Ok, this is really embarassing acutally. I have been married going on 7 years now and with him for 8, and I've had the nasty problem of hair on the chin since I can't remember when. I complain about my hair loss but never mention anything about the chin hair. I sneak around to shave it off everyday and if I skip on a lazy satruday by sunday I have as much stubble as he does. It's embarassing, I know that he sees it, and he probably knows about it, but I have never talked about it with him b/c it's so humiliating.
Any sugestions for how to get me over this and talk to him about it?? And anyone have anything that works for them to take care of the damn stuff??
Thanks for your help!!!
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Maybe give him an article to read that discuss pcos and the common problem of excess hair? this way he'd know that its just because of the hormonal imbalance and you are not the only one who has it..
Ok, this is really embarassing acutally. I have been married going on 7 years now and with him for 8, and I've had the nasty problem of hair on the chin since I can't remember when. I complain about my hair loss but never mention anything about the chin hair. I sneak around to shave it off everyday and if I skip on a lazy satruday by sunday I have as much stubble as he does. It's embarassing, I know that he sees it, and he probably knows about it, but I have never talked about it with him b/c it's so humiliating.
Any sugestions for how to get me over this and talk to him about it?? And anyone have anything that works for them to take care of the damn stuff??
Thanks for your help!!!
Ask him to shave your chin. Simple as that. Chances are he'll enjoy doing it.
By all means I don't mean to sound snotty when I say this..but how is it possible to be married to someone for 7 years without them knowing about something like that? I would say he does, you sleep together, wake up together, see eachother all the time right? I'm sure it doesnt bother him. I guess I am the kind of person who doesnt get embarassed too easily. I think guys are more oblivious then we think they are sometimes.
Does he know you have PCOS? I would say if he does then he knows about the symptoms right? And if he doesnt I would take the suggestion about giving him an article to read..maybe tell him some things bother you that you think you may have to hide and you want to be open about all the issues you deal with to him, to maybe make you two closer then you already are.
Last edited by strongernow; 02-18-2006 at 02:26 AM.
You're a lucky woman! If he never mentions it, I'm sure it doesn't bother him...he's probably just trying to keep you from feeling down on yourself about it. So by all means, bring it up if you want his active support! I'm sure it'll be fine.
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Wow-that is my situation exactly. It IS embarassing. I just don't deal well with it. I have been married 3 years but we've been together a total of 13. As I get older(I'm 34) the hair gets worse and worse. Once about 10 years ago I was getting out of the shower and he asked me if I shaved my face. I would have a full beard if I didn't shave every day. I asked him why? He said it looked like it. I could of cried. I was mortified. Nothing more was said and fast forward to our honeymoon 3 years ago and he walks in on me in the shower as I am shaving. Oh the horror!! I hate it! Of course he knows. I've pushed him away so much when he would try to caress my face, that he doesn't even try anymore. If I could change one thing in my life-that would be it. To be hair free. I don't have any answers for you other than I'm sure he already knows too. I think about trying laser removal-but I will have to gather up the courage to tell him because I know it will cost a lot. I just can't face the embarassment of talking about it. Good luck to you!
Of course he knows. I've pushed him away so much when he would try to caress my face, that he doesn't even try anymore. If I could change one thing in my life-that would be it. To be hair free. I don't have any answers for you other than I'm sure he already knows too. I think about trying laser removal-but I will have to gather up the courage to tell him because I know it will cost a lot. I just can't face the embarassment of talking about it. Good luck to you!
Don't push him away -- ask him to kiss you and to rub your chin when you're bristly. Ask him to shave you. Make it something you share, rather than something that divides you. My husband will nuzzle me first thing in morning because I'm bristly then.
I'm working up the nerve to tell DH that I want LHR. I know he's seen me without shaving before but it still really hard to open up and talk about it
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I talked to DH about LHR !!!!! I just broke down and brought it up. He asked me a few questions about the dangers and $. My original estimate was $2000but today I found a place that used a gemini laser for about $130 a treatment. DH said that if it would make me feel better about my body, to go for it!!!! I am so luck to have him, he loves me like I am but he knows that this is a big issue for me.
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Bless ya cysters, i know how you have felt it took me about a year to pluck up the courage to tell my darling i had facial hair problems, he said he had noticed but it did not bother him, he loved me for who i was and it made no difference.
It is very good idea to show him some articles so he will understand.
Hope all goes well
Love
Suzanne
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I snuck around for the first few years of my marriage. Finally, one day hubby knocked on the bathroom door and said, "I need to pee, can you stop plucking for a few minutes?" He knew all along and just didn't care. He still swears my facial hair isn't that bad. He does complain about my hairy legs, though!
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I feel like the hair is something personal and part of your own personal hygeine. Yes, I'm sure he probably knows. But why do you feel you have to talk to him about it?
I've also been married for nearly 7 years, and I've never sat down and talked to him about the actual hair. He knows I have pcos, and that means irregular periods, and other hormonal side effects. I figure it's quite obvious, and we don't need to discuss it any further.
I feel like somethings are better left private, and even though I am married, this doesn't mean that my husband should know every single detail about me. I am still an individual, and have personal space that should be respected, and I don't feel in the least obligated to tell him about shaving...
If he ever asks you about it, then you could tell him as much or as little as you need to. But other then that, I feel like you are putting undue pressure on yourself, regarding a private issue that he probably already knows about
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I had my first session for Laser this weekend. DH actually asked me why I wanted to get something done about it all of a sudden! I told him that this had been a problem for me for years. I guess men just don't understand how hard it it for a woman who has facial hair.
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"Does this look bad, can you see it?" Then say something about how you hate having PCOS and the hair.
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My hair is VERY obvious. I think he would have to be blind not to see it. I have chin and neck hair which are very dark and my skin is light. I have to shave daily. He knows about the PCOS because we really talked about it when TTC.
So far I can't tell much about the laser. I think the growth may be a little thinner, but it may be wishful thinking.
melissa... you just have to break down and bring it up. I brought it up while we were in bed (in the dark). It's easier for me to talk about sensitive subjects in the dark... just call me a coward!!!
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hairy situation 
