It has been a year since my miscarriage and I feel so alone.
I mentioned to my husband a few days ago that we were coming up on a year since our miscarriage and his response was he doesn't think about it because it depresses him. I can't talk to my Mom about it because she gets even more upset than I do and can't stop crying long enough for me to get a word in. I can't talk to my two closest friends because they aren't married yet and are jealous of me since I have a husband and cut me off when I even mention it.
I don't think I have ever felt this alone about anything in my life. I was hoping to be pregnant by now to soften the blow but that hasn't happened. Has anybody else felt this way after having a miscarriage?
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((((Stephanie))))
I'm sorry you are feeling so alone. You are not. There are many of us going through this and we will be here for you. There is a time for everything under heaven and believe me, there will be a time for you to be a Mommy. Just keep trying and it will happen. It really stinks that it's not as easy for us as it is for "normal" women but I really believe we will be better parents and will enjoy our kids more as a result of what we go through to have them.
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Sorry you are feeling so sad, stephanie. I know what you mean about feeling alone... so many people do not understand how devestating m/c really is. The people you think are going to be your best support are often not there at all, or say things that leave you feeling even worse. And even the sweetest best DH's are often a different wave length or handle grief differently. Just remember that we're here for you, and my advice is don't give up on DH. Sometime, if you bring it up again in a different way or really tell him how bad you feel he might respond better. Hang in there and know that we're thinking of you.
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Yes Stephanie, I have definitely had that feeling before. The world goes on around you while your heart is breaking.....to say it is tough is an understatement. I was lucky that my husband was very supportive.
Have you considered seeking professional or peer support. I don't know what is available there but here we have support groups and organisations who offer support to parents who lose children to miscarriage, stillbirth and neo-natal death. The services are free and I found great comfort in reading the info they had to offer. Maybe some research into what is available to you locally would be of value.
I am so sorry that you are feeling lonely. I hope you know that you can share your thoughts and feelings here anytime. We are always here to offer our support and love.
Take Care
You are def. not alone here and you can always talk about your feelings to us. I felt that way after awhile. Dh would get too upset and what everyone else said pretty much boiled down too "it happens - get over it - you're still young". This website and this forum has helped me more than anyone can ever know. How are you feeling since your post? Better I hope! Let us know.
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Thank you all for your kind words. I am feeling a lot better, thank you.
My husband really is a great guy and I love him a lot but when it comes to losing our first baby I know he needs to heal in his own time and on his own terms so I don't like to bother him. I can totally understand my friends not wanting to talk about it because children aren't in their near future and I'm sure it's hard for them to hear that I am trying to have one. I think what really bothers me the most is not being able to talk to my mom. We have always been really close but I have always had to be the strong one. Even when I was sick, I would have to comfort her because she was so upset about what was happening to me. For once I would really love for her to be the strong one so I could cry on her shoulder for a change but I know that is never going to happen and I love her just the same.
Thank you all again for your support. Hopefully it won't be much longer until I am pregnant again but my angel baby will always be close to my heart.
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Feeling so alone..... 
