My story: I am 30 and my DH is 29. I was diagnosed in 2005. In October of 2007 I found out that I was pregnant after being on 1000 mgs of metformin. It only took 3 months! We were sooooo excited! Everything was perfect and normal, so I thought, until the 35 week appointment when I measured too large. The dr did an U/s to find out why. I had too much fluid. To make a VERY long story short, a heart defect was detected before I was induced, and after 24 hours of labor and then a c-section a brain defect was found. My sweet Caroline could not swallow which is why I had too much fluid. She passed away after 3 days. That was 7 months ago today. My DH and I have been trying again now since September but I am having long cycles with no sign of O. I am coping as well as expected with the loss, have attended support groups and counseling, but I want to be pregnant more than anything.
I am on 1500 of met and on second cycle of clomid with no sign of o. I am very frustrated.
Anyone else out there with a late or full term loss and ttc?
I had a second-trimester loss in 2001. We waited a year before deciding to try again, and it took a few months to conceive. I remember the clomid didn't work as well as the first time, and we had to increase from 50 to 100 mg, and that worked for us. With my last pregnancy, I tried Metformin instead of clomid and that worked for us. I included a vitamin B6 (among my regular prenatal, folic acid, and B12) and conceived that month.
You delivered a full-term baby, while the outcome was so tragic, your body is still in recovery I think. It could take a little more time to get things regulated. How were your cycles before your pregnancy?
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We lost identical twins late in our pregnancy and had to ttc for 24 months afterwards. It was very very tough. I wanted to be pg again so bad it just killed me. It took 6 rounds of clomid over a 9 month period. HUGS and good luck.
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I just wanted to tell you I am so sorry for your loss.
I had an early miscarriage, but my sister had a full term still birth. So while I don't know firsthand what it's like, I did see the aftermath firsthand... so I do have a pretty good idea how devastating it is. I'm glad you're getting the support you need.
I hope that you are successful in your TTC efforts soon.
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I am so sorry about your loss! Caroline is a beautiful name, and I'm sure she was lovely. Seven months might not be long enough for your body to say "Okay, I can do it." Sometimes our grief is too deep for our bodies to let us try. I had a five week loss when I conceived soon after our 23-week loss, and I am certain it was because I was in so much pain emotionally. My suggestion is to work on your health in general and your emotional health specifically, and let ttc happen on its own for a couple of months. I wish I had waited a year, but I was getting "old". Many, many hugs coming your way!
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Hi. Very sorry about your loss. I have had a fullterm loss. I was 39 weeks pregnant, completely normal pregnancy and she just stopped moving. I went in to the ER and was rushed to OB. They hooked me up to the fetal monitors and there was no HB. After delivery the doc told me that her umbilical cord was twisted and kinked. He also told me that he "shouldve" done a sonogram the day of my last regular dr appt(2 days before) because when he went to hear her HB he couldnt find it because she was moving too much. I was very angered by this and still am. Its been almost 7 years and I still see this dr delivering friends and relatives babies. Ive recenently heard quite a few bad things about him and I dont recommend anyone going to him. Especially anyone who is high risk.
Anyway, so if you ever want to talk Im here to listen. Im new to this site Im not sure how everything works yet. But I think you can send me a private massage if you just want to talk.
kaogurll, I'm so sorry for your loss What an awful admission from your doctor. Something similar happened to my aunt with her baby girl. It was heartbreaking. I had a horrible doctor with my loss as well, and I still hear about her delivering babies today. With all the complaints about her, it boggles my mind that she is still allowed anywhere near a hospital. I've seen her around in the hospital from time to time, and it takes everything I have not to give her a piece of my mind.
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kaogurll, I'm so sorry for your loss What an awful admission from your doctor. Something similar happened to my aunt with her baby girl. It was heartbreaking. I had a horrible doctor with my loss as well, and I still hear about her delivering babies today. With all the complaints about her, it boggles my mind that she is still allowed anywhere near a hospital. I've seen her around in the hospital from time to time, and it takes everything I have not to give her a piece of my mind.
Thats funny you say you see her around at the hospital. The doc that delivered my DD just delivered my sis in laws baby this weekend and I had to watch him walk in and out of her room during labor and delivery and it just made me cringe. It was very scary listening to her screams and not knowing if it was the labor and delivery or something was wrong. Very scary. Im just glad everything turned out ok. He isnt even her doc. Her doc was out of town and he was the on call doc.
Ive actually found someone on myspace today that had something similar happen to them and she had the same doc as me. Ive heard too many bad stories about him in the past few years. I calso cannot believe he still allowed tp practice. Everybody from out town talk about what a great doctor he is and this and that. But like I said I would never recommend him as OBGYN to anyone, not even my worst enemy.
thank you for your sweet comments and stories. As much as I hate that anyone else has suffered a loss, it does somehow help to know that I am not alone. I used to attend a support group for my loss, but everyone in the support group is now pregnant. I am happy for them, but it just seemed so easy for them to get pregnant again. PCOS stinks!!!! I think it was kind of an unusual thing that I got pregnant so quickly the last time. That is adding to my impatience.
My cycles were long but regular before, like 40 days. I was on the pill up until about 5 months before we conceived so it is hard to tell.
I took 100 mgs of clomid this cycle on days 3-7. I am currently on day 22 and have not gotten a positive surge on opks. I also have the CBEFM and it has been reading high for the past 5 days. I guess I will have to wait and see. The shortest cycle I have had since Caroline was 40 days.
I never used OPKs or anything to self-monitor at home except for doing my basal temps. So unfortunatey I can't help you in that department. But 40 days is not a bad start to getting things back on track. If it doesn't work this month, I've read somewhere that egg quality might be better if you take clomid days 5-9 instead. It might be worth a try?
I can imagine how difficult the support group became when they all became pregnant. That seems so universally cruel. I hope you'll get the support you need from the cysters here. I wish I had this place when I suffered my loss. I really had nowhere to turn other then family, which wasn't a bad thing, but I soon realized that despite my life coming to a screeching hault, the world still went on with or without me.
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I had all of my losses before 16 weeks. I cannot imagine being as far along as you were. I will pray for you tonight and remember your sweet Caroline. Good luck in TTC. Hopefully you will have a BFP soon!
Thank you for the prayers. I will take all I can get. I got a positive surge on an opk this month. It's the first one since Caroline. I am very excited, hopeful, and scared to death. It's all in God's hands now.
My DH and I are also pursuing adoption. I just want to be a mom. I don't care if the child is my biological child or not. I figure one way or the other it will happen, and if I get two...even better.
Hope you are all doing ok.
Hugs!
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(((Hugs))) I hope that you get your wish of a baby soon. It does help to fill those empty arms and have a sweet little somebody to keep you company. It's good news that you got a surge!
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What an awful admission from your doctor. Something similar happened to my aunt with her baby girl. It was heartbreaking. I had a horrible doctor with my loss as well, and I still hear about her delivering babies today. With all the complaints about her, it boggles my mind that she is still allowed anywhere near a hospital. I've seen her around in the hospital from time to time, and it takes everything I have not to give her a piece of my mind.
