hello,
i am quite new here and dont do much charting, but two weeks ago I just had a m/c at 6 weeks and a couple of days...(bleeding stopped 1 week ago after just 5/6 days)i never expected it would happen to me although i do have pcos.
i feel.....totally thrown.....and sooooo worried about the next time i get pregnant. Its like this was the LAST LAST LAST thing i ever thought would happen to me.
my cycles were regular, and i was at a good weight for my height after losing about 30 pounds 1 and 1/2 years ago. I'm also off all meds for about 2 years and it has taken alot of prayer and walking and eating well and taking good supplements to get this far.
Short of managing my stress better ( i was exceptionally stressed out) I dont know what i can do to make it better the next time and i feel just so sad.
{{{HUGS}}} I am so sorry for you loss. I know what you mean about feeling dislocated, after my m/c I felt as if I was in a bad dream and just couldn't wake up. If you ever need a shoulder to cry on, please pm me.
Don't be hard on yourself at all, this was not your fault. I'm so sorry your baby is gone... it's especially heartwrenching when cysters have been working so hard to achieve a pregnancy and then it ends. I hope you and your husband can hang on tight and find strength to keep going one of these days, but don't rush. Stick around and let us know how things work out and how you're feeling, okay?
Hugs!
Sheri
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I am so sorry for your loss. It's such a difficult thing to go through.
[quote]after my m/c I felt as if I was in a bad dream and just couldn't wake up.[quote]
It does get better...every day gets easier...once the physical part is over, it's easier to get on with the emotional healing. We are all here if you need to "talk", rant or vent.
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It gets lonely sometimes because I feel like no one really understands what it feels like, but I think that you all do. I'm glad I posted here.
Incidentally it feels like im living in limbo because I don't want to risk another pregnancy before 3 months as thats the minimum amount of time my accupuncturist (qualified chinese/western doctor) said I need to concentrate on getting my body strong to hold onto a pregnancy (with or without Chinese meds) and she herself had 2 previous miscarriages so she knows how it feels...
Anyway, onwards and upwards. Time to get the prayer book out again.
Don't be hard on yourself at all, this was not your fault.
My sentiments exactly. I'm sorry you lost your baby. I know your heart is broken.
I also wanted to mention that you should follow your own feeling as to when you should try again. It helped me keep going to try again immediately and I was ultimately successful. I did not need to wait 3 months. I'm not saying you should, just that it is okay if you feel you want to.
I think you should wait to try again until you're ready. If that's two months, great, a year, fine. My doc said to give it at least one regular AF.
As far as next time, just make sure you have a great doctor, and get in to see them the second you know you're pregnant. They can check your progesterone, and if it's low, supplementation might save that pregnancy. I'm so sorry you lost this little one. Be gentle with yourself.
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I am so sorry for your loss. You will find a lot of sympathy, support and love here.
I took a long while to get over the shock alone that I was going to lose my baby. I was not prepared at all for the hormonal knock my body took from losing her before her time.
I agree with Viv, wait until your mind and body are ready. Each pregnancy is different, therefore each recovery will happen at a different pace. I'm only ready now, a year on to think about trying again.
Be kind with yourself. You may find counselling really helpful - I certainly did.
Don't be afraid to ask us anything, anytime. We are all here for you.
I was just checking the message board - actually needing something that I can't seem to get from anywhere else ( someone who has been through it). I had a m/c Sept 17/04 and just had another April 15. I feel so hopeless and alone. I know I'm lucky have support from my husband, mother and a couple of friends but it comes down to this - no one knows how I feel. I read in here that it feels like a nightmare. Thats so true. I know I am so blessed to have a healthy almost 3 yr old - so why can't I be happy? I was before. My first m/c the Dr said it was a blighted ovum - this one just stopped growing at 6 wks. I thought I was 9 or 10 weeks. I just don't know what to do with myself, sometimes I think I'm doing not too bad then the next day I might cry all day. I keep thinking "yeah I'll get through this" but I just don't want to. Why is it me that has to? I feel like a freak. My cousins can pop them out no problem. How can people say it not God it's an act of nature. Doesn't God control nature. Then I feel bad for feeling this way because thinking that way makes it sound like I'm the only one with problems. And I know that isn't the case. I'm just so sick of it all.
Hi Cassidy...i'm so sorry for what youre going through...and this IS the place to be...somebody called it "a club you dont want to belong to, but youre sure glad you have it"...smart cyster whoever she was...
anyway...all your emotions are so natural...one of the hardest things i had to deal with was hearing the comment...'well at least you still have your son"...of course i have him and i wouldnt give him up for the world...but it didnt make it any easier to grieve my girls...people just say things trying to help and dont realize how it sounds sometimes...
take care for now and really take advantage of this site...i swear its better then any therapy i could have ever recieved, cuz like you said...these girls have been there...
pm anytime...
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somebody called it "a club you dont want to belong to, but youre sure glad you have it"...smart cyster whoever she was...
That was me...thanks Kim!
Cassidy, so sorry for your loss. My first m/c was exactly like yours...I was 9 1/2 weeks along when I found out the baby had stopped growing at 6 weeks. I was devastated. When I was at the u/s where I got the bad news, DH wasn't with me, and I was crying so hard at the doctor's office that I couldn't see.
We have all been there, and we'll be there for you if you need us. This site has been such a tremendous help to me in my time of need. We are all so sorry for your loss, and you can rant/vent to us anytime.
Meghan (saluki_fan)
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(((Hugs))) Pink Lotus & Cassidy 1
I'm so sorry for your losses. All of us here on the board understand what you are feeling. We've all felt what you are feeling. I know so well the feeling of despair you're going through right now. I've had days when I could swear the sun didn't even come up, that's how dark everything appeared to me. I sometimes feel so alone, it seems unbearable. Some days you'll feel downright miserable. Like you don't even want to bother going though the day. This, and most, if not all of what you are feeling is normal. Believe me when I tell you IT DOES GET BETTER. I urge you both to find a support group in your area, and to seek counseling. For me, talking really helped. Posting here and on a few other message boards helped. My DH has been very supportive and that helps a lot. Be kind to yourself, and don't expect to be "over" this a week or two. This is a very emotional /hormonal time for you. Allow yourself time to grieve. Do something as a memorial to your baby. My husband got me a mother necklace with my babies birthstones on it. Some people plant a tree or flowers. Do whatever feels right to you.
Please post here whenever you need to. Someone always writes back! In the early days it seemed like I lived for that. As long as I had the boards, I knew I wasn't alone.
For now, focus on you. You can think about future pregnancies after you've had some healing time.
Remember, you can't rush healing.
I'll keep you two in my prayers,
Gina
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feel so sad and dislocated 
I hope you and your husband can hang on tight and find strength to keep going one of these days, but don't rush. Stick around and let us know how things work out and how you're feeling, okay?
