Fertility Treatments - is it the right thing for me?

NJGirl · 01-15-2009, 09:35 AM

Hi everyone. I am a Christian w/ PCOS. Just took my first Clomid last night and I felt like everything I did to pick up the prescription went wrong (pharm didn't have it, had to drive to another city to get it at 10 p.m.). While doing so, I thought, maybe I'm doing something God doesn't want me to do. My husband says God doesn't play with us like that and I believe him but maybe there's a good reason for my PCOS and infertility and He is protecting me. Maybe I'm not supposed to give Him a hand here. Maybe I should accept this as His will for us? I have so many thoughts about this... I want a family so badly and I know He knows my heart and I'm seeking His will here. If He doesn't want me to have one, fine....I don't question Him but I wonder if I should be doing this. Has anyone else gone through this? I'm so worried that I'm doing the wrong thing.

Anonykat · 01-15-2009, 09:57 AM

If you had diabetes, would you be worried you were doing the wrong thing by taking medicine that would help your body function better? People take medicine for headaches, serious illnesses, minor illnesses, and even to help their hair grow, and no one bats an eye. So why is it wrong to take a medicine that will help your ovaries function better? Remember that the author of one of the Gospels, St. Luke, was a physician. Medicine is good and a gift from God.

I have two beautiful children that are here because I took a medicine that kicked my sluggish ovaries into gear, and I am thankful for that medicine and that it worked for me. God did give me the children I so earnestly desired, but I had to do my part, too.

Jashobeam · 01-15-2009, 10:57 AM

Ditto what Anonykat said. DH and I decided for us that fertility treatments were not the right thing, but not because we thought God disapproved of it. I greatly changed my diet and for me that got my body a lot healthier and allowed it to work well enough to have a healthy child. We prayed and prayed about having a child, if it was God's Will and seeing our child there is no doubt about it. I also agree with your husband that God doesn't play games. If God doesn't want you to take the medication He would make that clear to the two of you in a way that's unmistakable as long as you are open to His leading. Right now I'm continuing Met. to keep my child healthy until delivery. I know without it, in the beginning, my chances of loosing the baby were higher. Does that mean I'm over rulling God? No, like was posted above God has blessed us with medicine and doctors and unless there is a clear Biblical doctrine or principle stating something is evil, there is no reason to shun it and say it's Biblically incorrect.

PixieChinchilla · 01-15-2009, 11:46 AM

I would take some time and pray on it. God gave us medical advancements to help and heal us. Yes, our sickness does have purpose, but that doesn't necessarily mean that He doesn't have a plan to also help us to move past our sickness. He has opened a door for you to try to have a child despite your PCOS. But if you really feel that this might not be the right path for you, you don't have to start the meds immediately. Take a few days, pray on it, and talk it through with your husband. God will show you His answer.

NJGirl · 01-15-2009, 08:00 PM

Thank you ladies. I need to hear some insight so I appreciate it. I think I'm harder on myself than necessary sometimes and I also think someone else is trying to sway me and put negative thoughts in my head. I know God has the ultimate say so no matter what. I'm only trying to make my body do what it was meant to do and the rest is up to HIM regardless. Medicine is great to help us but He is THE creator anyway!! Thanks again for your kind words...God bless

lj2blessed · 01-15-2009, 08:06 PM

NJ - I agree that you should wait and hear from God on this. While medicine is helpful, you can take it and still not get pregnant - KWIM? I think you should be at peace and know that God is leading you in one direction or another, and not your doctor. As for me, my doc gave me the Clomid prescription, and I filled it and misplaced it! When I was starting to get down and thinking "I'll never get pregnant" and thinking about taking the Clomid - I couldn't find it! But look at God, I got pregnant without it, and found the script shortly after I got my BFP!

Wish you the best, and will be praying that God orders your steps in regards to conceiving!

NJGirl · 01-16-2009, 12:13 AM

I am on day two of Clomid. I honestly feel at peace today. I don't believe He will allow me to get pregnant if it's out of His will. I am not doing anything to contradict Him or anything with an evil heart or anything that would not honor Him or honor my family. I think satan uses my racing mind against me. In my heart, I know God will lead me regardless. Medicine will not work if He doesn't want it to. I'm doing what I feel is right and what I need to do to be a mom and to raise a child up in HIM and if He doesn't want it to work, it won't and I'll accept it and thank Him for letting His will be done in my life. I may not understand it but it's ok...He knows what He is doing. I just needed to feel peaceful with my decision to proceed and I didn't last night. I feel much better today. Thank you again ladies...it helps to hear other's prospectives and I agree with many of you.

DiamondInTheRough · 01-16-2009, 01:14 AM

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Originally Posted by NJGirl

I am on day two of Clomid. I honestly feel at peace today. I don't believe He will allow me to get pregnant if it's out of His will. I am not doing anything to contradict Him or anything with an evil heart or anything that would not honor Him or honor my family. I think satan uses my racing mind against me. In my heart, I know God will lead me regardless. Medicine will not work if He doesn't want it to. I'm doing what I feel is right and what I need to do to be a mom and to raise a child up in HIM and if He doesn't want it to work, it won't and I'll accept it and thank Him for letting His will be done in my life. I may not understand it but it's ok...He knows what He is doing. I just needed to feel peaceful with my decision to proceed and I didn't last night. I feel much better today. Thank you again ladies...it helps to hear other's prospectives and I agree with many of you.

What a wonderful expression of complete and total submission to God and what He has willed.

Ajani · 01-16-2009, 10:39 AM

Just remember that no one is born outside of God's plan. Regardless of how conception occurs, God creates all life. I'm glad you've found peace in your treatment.

nickysdestiny · 02-04-2009, 11:38 PM

it is so wonderful to find a site where women talk about their faith and no one is right there to tear it down!! Praise God and, as Paul would say, "may his grace mercy and peace be upon you"!!!

Infertile Turtle · 02-05-2009, 12:53 PM

I try to think of it this way...I am taking a medicine to cure my body but it is God that decides if he wants the medicine to work. I pray that He will make it his will to grant us his child. The medicine is not a sign of doubting your Christianity as long as you keep believing that it is God that controls your body's reaction to it.

Jade2008 · 02-05-2009, 05:18 PM

I think we all go through some doubt when considering fertility treatments one way or another. For me, I found my peace after praying and listening to HIM and realizing that the only way any child is ever made is because it is God's will. If medical science were that infallable, then all fertility treatment will ALL have 100% success rates but we here know more than most people that they dont. Someone close to me felt that i wasnt trusting God enough by considering fertility treatment and was hurtful enough to say that if I had a baby that it wont be from God, instead it will be a science baby. I could only laugh, was pretty disappointment that a christian would think that. I just said she should try reading Romans 8: 28: And we know that all things work together for good of those hat love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. I beleive I can only get pregnant because it God's will and not by strength and certainly not by might

smcwhorter901 · 02-06-2009, 07:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Ajani

Just remember that no one is born outside of God's plan. Regardless of how conception occurs, God creates all life. I

Exactly... nomatter how a child gets here, it is God's purpose for them to be in existance...there is a purpose in everything that we go through... even infertility and fertility treatments.

Daysey · 02-23-2009, 10:44 AM

I haven't really looked at this section of the board until now. I don't normally have alot of internet time. But this thread has meaning for me too since I have had the same feelings NJGirl. But I have come to realize that God is in control and not me. Although that's very hard for me to give up. I feel that if He wants me to have a baby, I will. I am going to do all in my power including eating better, exercise, and using medicine. However, I do have a limit money wise. And that's okay. I really liked how you put it NJGirl