Why is it that the one person who should know EXACTLY what I am going through right now just totally does NOT get it. I'm too stressed out to deal with insensitive people in general, but coming from my DH? I'm so angry I could strangle him!
"I don't know what you're waiting for."
"THE CALL?"
"Well they'll leave a message if you're not around you know."
"I don't WANT a message."
"Just be patient."
"I've BEEN patient!"
"Well they're going to tell you the same thing whether you're there to get the call or not, I don't see why it matters."
"ARGH!!!!!!"
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Aw, Man. I'm so sorry. I know it's a stressful time for you--hopefully DH is just trying to lighten the load or take your mind off things.
I know that doesn't help--I don't know what to say. I hope you get that darn call soon, that's all!!!
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I remember the waiting - it was so horrible. It was weird when i got the call- it wasn't really a call. I was at work (teaching) our principal just made an announcement that all teachers needed to check their email before the end of the hour. so with 5 minutes to the end of the class. I checked the email- and it was about a stranger that had been in the building- but he didn't get far- just to the office- and he was escorted out- ok.. then i noticed that i had an email from my agency- which i thought was weird because i knew the director of the agency and the guatemala person where IN guatemala taking care of some business and things down there (just when the hauge started lightening up and some people were getting out of PGN).. I had emailed before they left about joel's picture update (we never got one until we bugged them like 3-4 times) and medical- how much he weighed and height etc... well the sec. from the agency wrote saying they didn't have a picture yet and said his weight but didn't have a height but she had good news that we were out of PGN and the director thought we would be able to travel in 5 days. I was like -WHAT???? is this true- so I called the agency- I was shaking (i had my cell phone) and I got her (email lady) and i asked her if she was mistaken- was it true- and she said no she just got off the phone with the director and she was told by the facilator- OH MY GOD... (luckily it was my lunch and prep) so I RAN down to the office- and told them- and just CRIED my head off- and kids saw me- and started hugging me- then the principal made an annoument about my news- and the whole school (mostly hispanic) just cheered and did an uproar- I tried calling my dh- but he was at work- and was taking someone to jail at the time so he wasn't answering his cell phone = so i called 411 and got the number for the city he works in- and got the city hall (he's a police officer) and they ladies there knew all about it- and once he got back- they told him to call me asap (but didn't say why ) and i asked him if he was sitting down- and he said yes- and i told him we got the email- and he was like- what email- i said the CALL- let's go get joel- he was so happy- then the waiting just is pushed back in your mind- but the waiting for that call is the worst- 13 months- was the worst... it was horrible- I feel for you and all we can say is- we're here for you lean on us- get out and keep busy- "water never boils when watching it" "phone won't ring if you're sitting next to it" make it ring- by keeping busy- go shopping- go to a park and write your thoughts about waiting for your little one. and how much you're going to love him once he's home. that's what i did - well not a park because it was winter..but you get it....
Can you have a Brandy day ? Go get your nails done, get OUT of the house even though you dont want a message ?
Go out for a nice dinner with your DH who I am sure is stressed out as well
Its *not* easy and you have every right to feel the way you do and having a cyster who has been there doesnt make it any easier becuz we have our babies home but TRUST US this too shall pass....
Get out of the house ! Even if you have to leave a message on your machine saying what time you will be home or "if" its the agency calling to NOT leave "the" message and that you will call when you get back home ?
I found getting out of the overbearing 4 walls of my house, away from babystuff staring at me, away from the phone helped...
I wish for your phone to ring Brandy with everything I have got
RING RING RING RING RING RING RING RING !!!!!
{{{{ hugs }}}}
Amy
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I'm doing the "Make Brandy's phone ring" dance right now. It ain't pretty (think Elaine and her dancing from Seinfeld ) but maybe it will help.
I second that you should take a Brandy day! Go get yourself pampered, girl. 'Cause once that baby of yours gets here, your pampering days are gonna be few and far between
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ill agree with dna and spooky, get out and try to enjoy it, i know this is so hard to do, but you really need to take care of yourself while you have the chance. i hate waiting too, but if you stay buisy the time will go faster. Do you have a cell phone? you could forward your home calls to the cell when you go out?
Thanks again for the support cysters, and sorry for freaking out.. AGAIN. DH gets rather frustrating at times. I know that he means well, but he just has this tone of voice when he's trying to "calm" me that drives me up the wall!
I don't think I've EVER had a "Brandy day".. I'm really just not the type, I can't sit still long enough for anyone to pamper me! I did jokingly ask DH to get me a "spa day" for Christmas.. but hopefully by then we'll have someone else to blow huge amounts of money on!
DH and I are hoping to get out of the house tomorrow for the Air and Water show here in Chicago. His company rented a rooftop bar downtown for all the employees to watch the show. It should be fun, if we make it! I managed to pull a muscle in my neck yesterday (no doubt due to being so tense all the time). The doctor gave me a shot to "boost the healing process", so I'm hoping to be well enough by tomorrow to LOOK UP at the planes! DH and I get out a lot on the weekends to go hiking and stuff like that, but it's been a very long time since we had a day out with other people! I miss other people!
News on the adoption front: I did hear from the program director today. I emailed her a few days ago and asked the same question everyone keeps asking me.. "Why on earth was the dossier sent to a place with no babies?" Well at the time she just gave me the standard "Your baby just must not be ready yet, God will bring you to him when he is" answer (which I do know is right, but kind of wanted something a little more concrete.)
Well today she called me out of the blue to tell me that the Lucia had contacted the Bogota office with my question. I had no idea they were going to do that. She said that the office told Lucia that "they had a whole bunch of babies, so the main office sent a whole bunch of dossiers, but they sent a couple too many and yours was one of those".
She said that our agency has been placing a lot of waiting older children for this particular region, and so they tend to have good "connections". Lucia spoke with those connections and was told that everyone at the Bogota office is hoping to have good news for us SOON, they haven't forgotten us and they all think we sound like we'll be excellent parents.. they just don't have a baby to give us yet. They told her that they will let her know *as soon as they do* (they usually take up to a week to inform anyone).
So, while it wasn't the call we were hoping for, the phone ringing dance DID work, and at least we have an answer to one question.. and we know they still remember we exist!
Thanks again for being there for me, I don't know what I'd do without my cysters *hugs all around*
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DS Samuel Sebastian(6) - Adopted from Colombia
DD Isabelle Caiyi(5) - Adopted from China
RNY Gastric Bypass surgery 1/30/2009
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Oh Brandy... so glad that you finally got an answer to your question. I hope that the next phone call brings the news that you have been longing to hear. When I was waiting so long between trips for our Alex, I just kept reminding myself that the longer the wait the sweeter the joy... and you know what? I was right... my joy overwhelms me constantly and is in direct proportion to the agony that I went through to get our little guy home... I hope you soon know overwhelming joy!
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Makes me smile to read your post Brandy. You sound so much better and I am sure things will work out soon.
I feel tears coming already I can only imagine the moment I read your post when you find out about your son. Oh the joy!
YAY!
(((((HUGS))))
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Feeling stressed and alone 
I hope you get that darn call soon, that's all!!!
) and i asked him if he was sitting down- and he said yes- and i told him we got the email- and he was like- what email- i said the CALL- let's go get joel- he was so happy- then the waiting just is pushed back in your mind- but the waiting for that call is the worst- 13 months- was the worst... it was horrible- I feel for you and all we can say is- we're here for you lean on us- get out and keep busy- "water never boils when watching it" "phone won't ring if you're sitting next to it" make it ring- by keeping busy- go shopping- go to a park and write your thoughts about waiting for your little one. and how much you're going to love him once he's home. that's what i did - well not a park because it was winter..but you get it....
