I'm newly diagnosed with PCOS (yey!) and am new to this site. I'm so glad its here and everyone seems so nice! I'm having an issue though. I told two members of my family and they pretty much freaked out on me. My dad, and my sister. Both pretty much said that it was "my fault" that I have this because I've been overweight almost my whole life, and as hard as I tried to explain that this is WHY I've been overweight they just wont see it that way, and keep saying weird things to me that just aren't helpful right now. Like--"well, you just have to push yourself harder" even though I'm trying as hard as I can...
Any advice for talking to weirdo family members??? thanks!!!
I wish I had good advice for you, but some family members just can't be dealt with. I'd tell them off, but that's me. I tend to be the black sheep in the family - if I don't like it or don't believe in it, people know.
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I've had some problems like this with my Dad, it took me forever to explain to him why I have issues with my weight.
If your family doesn't really believe you or just don't quite understand what PCOS is maybe you could print off some articles for them to read. Also, one book that I have bought is PCOS: The Hidden Epidemic by Samuel Thatcher. My Mom read it to get a better understanding of what PCOS is.
Good luck!
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Your father and sister does not know what it is like to be in your situation.I know it is hard to lose weight as I am trying myself,but you will be able to lose the weight.At least here all of us know what it is like.I remember a couple years ago,I said to my mother"I may see a doctor because my menstrual period is off" She just told me it was nothing to worry about as I was under a lot of stress.She had never mentioned to me about this condition or if anybody in my family had this condition.I took noticed to a couple cousins on my father side how they had little "facial hairs" and complaining how they was gaining a lot of weight.
Tell them it is not a diease they will get, inform them on some information what it is and how it can be treated.If you can not get no sympathy from your father or sister, at least you have your mother or grandmother and us to understand
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Hi, I'm new too and I can empathize. I always had symptoms of PCOS but my docs didn't do any tests until I was trying to get pregnant. When I was diagnosed, my mom basically said I had psyched myself into having this problem (she said the same thing when I had to start wearing glasses right after my best friend did too in high school) and my in-law says it's my fault that she doesn't have grandchildren even though my husband refuses to have tests done and who knows if he is contributing to it too. And talk about weight. He is considered obese according to the BMI scale and I'm not but people keep telling me, not him, that I should exercise more, etc etc.
What I've learned is to say "I feel (feel in your emotion) when you say (fill in whatever they said." And that clearly tells them that they are hurting you emotionally. If they don't respond to that, at least you know you've clearly communicated your feelings to them. A lot of times, it may be plain ignorance that make them say and act they way they do.
*hugs* I think that alot of family memebers just don't understand PCOS. My family doesn't either... Maybe prinyt off some reading materials for them to read.. Maybe it will help them understand u better!
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thanks so much for all your helpful replies It helps to know that others have gone thru the same thing too and ways to deal with it. I think I'll try the article thing once I calm down a bit and stop being so dang angry with them.
ali
You fit in well with us for sure! I just wanted to say welcome and that there is a large Portland, OR faction or near Portland now on this site. We are thinking about meeting up soon, we tried recently and only 3 of us were able to come. So go the this link and say hi to the other gals if you haven't already Portland area get together
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I just want to warn you that there are even cysters here that will tell you not to blame your weight problems on PCOS. In my opinion what they say is a load of crap. Hugs
Karen
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Ali - that sucks. It isn't fair, and you have every right to tell your family where to go! There are many, many reasons why we have PCOS, and those reasons can all be different. It certainly isn't because you have been overweight most of your life. I'm not overweight, and I have all the same problems you do. If they keep giving you a hard time, I would encourage your family to learn more about PCOS before claiming to know ANYTHING.
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It helps to know that others have gone thru the same thing too and ways to deal with it. I think I'll try the article thing once I calm down a bit and stop being so dang angry with them. 
I just wanted to say welcome and that there is a large Portland, OR faction or near Portland now on this site. We are thinking about meeting up soon, we tried recently and only 3 of us were able to come. So go the this link and say hi to the other gals if you haven't already 
