I am hoping that you all can answer my question or lead me in the right direction. I received a call from my best friend today. As we were talking, she mentioned her DH's cousin. The cousin is pregnant with her 3rd child and is thinking about putting the child up for adoption. Her other 2 children are currently living with her parents because she doesn't want to be a parent. Her parents have told her that there is no way that they can take in another child, as much as they would love to. My friend was wanting to know if my DH and I had ever considered adoption. Of course we have, but we were thinking more along the lines of international. Anyways...the reason I am posting is because I need to know who to contact to get the ball rolling on adoption. My friend had mentioned to the cousin that she knew of someone that wanted a baby really bad. I do want a baby really bad and this would be a dream come true. The only thing is that the baby is due in the next couple of weeks. AHHHH I don't know what to do. I'm not going to get my hopes up because her parents may change their minds and decide to take the child. Could we take the child in for fostering while trying to get the adoption process started and finished?? Oh, I have so many questions that I can't even get them all out.
I'm sorry this is sooo long. Any advice and/or help you can provide us will be greatly appreciated.
TIA!
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BUMP. Good luck I hope someone can answer your questions. Have you tried contacing the birth mother to speak to her directley?? You could try to contact Social Services they might be able to point you in the right direction. (that's just an educated guess, they seem to have every resource available at there fingertips) But I would start by contacting the birth mother.
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I would definately contact social services in your area and go from there.
Good Luck, I hope it all works out!
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I can't tell you how many times people came to me with friends and relatives who wanted to give their babies up for adoption. It has turned me quite cynical of this sort of introduction to the adoption process. The closest I ever came was with a girl name Roxanne. I went so far as to take her to her doctors appointments because without me she had no way to even get prenatal care. She changed her mind during one of those appointments and told me in the elevator on the way to the car. Here I was in a situation where I could not just break down and cry and I had to get her home, hopefully without completely losing it. Then after the baby was born she actually brought the baby by my work to show him off. Completely heartbreaking. That child ended up being taken away from her within months. I'd still try again if I had it to do all over. I'm not saying don't go for it, but just warning you to be careful.
I would try talking to her for sure before doing anything though and ask her how she wants to proceed if at all...talking about it is one thing...
In the meantime you could try contacting social services or a lawyer for advise and seeing what the rules and regs are in this situation
Good luck !
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I say GO for it! Years ago somebody made me the same offer and I had just had a m/c so wasn't ready and I regret it completely. How can it hurt to contact an attorney and then schedule a meeting to find out if she's serious? I think I would want the biological father there too if that is possible. Good Luck and Best Wishes!
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Thanks for your responses girls. I called and left a message for an attorney today and I'm still waiting for the call back. I have also called my friend regarding contacting the birthmother. I am going to be in the birthmothers area this weekend, and was thinking maybe I could meet with her. I will keep everyone posted.
Thanks again!
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I have a friend who this happened to. I think they had three weeks before the baby was due. They got to be there for the birth and took the baby home with them. It was incredible the way it worked out. If you want to PM me, I'll give you her website info
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I haven't heard back from the attorney. We are looking for another one to call...
I met the birthmother yesterday. It was kind of awkward. We really didn't discuss what she was going to do with the baby, but my friend made it a point to let them know that my husband and I were trying to adopt. She is due July 6th. The birthmother did mention that her mother, whom has adopted her 2 other children, is going to be naming this child. Kind of makes me think that her parents have reconsidered and are going to adopt this baby to. I don't really know.
Even if we don't get this baby, I still think we are going to see about adopting domestically. Why stop the train when it is just getting started, KWIM?
Thanks for all the encouragement. I will keep everybody posted.
Good luck! I hope this will work out for you. I agree with Laura Ann too, to be careful. My aunt asked me so many times if I wanted to adopt her son's & his pathetic girlfriend's baby last year, but something always came up that they didn't go through with it, the last time after I even kept him overnight. I told my aunt that next day to NEVER mention adopting that child to me again. The excitement was to great to keep coming down from. I do hope it works out for you...just be careful. We all know how easy it is to get our hearts broken over this.
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Girls...help me please!? 
