It was one thing in high school to be called fat, but when your and adult, and your family starts in.... Sometimes I think they think I made the whole thing up, how can PCOS exist? I dont' even want to go home this christmas to NY, to afraid to face my family. I'm sick of my uncle calling me fatty fatty 2 by 4 can't fit through the front door. For gods sake i'm 23 years old and i still feel like that 6 year old girl running to the bathroom crying.
When will people realize that i'm not a lazy fat no good person, i'm a good hearted person, who happens to have love handles and a big butt who happens to have a medical condition that doesn't help me any with my weight gain.
*sigh* one day I hope I can not only walk outside with a smile but walk into my own home and smile.
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That really bites. Too bad we can't choose our family like we choose our friends.
Can you have someone talk to the worst offenders to ask them to stop it as it's hurting your feelings and just isn't a mature thing to do in general?
Other than that, you know you're great, and your DH knows you're great and weight just doesn't have anything to do with any of that. There's more to life than superficiality. Just keep reminding yourself that and that you're way too grown up and mature to tease someone else about his or her personal appearance. You have to wonder about people over the age of 13 who still do that kind of thing, don't you?
Ya know, something I've had to learn the hard way is that -contrary to what everyone says- your family will not always be there for you. I know it's a horrible thought. It's tough, but sometimes you need to find strength and motivation by turning inward. YOU will always be around to take care of YOU. YOU are the one person who you can depend on without fail. Okay, I know that's slightly drastic for your situation, but if they are making you feel like poo, then you need to take care of your self and stay away from the situation. Now, I'm not saying that you should cut yourself off from your family but if you know you aren't ready to handle their taunts, don't set yourself up for a fall. Sometimes if you write out your feelings (and include some info from docs, pamphlets, and websites ) maybe people will come to understand them a little bit better. And you know, we are always here to help and support you in whatever you need! Take care, dear! And PM me if you need anything
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My family do the same thing, though not in such a childish manner. Not all of my family - mostly my brother and Mum. The two CLOSEST family members!
I don't know if they do it because it makes them feel better about themselves, or if they think they're helping by humiliating us, but it doesn't work, it's hurtful and it's wrong. I don't treat my family members like that, and I expect the same respect in return.
As it is I don't have much to do with those that treat me like that now. It's just easier that way.
But I'm to the point that the next person that does it to me is going to be firmly told that it's childish, disrespectful and hurtful, and I don't do it to them so don't do it to me. I have to stand up for myself, because I have to look myself in the eye and know that I demanded the basic respect that I give.
Sorry to hear you're feeling so bad - at least here with us cysters you've always got support and understanding,
Boy do I know how that feels, that amoung some very other horrible reasons I have let my family go. They are toxic and I havent spoken to them since may.
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Sorry you get treated like crap. May I suggest you come up with a clever comeback, especially for your uncle? What are his flaws, what is he insecure about? We can help you come up with something. Is he bald, bushy eyebrows, big gut?
I know that "Two wrongs don't make a right" or whatever but sometimes the only way a person will learn is by realizing how bad it hurts when someone makes fun of you.
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I know exactly what you mean looking back I started with PCOS when I was 12 when my weight ballooned, my mother is 5ft2 8stone ringing wet and she made my life a misery throughout my teens and continues to do it today, making derogatory comments.Even when she found out that I had pcos and this was the main cause she can only leave the subject of my weight alone for a couple of days. It got better just before I got married and it became apparent that my hubbie wasn't going to allow her to do it when on 1 occassion when she had really upset while we were visiting and he told her we were leaving. That was the first time anyone had stuck for me and put her in her place. People don't realise how much damage they do with their unwanted and biggoted remarks especially when your self esteem is virtually non existent due your weight and the other symptons we have to contend with having Pcos my lowest point was when at 17 my mother said that if I was going to continue to put on weight when she was already ashamed to be seen out with me then I should leave home consiquently I left home and went to college..I now answer and either tell them to shut up,or well I can lose weight but you'll never get a personality..
I hope you are able to get through this remember it's not you with the problem its them!
Take care
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. Sometimes I think they think I made the whole thing up, how can PCOS exist? I dont' even want to go home this christmas to NY, to afraid to face my family. I'm sick of my uncle calling me fatty fatty 2 by 4 can't fit through the front door. For gods sake i'm 23 years old and i still feel like that 6 year old girl running to the bathroom crying.
) maybe people will come to understand them a little bit better. And you know, we are always here to help and support you in whatever you need! Take care, dear! And PM me if you need anything
