've already found out & that you didn't need to tell them.
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I think what redsoxfan was trying to say, is that the two of them are irresponsible and show no signs of changing for the better. Being as young as they are, adding a child to the mix would not be wise. Offering adoption as an option is wise for people that young. The same could be said for my DD's birth mother is also happens to be cousin. She was smart had a diploma, not a GED. She chose to keep her baby and never stepped up to the plate. She was immature and only had the baby to keep a man that wasn't even the childs father. I don't think she was trying offend any with or without a GED. I got a GED and still went to college and now have a successful professional carrer. Now while I could have made it just fine without a degree or additional income. I feel more comfortable being in a successful marrage and DH and myself having stable carrers and income. I think redsoxfan was not trying to say the baby would not be loved (like I said before, who knows how these children will step up to the plate), but being young, little income and even less potential for a decent income, adoption may be an option to consider.
I found no offense to the comment/rant.
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