Hello everyone, coming back to the boards after a very long vacation from ttc. Hubby and I have now decided to foster to adopt. I am curious to know if anybody on the boards has experience with this. I'd like to find out what I'm in for here.
Any help would be greatly appreciated!
I haven't done it, but around here (in WVA) when you sign up for fostering, the company will set you up with a child that can possibly be yours if the time comes that the child will be available for adoption. A friend of mine tried to do it. So if you are very young, they will only let you foster a certain age group.
Good luck with your endeavors!
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hi- my dh and I have been fostering for about 9 years now, we are on our 13th placement. We have adopted our son thru the system when he was 4.We got him when he was 2.
I also teach the pre service class that is required in the state-IA.
Doing fc has really opened up our eyes to how sheltered our lives are... There are a lot of pluses and minuses...we woulrdn't still be doing it if the pluses didn't outweigh the minuses
annette
Hi! We are on our way to adopting our baby girl. She came to our home at 6 weeks and is now 13 months! Anyway, we had court yesterday and the judge tpr'd the bio parents. This is our first experience with foster to adopt. I must say that this whole experience has brought me alot closer to God. I prayed so hard to save this baby from a potential bad situation and he listened. We have been truly blessed by foster-to-adopt. I would like to just foster in the future. I wish you the best!
hi! welcome! we are doing foster to adopt as well. we right now have a little aa boy who was brought to us at 3 days old right from the hospital! he is considered foster right now, but his mom has lost custody of all ten of her other children. so there's a very good chance he will go to adoption! he is now almost two months old and the light of our lives! we know that there are the neg's about his. he may go home. that would be heart breaking. also, it seems that most state agencies will tell you there is no way in heck you'll get a baby. well, obviously that's not true! we got one and the other couple from our class had a 6 month old (she was a temp) and then recently had a 4 month old ( had 2 other siblings with trouble so they had to move her onto another family tho) so that's three babies from the county that told us there were never babies!! so don't get discouraged should you be told that. ask away if you have questions and good luck!!
I think the hardest part of fc is putting your heart on the line... Taking care of and loving these children as your own and than they may or may not go home..Does your state do concurrent planning? Its good for the kids but hard on the fp...
Right now we have a 6 month old that we've had for 3 months..he is the "gerber" baby... but he's not, most all of the babies and kids in fc have been affected by drug and alchol prenately and aftrewards by parents usuage.. The hardest thing about theses ones is you don't know the effects until they are 5-8 years old and than the behaviors start
Its neat to read other fc stories,
Annette
We are in Iowa and went as far as finishing the classes before deciding to go straight adoption thru our agency. I personally felt I learned nothing I didn't already know during the classes and felt there were too many chiefs and not enough indians involved in the foster, foster to adopt process. Our agency and DHS weren't on the same page regarding our house and family. We have a lot of pets, I work with animals and we have a pool. Agency had NO problems with any of these things, DHS, based only on paper info, no visits, seemed to leave us in limbo. It was a year from when we first went to agency to when we completed classes. 4 months after that we were chosen by a birthmom to become parents of her baby. I think we were amazingly lucky and fortunate with the way things turned out for us.
Having said that, I say go with your instinct for what is right for you and your family.
Our initial process was so long because the state was changing the education rules and we got caught up in the crossover.
Thank you all for your kind words of encouragement. We are planning on signing up for the fc classes this summer, and just can't wait to get the ball rolling. We realize this can be a bumpy ride with these kids, but are excited to have the chance to make a difference in their lives as well.
Hi, We are in OHIO and the county we live in says that you must foster to adopt. That they dont do straight adoption. For that we would need to go through a private agency. However, to make a LONG story short, we decided to go for it, the county knows that we dont want to foster, but we are hoping that they will work with us. I dont want to get attached and then have the bio parent come back and take them away, just to have them back in the system in less than a year. I could go on and on, but we havent received any children yet, just got licensed in March 04. However, last week, the day I found out I m/c'd our SW called and said that they had perm custody of three children, are we interested? 2 boys, 1 girl, ages 3, 2 and 1. We are hopefuly going to meet them this weekend. YIPEE!
Angel Baby,
I was placed into foster care at the 4 months old. God orchestered so many avenues & just ... well, God is a big God.
People swear I look just like my mama, foster mama that is. We don't look alike at all, but the bond is so strong that it transcends physical looks. It doesn't always happen that way. I'm from a small, rural La town & have seen it from both sides of the fence. Social workers are still upset that I did not b/c a social/case worker. It was not my calling. I desire to adopt or foster-to- adopt if that is the Lord's will. I don't know how the foster system in your state works, b/c it differs from state to state & even city to city.
I pray that the will of God in the name of Jesus Christ imparts & overflows His wisdom & peace throughout your entire being.
Peaceful Journeys,
Linda S.
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