A few quick questions from a newbie

delydd · 06-29-2007, 08:21 AM

Hi all. DH and I have been trying to conceive off and on for 6 and a half years. We've gone through 2 medicated cycles and 1 IUI, both with negative outcomes. We have discussed adoption constantly since we were married in 2001 and always knew it was a choice for us. We both feel strongly about it, and had planned on it even before we found out we had issues getting pregnant.

Now for those questions....

DH is mostly Native American, and we would be very interested in adopting a N.A. child. However, it is next to impossible to find information about N.A. adoption. Does anyone know anything about it or have any suggestions?

Also, how did you all decide on an agency? DH and I are looking into both domestic and international adoption...I think we're leaning more towards domestic as we don't care about gender or ethnicity, but I'm scared we'll never be picked by a birth mom!!! Also, if anyone is in the Atlanta area, do you have any suggestions for agencies?

And finally, though this might sound silly, I am petrified! All I've ever wanted to be was a mommy, and this is a great way to do it...but the whole process freaks me out completely! I just have no idea where to even start (though I've read a lot of info, lol) and am scared we'll hit a point where we won't be able to pay for it. Has anyone else ever felt this way? Or do you have any advice for someone who is wigging out about taking the first steps.

I appreciate any responses!

Miss-Meme · 06-29-2007, 08:44 AM

First off, Congrats on taking the next step in to mommyhood! It's wonderful. I was the same way as you...scared...we all are. It's normal.

First off Native American...Native American is a little more complex because depending if the mother is registered with the tribe or not. If she is the tribe gets involved and in some cases only let the child be adopted within the tribe. If she's not registered then there is more then likely no problem. But to say you are looking just for a Native American child, you may wait a long time.

As for as an agency, this is a personal thing. Everyone has different needs. Some agencies cost more or less, so this or that. Check them all out and go with your gut on which on you like and fits your needs.

delydd · 06-29-2007, 12:37 PM

Oh, we aren't looking strictly at Native American. We would take any ethnicity or gender!!! We're not picky, we just want a baby, lol! The only thing I wouldn't be able to deal with, with our first child at least, is special needs. I might not have a prob later with it, but i would want them to be healthy (as if there's any guarantee in the long run! i have a cousin who gave birth to a perfectly healthy, normal boy 3 years ago who now has leukemia....i understand not everything can be predicted!).

I hope that came out right, lol. Anyways, DH and I are not picky...I have hispanic, asian, white and black in my family. not to mention dh being primarily Native American. We are a hodgepodge!

Miss-Meme · 06-29-2007, 01:25 PM

Thats good that you are not picky. That should make your wait shorter.

I understand what you are saying about health. I felt the same way. Some people can handle special needs better then others. I'm sure you (and I) would be able to handle any special needs/health issues that could come up as the child grows.