God, Am I Passing the Test??

christine1074 · 09-08-2006, 08:14 AM

Hello Ladies,

I am having a crisis of faith. Earlier this year I found out that Hubby had and affair and was unsure if this person was carrying his child. He found out that she is not pg and now wants to make this marriage work. Well my problem with him is that he is still talking to this and other women. I believe that you should stick it out thick or thin, but my faith is really being pushed to the limits. Sometimes I feel like I am slowly going insane. I pray to God and ask for guidance and wisdom. I am afraid that I don't know how to hear from God. I just wanted to share and see if anyone can offer any scriptures that can help me through this situation. I thank you cysters. God Bless.

Jashobeam · 09-08-2006, 04:51 PM

How commited to the marriage is he? It takes two to keep the marriage together. If he is still looking for someone to cheat with, you should prepare yourself for the possibility of him filing for divorce. This is not a punishment from God on you, but simply the side effects of your husband's wrong choices. There are tons of websites, books and lecutres on making marriages work, but they all depend on both partners being commited to making the marriage work. I have known other women to go through such things, and though it was painful during the marriage, there was a relief when they were no longer being betrayed. It's best if you sit down with him and ask him what his intentions are toward you and the marriage.

violamarie · 09-08-2006, 05:00 PM

Have you two started Christian counseling, maybe at your church or something? I know any counselor will say he needs to break off all contact with the other woman immediately if he is truly committed to your marriage. He must demonstrate 100% repentance. Being on the fence as he is may be an indication that he's not fully prepared to do what it takes to heal your relationship. Continuing to talk to her means he is susceptible to falling back into his old behavior. It shows serious disrespect to you and must stop.

I absolutely believe that reconcilliation is God's will. That being said, you cannot do this on your own. He has to be willing to do whatever it takes to get right with God and with you.

You should know that this isn't a punishment from God. In a fallen world, suffering is inevitable, and other people's sins often take a very heavy toll on us. God does hear you when you cry out to him. I pray that He restores your marriage completely.

jennynd · 09-08-2006, 05:09 PM

I'd agree with the others about counseling to make the marriage work. And right now you need to turn toward God, not away from Him. God answers all prayers according to His will, not ours, but he is always there to comfort us. God will never betray us even if people on earth do. You just have to trust in Him. Good luck & God bless your marriage.