A great book for those adopting/adopted little boys

Adoption Momma · 07-29-2006, 02:08 PM

I found this great book at Books A Million. Since the boys are 6 and 7, baby books aren't appropriate. I know there are adoption books, but I wanted something a little different.

The title is "Dear Son a Message of Love" by Marianne Richmond and it retails for $15.95. It has a cut-out on the cover to put a picture and it's designed for pictures throughout the book. The pages are well-designed with unique graphics. On the first page you can write a personalized message to your son.

I have one for each boy. I'm going to put his current picture in the cover and every year on the adoption anniversary, I will add a new picture. I plan on giving it to them when they graduate high school.

The following is written throughout the pages:

Dear son you are my beloved boy.

Daring, Delightful. Playful. Energetic.

Curious and very funny.

How lucky I am to have the gift of you in my life.

I love watching you tackle the world with enthusiasm, a willingness to get down and dirty and with a bit of "boy craziness".

Time after time, you warm my heart and with your smile, your laughter, you silliness, and your extraordinary individuality.

I think a lot about how to be the best parent I can be to you. I try to do and say the right thing...even though we know I don't often do OR say the right thing.

Just know that I'm giving it my all for your journey.

I'm amazed by how smart and creative and capable you are. How your mind is filled with so many awesome dreams and ideas. Do you know how incredible you are?

I wish for you...wonderful life adventures, forever kind of friendships and opportunities to pursue your greatest passions.

Though boys are known for being "tough guys", I wish for people to be kind to your heart. And to realize that strong on the outside doesn't mean unbreakable on the inside.

While I can't promise you a trouble-free journey, I can tell you that strength is born amidst the struggles and disappointments.

My heart aches when I see you sad or hurting.

I don't know if you know how often I pray for you...for your guidance and wisdom and protection.

I know you think I'm "too much" sometimes. Too protective, too sappy and too affectionate. But, I know, deep down, you probably like it.

I want so much the best for you, and it's hard for me to let go sometimes. To let you choose, explore, experience, and, at times, regret. My love for you is just that great.

I see part of my job is to teach you to be a thoughtful, well-mannered young man. And to treat women with respect and kindness. You just might have a "lady" in your life someday. (yikes!)

I'm so PROUD of you for who are you. I want you to feel proud of you, too.

I try not to give "parental advice", but can I mention just a couple of things? Take the high road as often as possible.
Let go of anger.
Think twice before you talk...or send e-mail.
It's a small world when it comes to knowing someone who knows someone.

And when you think I can't possibly understand, I hope you realize that I just might.

I love you more than words can ever say. From head-to-toe tip, you are my beloved boy.

ravenmisfit · 07-29-2006, 05:32 PM

That sounds like an amazing book, and will make a wonderful gift for your sons. Another book that I had growing up was a Golden Book that was called I Am Adopted. It's ment for kids just learning to read, so your sons may be near a good age for it. The book goes through what adopted means in simple terms that a child can understand. I remember it growing up and still have it, I'm not sure where/if you can still get this book but it was great to have growing up.

Adoption Momma · 07-29-2006, 08:27 PM

I'll have to check on it. Thanks!

dna · 08-04-2006, 01:44 PM

I am going to check that out ! Sounds awesome

There are so many things for little girls it seems and not so much for boys

Thanks !

slhightower · 08-07-2006, 09:23 PM

Wow, that is one I haven't seen! But I think it is one we definitely need! Thanks for posting it!

babygirl18905 · 08-11-2006, 12:51 AM

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Originally Posted by ravenmisfit

That sounds like an amazing book, and will make a wonderful gift for your sons. Another book that I had growing up was a Golden Book that was called I Am Adopted. It's ment for kids just learning to read, so your sons may be near a good age for it. The book goes through what adopted means in simple terms that a child can understand. I remember it growing up and still have it, I'm not sure where/if you can still get this book but it was great to have growing up.

Can you please tell me the author of the book you had called I am adopted? I have searched everywhere and cannot find it. The only book I find with that title is by a women named Susan Lapsley. Thanks for your help.