As most of you know, we found out two weeks ago our baby had no heartbeat. My doctors wanted me to wait 2 weeks to see if I miscarried on my own, if not do a D&C Surgical procedure. I started showing signs of this earlier this week and on Friday night went into a literal "Labor" and thought we had miscarried. But, after two hours at home, I was still bleeding and nearly passed out so they rushed me to the hospital, where I was met with the most careless staff possible. We had called my OB (who had another Dr. on call for him), who had said go to the ER, and if the doctor assessed me and I was bleeding too much, they would call her to come in and do surgery.
I ended up being at the hospital 3 hours before the doctor (ER) ever darkened the door of my room. It was a very frustrating night with me still bleeding heavily, and they did a sonogram finding I still had not lost the baby. So, the ER Dr. basically laughed in my face and said it was just a miscarriage what did I expect, and was going to send me home on bed rest for 3 days and not to come back before then. we asked him to call my OB and see if she would admit me, and when he left, Ryan and mom helped me up to go to the bathroom and I passed out in the bathroom. They got the nurse, who couldn't get me up or to come around, and the nurse hit all the "Code Blue" buttons she could find in the room, and someone at the nurses station kept turning them off, and no one besides a nurses aid came. The nurse ran Ryan and mom out of the room, and when she did they ran looking for nurses and the doctor (who was chit-chatting at the nurses station, not even hearing my nurse yell for him, or the code blue to my room... I finally wake up (After being unconscious for 3-4 minutes according to the nurse) and hear my nurse yelling at the other nurses for not coming/turning off the code alert. The nurses response was "I figured it was a kid hitting buttons".... The rest is a bit of a blur, but, they did call my OB and she was there within 5 minutes, and within the hour I was in emergency surgery to have a D&C/stop the bleeding. My uterus had hemmoraged and was bleeding uncontrolably until they got the surgery done. If the doctor had seen me within a few minutes of getting there, and not 3 hours later, I probably wouldn't have had the major issues that I did.
I had to stay overnight Saturday night as well due to the blood loss, and am back home today, but still very weak and tired. We had discussed starting to try again soon after the MC, but have decided we need a big break mentally and emotionally from all the TTC and stress of this... Hope everyone had a better weekend than we did!
__________________ Heth and Ryan: Married 6/2/07
First TTC: 9/3/07, no periods all fall...
Femara Cycles: 01/08, 02/08, 03/08, 04/08
Diagnosed with PCOS: 04/2008, Metformin 1000MG/Day, couldn't tolerate, lowered to 500MG/Day
Diagnosed with Uterine Septum & Resected: 10/02/08
Clomid TTC: 02/09
Clomid and IUI: 03/09
Folistim & Clomid Combo TTC (5 Eggs, no IUI): 04/09
Break All Summer... No cycle.
BFP! 8/23/09 Bleeding: 09/05/2009 U/S With Heartbeat!: 9/10/09
__________________ Metformin 1500mg, Yasmin, managing IR/pcos with lower carbs
First pregnancy ended at 23 weeks due to incompetent cervix.
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Second loss March 9, 2004 at five weeks
Third pregnancy, Cerclage at 13w
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I am so sorry!!! I have noticed that when I go to the ER with PCOS related problems they just brush me off. Its so sad that all they want to do is give you pain meds and send you home. So sorry for your loss and praying you feel better soon.
That is HORRIBLE!!! I think you need to write a very detailed letter to the HR department, to the head of hospital's board, the editor of your local paper, and anyone else you can think of, about this incompetent and shoddy treatment! Talk about adding insult to injury - first you go through the sadness of losing your baby, then the people who are supposed to help you turn out to be a bunch of dimwitted nincompoops! ugh!! I am so sorry, and I hope that you are able to heal physically and emotionally at a pace that's right for you.
I'm so sorry I don't understand the level of incompetence that seems to prevail at the worst possible times for so many of us. As if losing your baby wasn't bad enough, due to their poor judgement, you could have lost your uterus, too!
I went through something similar when I lost my baby. I was further along and had delivered my son, but my placenta wouldn't come. It took me (the patient) having to tell the nurse that I was losing too much blood before they took me into emergency surgery, where it was touch and go, and I had to receive more blood tranfusions then I care to think about right now. I had a bad reaction to the blood transfusions, and on top of that, I had doctors telling me that my heart could give out over the next few days.
They also had my recovering in the same hallway as women who had just given birth. All I heard for days was crying baby. How wrong was that? Some people have no sense...
I'm sorry I went off on a bit of a rant, it just upsets me so much to know that this kind of thing still goes on.
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I am so sorry!! I just found out that i will also need a D&C (baby stopped growing three weeks ago.) I am just praying that the staff at the hospital I will be going to will be more competent/caring than the staff at the hospital that you went to.
__________________ Miracle Occurs - 8/2/09
Beta 1 (RE) - 8/17/09 - 292 - BFP!!
Beta 2 (RE) - 8/21/09 - 1,497
Ultrasound 1 (RE) - 8/28/09 - 2.27mm, measured as 5 weeks, 5 days, EDD 4/25/10.
Ultrasound 2 (RE) - 9/11/09 - 14.37mm, FHR 150 bpm, measured as 7 weeks, 5 days.
First Prenatal Visit (OB) - 9/23/09 - 23.9mm, FHR 154 bpm, measured as 9 weeks, 1 day.
Second Prenatal Visit (OB) - 10/13/09 - 22.6mm, no heartbeat, measured as 9 weeks, 0 days.
10/15/09 - Miscarriage (D&C) - The Dream Ends and the Healing Begins
Adding insult to injury, we got the pathology report back today from the Pathology Lab. The OB wouldn't fax it to me, so I got it myself.
The OB Lied, the fetus had already passed so there was no fetal tissue to do genetic testing on. Even though her nurse told me yesterday "The fetus was 100% normal".
__________________ Heth and Ryan: Married 6/2/07
First TTC: 9/3/07, no periods all fall...
Femara Cycles: 01/08, 02/08, 03/08, 04/08
Diagnosed with PCOS: 04/2008, Metformin 1000MG/Day, couldn't tolerate, lowered to 500MG/Day
Diagnosed with Uterine Septum & Resected: 10/02/08
Clomid TTC: 02/09
Clomid and IUI: 03/09
Folistim & Clomid Combo TTC (5 Eggs, no IUI): 04/09
Break All Summer... No cycle.
BFP! 8/23/09 Bleeding: 09/05/2009 U/S With Heartbeat!: 9/10/09
First Loss Update: Emergency D&C 
I don't understand the level of incompetence that seems to prevail at the worst possible times for so many of us. As if losing your baby wasn't bad enough, due to their poor judgement, you could have lost your uterus, too! 
