It's been almost six months since our homestudy was completed and we were given final approval by our adoption agency.
Our agency says it takes an average of 6 months to be matched, but could take longer.
2 months ago we got a call that said a prospective BM called in from our adoption agency's web site and that she was interested in us. Only us!!! Well, that didn't last long a week later we got the news that she and her husband had decided to parent their child (I am happy for them and the baby), but sad for us. But we were ok. We knew that this could happen.
I found out today that our profile is being shown to a BM and because of her preferences she is only considering us and one other couple! To top that she's due next month!
I want to pull my hair out! I'm so nervous. I'm trying not to think about it too much, but I'm excited!!!
I'm not totally invested in it because I know there's a chance we won't be the ones picked. How does everyone out there cope with the wait??? Our nursery is done. Some shopping has been done, but the weather is so crazy down here it's hard to buy clothes. I need a new hobby!!!
__________________ Me (33) & DH (35)
TTC 12 Years
Dx PCOS circa 1994
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What about a quilt ? Its a Chinese tradition that a baby receives 100 Good Wishes and quilt squares when they are born...I am doing one for our daughter and its a great time passer...regardless of whether or not your child is being adopted from China its still like I said a great time passer
Good luck ! I will be thinking of you ...
Oh and a journal ! Keep a journal of your thoughts etc right now Will be a great keepsake for your future daughter/son
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Thinking of you! I hope you have good news REALLY soon!!
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G/L....I pray your special blessing will come home soon.
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I'm gonna stop looking back and starting moving on
And learn how to face my fears
Love with all of my heart, make my mark
I wanna leave something here
Go out on a ledge, without any net
That's what I'm gonna be about
Yeah, I wanna be running
When the sand runs out
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OH THAT'S WONDERFUL about the Birthmom considering you!!!! Lot's of warm thoughts sent your way! Can't help with the coping ideas while waiting... all I seem to be able to do is stress and then stress some more. LOL Well that and day dream about holding our little Katherine.
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Thank you so much everybody!!! I guess there's not much that you can do to keep from thinking about something like this. I've got my fingers and toes crossed! I'm just trying not to stress eat too much!
Good luck to everyone else out there waiting for their babies to come home and be in there arms.
__________________ Me (33) & DH (35)
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Can I ask which adoption agency you are going through? Is it an agency in the state you live in?
I was also told that my wait would be about six months on average after the home study is complete, and I wonder if this is something adoption agencies tell everyone.
Also, are you adopting a caucasian baby? We are adopting a bi-racial baby and that's why they thought our wait would be so much less.
Good luck to you!
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After 4 miscarriages, we are moving on to adoption. We are looking to adopt a bi-racial baby from a private agency in Florida.
All adoption paperwork is done and we are patiently (ha!) waiting for our little dream come true!
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That is great news about the bm considering only you and another couple to adopt her baby! My fingers are crossed for you and I'm hoping you have a baby in your arms in just another month!
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Thank you everyone for your well wishes, but I found out last night that the BM has decided to parent her baby.
This is the second one in the last month or so. I'm going crazy!!!
When I told DH last night he tried to comfort me he said, "Well, that's part of it right?" If looks could kill!!! He'd def. be dead. I know it's part of it, but can't I have a second to just be mad!!!
Well, chin up! We're in the wait again. That's what we do. Right?
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Oh I'm so sorry! I completely understand what you're going through. We were disappointed several times before we were matched this time. I'm still saying my prayers that all works out for this match. One thing that just seemed amazing to me is how horrible you can feel at one moment and then how quickly that can all change! You never know what the very next moment will have in store for you! I kind of have been thinking about this whole adoption process as being my labor pains. It's kind of my suffering to bring my baby into my life. I just wish it could be a quicker delivery! LOL
Hang in there! My thoughts and prayers are with you!!
Julia
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Thank you so much for your understanding. I agree with you that this is kind of like labor pains. A lot of people explain it as 9 months of pregnancy. All of the anxiety, waiting, etc.
I guess it's like everyone says when it's meant to be it will happen.
The lady I go through at the agency said the same thing you did in that it will happen when we least expect it.
I hope it does!!!
Good luck on your match too. I hope everything works out fine and your baby is home with you soon!
Adrienne
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It has been almost six months..... 
I want to pull my hair out! I'm so nervous. I'm trying not to think about it too much, but I'm excited!!! 
