guys..need help

Chancy · 06-20-2003, 03:48 AM

OK guys, I could use some help here.
I am a computer geek when it comes to software...you name it, I have learnt it. DH is slightly put off by this and tends to stay away from the puter....actually, after about a week of getting the internet hooked up..he says "this is boring, theres nothing to do on here" WHAT?!?!
So anyways, I have been trying to think of something for him to do online, then...BANG...it hits me: I need to get him signed up on SC. But, I'm not totally sure that he will be receptive to the whole yapping about women problems idea.
So, any suggestions on how I might be able to get him to join you boys?
He's the typical man: likes cars, racing, hockey...pretty much anything macho, I just dont know how I will get him to go onto a site for PCOS!

Pls help me find a way!

CandysMan · 06-20-2003, 04:04 PM

truth be told chancy, if he doesnt like the whole internet thing, then there's really no way to force him. i suggest showing him a few of the car type sites first, car body kits ect, maybe from there you can introduce soulcysters

other than that there's always other ways to get him in,, show him the chatroom, or other such sites..

first his interests need to be satisfied, then he'll come around, but remember, we males are a childlike breed, we hate being rushed into something we dont wanna do, so give him time. not every g33k starts out as one.

-=mike=-

Chancy · 06-20-2003, 05:46 PM

Well, I shouldnt say that he hates computers or the internet, he just doesnt realize the possiblities.
He does regularly visit some of the nascar sits but he just isnt aware of what else is out there.
I guess it's not so much that I want to get him on the computer, I want to get him to SC. I really think that if he had some guys to relate to, he might be willing to become more knowledgable about PCOS and perhaps a bit more confident with the situation. I feel that he needs a place where he can go and b#tch about me instead of keeping it all to himself...at least here you guys would be able to relate about having a PCOS'er around.

Well, me being the sneaky little bugger that I am, I have registered him with SC. Now I just need to convince him that this site isnt only for women. I must admit that yesterday is the first time that I checked out the husbands and boyfriends forum....some of the stuff you guys talk about, wow, your just as bad as us ladies!!

I really do think that he would enjoy getting to know you guys, I just need to figure out how to get him here

Anyways, thanks for you input Mike, much appreciated.

TxHubby · 06-21-2003, 03:21 PM

My advice would be to just have him come & sit with you for a minute, while you're on the website. Show him the husbands & boyfriends forum and the chatrooms, etc. just to let him know that it's not only a site for women. Tell him that there is a place he can go to ask questions or to complain or just to get something off his chest. It's a very good site for both of you to be able to talk to other people who are in the same or similar situation that you are.

You can't really force him to use this site, but if you show it to him, and talk to him about it & tell him how much it means to you & how you would like him to have a place he can go with questions or concerns, etc. then maybe he'll be more inclined to do so. When my DW told me about this site, I knew it was an important source of information & support for her, but I never really thought about me being able to use it as well. The first time she had me log into it & look around at the forums & chat rooms, etc. I realized that it could be very valuable for both of us. Now, I come here every day or so, just to see if there are any new postings or questions, or if anyone has responded to any of my posts. It's actually quite addictive once you get into it !!

Anyway, the bottom line is -- like the old saying goes " you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink"...so you can tell him about the site & show him around a little, and hopefully he'll find out that it's something that both of you can find useful.

Good luck with it...be sure to let us know how it turns out !!

Chancy · 06-21-2003, 05:01 PM

Well, an update....I got him registered with the site. I told him this and he was a little put off but agreed to come on with me and have a look around. Just to give him an example of what the boards are used for, I showed him some of the things that you guys have posted. He "seemed" interested but I guess only time will tell.
Thanks for your help guys, hopefully you will see him around the boards.

Chancy