Hair. What if?

kelliet · 09-19-2006, 06:04 AM

I never notice excessive facial hair on other women, but I know that there are so many of us out there. We have become so good at hiding it and protecting ourselves.

I wonder what it would be like if all the women who have problems with hair felt comfortable enough to one day let it grow. Do you think we would "bump" into each other everywhere - the supermarket, at work, on the train etc? Do you think we would have a laugh and feel a bit silly for feeling so alone in this? If we lived in a society where it was "acceptable" to just be as we are without judgement, how would our lives be different?

I can promise you I would never be comfortable enough to do this, but it still makes me wonder.

Kel

belle84 · 09-19-2006, 09:38 AM

well if u think about how many of those mini hair trimmers sre sold and facial bleach there are more of us than we let on i do beleive x lol

joyblack · 09-19-2006, 02:27 PM

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Originally Posted by kelliet

I never notice excessive facial hair on other women, but I know that there are so many of us out there. We have become so good at hiding it and protecting ourselves.

I wonder what it would be like if all the women who have problems with hair felt comfortable enough to one day let it grow. Do you think we would "bump" into each other everywhere - the supermarket, at work, on the train etc? Do you think we would have a laugh and feel a bit silly for feeling so alone in this? If we lived in a society where it was "acceptable" to just be as we are without judgement, how would our lives be different?

I can promise you I would never be comfortable enough to do this, but it still makes me wonder.

If it ever happened, and no women (and no men either ) removed facial hair for a few months, what I'm sure we'd find is that there'd be a complete spectrum with regard to facial hair growth.
There'd be a few women with no facial hair at all.
Most women would have some sort of moustache growth -- varying from a light growth of fine downy hair, through coarser growth at the outer edges, through coarser hair over the whole upper lip, to full-blown male-type moustache growth.
A much smaller number of women, though a large proportionof older women, would have coarse growth on the chin
A small number would have sideburns
A very small number would have full, continuous beard growth.

What would we learn from all this?
That (as we already know) most males have full continuous beard growth
That some women have no beard growth
That most women (and some men) have more limited amounts of moustache and beard growth.
That a few women have full continuous beard growth.

And we wouldn't need to feel like freaks.

Eva37 · 09-19-2006, 02:46 PM

......... interesting thought

eva

squidge63 · 09-20-2006, 01:22 PM

I do let my hair grow (facial) I have pictures in other threads which show it. Many women have facial hair growth and not necessarily due to pcos, hence the number of hair removing stuff for women and bleach etc....

Interesting thread

88girl · 09-22-2006, 05:00 AM

I actually see women with facial hair all the time. I live in San Francisco, and most of the women that let theirs grow are lesbians. In the lesbian community- having masculine traits is considered attractive to a lot of women. A lot of people I know seem to think that lesbians somehow grow more hair than other women. I don't actually think so- I think they just choose not to hide it.

I myself am lesbian as well, but I am very femme. I do have pretty significant facial hair that I "take care of" like many of you. I am very ashamed of this hair, and when I see women who let theirs grow- I wish I felt more comfortable with mine. It's just that the hair on my face does not reflect who I feel like inside.

Becoming Sarah · 09-23-2006, 05:36 AM

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Originally Posted by 88girl

I myself am lesbian as well, but I am very femme. I do have pretty significant facial hair that I "take care of" like many of you. I am very ashamed of this hair, and when I see women who let theirs grow- I wish I felt more comfortable with mine. It's just that the hair on my face does not reflect who I feel like inside.

i also live in san francisco and i am ... well, not straight

i have a mild hair problem, and i am very ashamed of the hair too. and yes, i have noticed that the lesbian community is much more accepting of the hair.

DollFin511 · 09-27-2006, 10:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Becoming Sarah

i also live in san francisco and i am ... well, not straight

i have a mild hair problem, and i am very ashamed of the hair too. and yes, i have noticed that the lesbian community is much more accepting of the hair.

Well, I don't live in San Francisco (he he he), and I'm not a lesbian, but I do agree that it seems lesbians are more apt to promote women being natural. I think that is because so many of the ways women look at themselves (as far as "beauty") comes from wanting to adapt how men view beauty. Women who don't care what men thing (lesbians or not) tend to be more comfortable going without makeup, hiding their imperfections, etc. And some men (I am fortunate with my DH) honestly don't care about them, and still think they are beautiful (again, I am very lucky, my husband thinks I'm beautiful even on camping trips, if you get the point there!). (sorry for getting on a tangent ha ha ha)

So what is my point? Women need to come together to encourage one another, like we do on this site! Its a great one, and there need to be more. Its too common that women feel like they are in competition, or at least ACT like they think they are.

This goes for health, too. Women's needs are different than men's, but too often the medical community look at female problems as an inconvenience, and not a real issue (such as PCOS), which is why hystorectomies are the second most common surgeries in this country, just behind C-sections! Imagine if men went to the doctor and said "I'm depressed, irritable, and I'm tired" and the answer was to cut his penis off! Yeah, RIGHT!