Does anyone else ever feel like you are being left out? Today is just an especially hard day for me. I just feel like I don't have that many friends any more. My best friend has three kids, is now a recovering crack addict, and has a boyfriend I hate. It's easy to see why we don't do much together. I actually haven't seen her since April, when I took her out to dinner for her b-day. No call, card, or gift for mine. My two dear friends from growing up (I consider them sisters, friends is too light of a word) haven't seen me in ages. I talk to one every few months on the phone, but haven't seen her in about a year and a half. The other I haven't seen in almost two years. She just had a baby and for some reason I wasn't invited to the shower. However, these two have stayed very close and see each other all of the time.
I guess these things bother me because these are the people who knew me best. These are the people I have always felt the closest too.
I have a hard time making new friends. I just don't feel very comfortable, and I think a lot of it has to do with my PCOS. I was thin and confident with clear skin. Now I am heavy, hairy, and have zits.
I did become friends with a girl that I went to high school with years after graduating. We worked together for a long time. I occasionally do stuff with her. We went to a few concerts together (group of friends) this year. I like her a lot, but she has own little group of very close friends that she is a part of.
Thats it. I feel like I am being left out of everything. I keep thinking part of it is because I am not attractive enough to be seen with anymore. I feel like I am a good person who has a lot to offer in a friendship, I just don't think people give me a chance to prove it.
I feel silly, because it seems like such a ridiculous thing to complain about. But here I am. It's Friday, and I can't even get my friends to email or call me back. I have been calling/emailing all week, with no luck. My husband had plans for today and tonight with his friends. So, I will be sitting home alone as always.
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Stacie-I am not sure why you think your not attractive because I have seen a couple of you pictures and I think your beautiful!
I understand how you feel. I have not had any contact with any of my friends since I got pregnant. I wasn't a Pamela Anderson, but I held my own. Unfortunatly , after the kiddos, things changed.
Sorry I have no real words of encouragement, just wanted you toknow I am here.
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Stacie-I am not sure why you think your not attractive because I have seen a couple of you pictures and I think your beautiful!
I understand how you feel. I have not had any contact with any of my friends since I got pregnant. I wasn't a Pamela Anderson, but I held my own. Unfortunatly , after the kiddos, things changed.
Sorry I have no real words of encouragement, just wanted you toknow I am here.
Thank you. Any encouragement is always appreciated!
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I believe what you are experimenting is common. We grow up and grow apart from our friends. It's hard to to have the same relationship when you no longer have things in common. Marriage, kids and space change everything - let alone drugs!
I'm in Indiana, but I'd love to meet you! What part of Kentucky are you from?
I feel ya cyster!! DH and I were talking about this not too long ago. How do grown adults make new friends? When you were younger you had sports, school, neighbors, etc. and you could meet friends at all those places. Now that we are adults it seems almost impossible to make a new group of friends.
I have lost touch with almost all the friends I had growing up. I keep in touch with one person that I have been friends with for about 15 years. By keep in touch I mean call every once in a while. It seems like now that I am married, work, and have a house to take care of I just don't have enough hours in the day to hang out with old friends.
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Sometimes it is just nice to go out with the girls and do 'girly' things. It's hard to do that when you don't have girls to go out with!
Yes - I agree - but she said left home alone again - I was just wondering if Hubby goes out a lot without her - and if she has integrated with his friends.
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Yes - I agree - but she said left home alone again - I was just wondering if Hubby goes out a lot without her - and if she has integrated with his friends.
He was out with a bunch of guys in his fantasy football league. They madd a whole day of it. They did their draft, ate, then went out. I actually just got home from having to go get him because he was drinking and couldn't drive. I am thankful he makes good decisions like that, but it still irks me that it was the highlight of my night.
The reason I am alone so much is that DH works for the railroad and is generally gone 24 hours at a time. So usually I am home alone at least half of the time. Sometime we are only home together to sleep in the same bed once or twice a week.
I think I am feeling a little better now. I am hoping I will be in a better mood tomorrow. Just venting seems to help a little.
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I know exactly how you feel! I know this doesn't help a lot, but you're not alone. All of my friends went away for the summer, and I'm currently not in a relationship. It's frustrating, especially since the reason I'm not meeting any new people are my PCOS symptoms. But I'm not complaining, because this makes me appreciate the people that I have in my life even more. =)
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Well, you certainly aren't alone in feeling that way. Basically all my friends are old enough to be my parents, or in a couple of cases, my grandparents! It would be nice to have some friends my age, but I really haven't the first clue how to go about meeting them, or when I would find time to spend time with them between school, work, and baby.
I just wanted to add support. PLEASE don't think it's anything to do with you.
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Stacie, I think you are beautiful, so don't be down on yourself too much about that. I know easier said than done. I feel your pain though, I literally have no friends besides my BF. I moved to go to college and I am so far away from all my old friends. Thing is though, even if I was closer we wouldn't be friends bascially because our lives are so different now. I don't know how to go about making friends really. I guess it is really hard to make friends as an adult, although I don't really like to consider myself an adult !!! If you want to talk or exchange emails with me I'd be more than happy to, and I always answer my emails. My Yahoo messenger screen name is siobhanbohne and my email is siobhanbohne@yahoo.com. Feel free to contact me anytime.
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