gynaecologist appt.

lilazgurl89 · 11-02-2007, 01:22 AM

Well Im gonna have a gynaecologist appt soon. And I do NOT feel at all comfortable with it. I have been in tears for like 2 hours. I mean I have not had sex yet(im not planning to anyways). And I feel too small down in the area where the doctor looks and stuff. I don't want it done. But my mom said that she wants me to be looked at. Im just so tears and I don't know wha tot really think. Please help me and give me some advice. I would greatly appreciate it.

tashamarie · 11-02-2007, 04:05 AM

Relax! I had my first visit at about 8 years old because I started bleeding, my mom thought that since I was so young there was somethig wrong with me, nope, just af a lot early. I started regular visits at 14 when af stopped and I gained weight and I wanted to know what was wrong with me. It can be kind of uncomfortable, I myself have always preferred female gyno's, others prefer men, whatever makes you most comfortable. I am sure you are not to small in that area, it stretches, but you really have to relax and it will go a lot easier. It will be ok.

lilazgurl89 · 11-02-2007, 12:09 PM

i know. but my moms side of the female family all of them pretty much had female problems. And my mom wants to make sure I don't have like cysts and stuff. But if they are gonna only feel and examine in such a small area then how are they gonna examine up more? I watched a video on a pap smear. Now I don't think I can do that. I don't think I could stretch that big. I don't know. But thanks for the help.

kellie105 · 11-02-2007, 12:53 PM

Honestly you will be fine everyone has to go at sometime or another and there is no reason to be afraid. Its uncomfortable for me to go and have someone probing around there but it doesnt hurt- or let me say that it shouldnt hurt. They dont really "stretch you" or anything, its nothing that your body is capable of.

msmedical2017 · 11-02-2007, 06:20 PM

if you dont want 2 be examened there then dont its your body and you have the right 2 say no! i didnt let my gyn examen me there i said i didnt want 2 and she never asked me again

Future Doc Cyster · 11-05-2007, 07:18 AM

Lizagirl-It's normal to be a little nervous about your first GYN visit or first pap smear. Be sure to talk with the nurse and doctor about anything that's bothering you or makes you uncomfortable.

Also, your doctor might not even have to do a pap smear or use a specula (the little duck-bill looking thing the doctor uses to look inside of you). If for some reason the doctor does need to use one, they will probably use a small specula. There are different sizes of specula, and the smaller one is used for people who have never had sex.

Don't worry too much because they might not even have to do a pap smear. Most of the time when I see my GYN, she examines my breasts and uses an ultrasound machine to look at my ovaries. She can see my cyst with the ultrasound machine. She puts jelly on the lower part of my belly and presses a little rolly device on my tummy until she sees a good picture of my ovary and uterus on the screen. It doesn't hurt at all, and she doesn't even have to look at my privates.

Try to remember that GYNs are generally very open people and understand how uncomfortable the visit can make you feel. Ask them to explain first what they will do, and ask them to talk you through the exam. Remember that they see LOTS of women and girls, and you have nothing to be embarassed of. Going to the GYN is normal and healthy.

If you're really nervous, ask your mom (or a sister, aunt, ect) to stay in the room with you at the doctor's office.

If you have any other questions, doubts, or fears, feel free to PM me.

I'm a student doctor and Wanna-Be-GYN.

Best of luck!

charlocka · 11-19-2007, 08:45 PM

I can almost guarantee that he/she will not put that ugly huge thing inside you. They will not do the pop smear simply because you don't have an infection that you came to be checked for. If nothing bugs you he i'll put a couple finders in to see if everything is where it supposed to be and fells right. If they want to know if you have cycts or something they will refer you to have ultrasoung done. I had 3 different gynecologist and obviously i have problems and not even one checked me down there, and to make sure i don't have infections i go once a year to a different clinic full of nice women and they do the pop test for me, and there they do it only if you're sexually active.
So don't be scared you'll be fine.

charlocka · 11-19-2007, 08:46 PM

Future Doc Cyster great post!!!

lilazgurl89 · 11-20-2007, 11:22 AM

well here is an update:
Well I did end up going. And it wasn't so bad. But I do like the girl doctor that I had. I got an ultrasound. And I have no cycts. But she did check me down there. But nothing wrong.

kellie105 · 11-20-2007, 11:32 AM

I am so glad that your visit wasnt that bad for you.

APSUchick2006 · 12-05-2007, 05:23 PM

I know how scary a first gyno appointment can be! When I first started having period problems at 16 I had to go and I really didn't want to. I had a great Nurse Practitioner who talked to me a lot before she even did anything and she made me feel totally at ease. Now when I go it's like going to a regular doctors appointment (well...except for the fact that I make SURE I shave my legs!) While at first it will be slightly uncomfortable (the worst part for me was the breast exam, to be honest...) you will get use to it.

Good luck and don't worry too much, it's not that bad. =)