Liesl123

My best girlfriend lives about 4 hours away. We were pregnant together and our sons were due 3 weeks apart. I lost my son at 21 weeks, and she delivered her son (she now has 3 kids) in late October. I have not seen him yet. She will be coming to town in February with her family and I know that when we see them that we will be in a large group. I was thinking that it would be easier on me if I see him privately first because I expect that I am going to loose it and cry. Currently, I am planning to go there for a weekend visit the weekend before they are coming here. My friend and her husband have been very supportive and understanding of myself and DH. They said that they expect there to be tears and to hold their son and just to let the tears roll and they will be there to hold us and cry with us. I expect it to be difficult, but feel ready to meet him. I miss my dear friend and do not want to avoid this any longer. Can anyone share with me what their experience was like the first time they saw their friend's child after your lost yours? I have been ok around older children. It is just the little ones that I have a hard time keeping it together around. Interestingly, my husband is just the opposite.

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Liesl 34 Blake 41

dx PCOS 1/2004 - 1500 mg Glucophage XR
dx Incompetent Cervix 7/2004
dx hypothyroidism 11/2004 - 100 mcg Synthroid
dx "pre-diabetic" 11/2004

starting letrazole 2/13/05 - Here we go!
2/23/05 - 5 follies
2/25/05 - trigger shot (HCG)
3/14/05 - HCG 12
3/16/05 - HCG 23
3/21/05 - HCG 97
3/25/05 - Agnel Baby at 5 weeks 5 days

angel baby William Thomas born 7/3/04 at 21 weeks due to incompetent cervix. He lived for one hour in our arms, but was just too young to stay.

AmyLynn156

I do not have experience here but I just wanted to let you know that I will keep you and your husband in my prayers.

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Amy (33) DH Kevin (34)
DS Alonzo Jayson (AJ) June 7, 2004

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SheriKCMO

Each one of these little ones is such a treasure, it is easier for me to simply hold and love them for their own sake than to involve my feelings for Mary Catherine at the same time. Somehow I can separate the two, though now I know just how precious they are! My husband is more easily reminded of our baby when he sees one. I know it is a very individual experience, and you are brave. I hope it goes as easily as possible for you, and I'm very glad you have such understanding friends!

The hardest part for me with other children has been seeing a father and daughter together, because I would have loved to watch my two sweeties getting to know each other and growing together and feeling proud of giving my husband that little girl. I usually hold my tears until I can be alone for that, because it's usually in public when I see a happy pair palling around or just looking cute together. Isn't it awful that other people's joy can be so painful to us? It really makes me think of the things I take for granted that other people wish for, like sight, walking, decent health, and obviously my new baby. I have become so much more sensitive because of this loss!! I wish things were easy for everyone!

Hugs,
Sheri

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Metformin 1500mg, Yasmin, managing IR/pcos with lower carbs

First pregnancy ended at 23 weeks due to incompetent cervix.

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Mary Catherine will be in our hearts forever, November 28, 2003.
Second loss March 9, 2004 at five weeks

Third pregnancy, Cerclage at 13w

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Duncan 2/11/05, 9lb 3oz
Fourth pregnancy, Cerclage at 13w

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Ruby 2/27/06, 9lbs

Gnzls924

I feel the way same as Sheri. I really don't have a problem with being around babies, much to the surprise of my family. I still marvel in the miracle that brought them to this Earth.

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Diana - 36!
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Our sweet angel, Mohamed Matthew Raymon Illyas,
born and at rest on November 30, 2004.
Lived only 30 precious minutes...(IC at 20 weeks)
Forever in our hearts, Together in our dreams.
We now live our life for you. We love you Matthew, our little Angel.

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