bdmaster

I was just thinking about all the pills and probing my poor wife goes through to try to get pregnant. It's just not fair. I wish I could do more to help.

DMK417

Its really great of you just to admit that it isn't fun for you, either! You are helping by being there, just continue to be understanding, especially when her hormones go wild!

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La Blanca

The fact that you recognize all of that means that your wife is very lucky to have you. Wipe her tears, give her hugs, tell her that the two of you will be okay no matter what and that you'll do whatever she needs you to do. Don't give her false hope, don't just placate her, and don't patronize her...just be supportive and tell her you love her. If she feels like she's got a partner in all of this--ALL OF THIS--then it will be much easier.

Good luck to you both.

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TTC since June, 2005
Dx Dec, 2006

2007
Jan/Feb: 2000mg Met + 50mg Clomid - BD = BFN
Feb/Mar: 2000mg Met + 100mg Clomid + BD = chemical pregnancy
Apr/May: 2000mg Met + 100mg Clomid + late ovulation = BFN
June: 2000mg Met + 150mg Clomid + Ovidrel trigger + BD - CM = BFN
July: 2000mg Met + 150mg Clomid + Ovidrel trigger + IUI + BD + Pre-Seed = A healthy (but breech) baby banana born at 37 weeks, 6 days
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ajhyer

I agree with the above ladies. Just show her that you love her and appreciate all she has to go through. When she is feeling blue offer to give her a back or foot massage. Hold her when she feels like giving up and tell her how much she means to you. Just being there for her is what she needs most from you right now. She doesn't need to feel like she is a burdon to you. Make sure that she knows no matter what happens you will always be there for her!

bdmaster

Thanks. She's not a burdon to me. I don't always love being a "sperm on demand" dispenser but I realize that timing is everything....

La Blanca

I can only imagine how that must feel. You're absolutely entitled to your feelings and you absolutely should continue seeking support and help for how you feel. Just whatever you do, please never say that to your wife. It's probably the worst thing she could ever hear from you during all of this. Keep unloading here if you need to, but she needs you to be a rock right now.

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TTC since June, 2005
Dx Dec, 2006

2007
Jan/Feb: 2000mg Met + 50mg Clomid - BD = BFN
Feb/Mar: 2000mg Met + 100mg Clomid + BD = chemical pregnancy
Apr/May: 2000mg Met + 100mg Clomid + late ovulation = BFN
June: 2000mg Met + 150mg Clomid + Ovidrel trigger + BD - CM = BFN
July: 2000mg Met + 150mg Clomid + Ovidrel trigger + IUI + BD + Pre-Seed = A healthy (but breech) baby banana born at 37 weeks, 6 days
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biker_jt

i'm new to the whole situation but my wife will be going through that soon, any advice?

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bdmaster

Advice from me.

Go to as many appointments as you can that your wife wants you to go to.

If you go to and appt. ask questions

Just be as supportive as you can

try not to hate the fact that your sexlife is gonna be on a schedule

have something to do when your wife is taking meds that can/will make it difficult to be around.

Try not to worry about everything..not easy but it's better than all of your hair falling out.

da_blue

Hi everybody,
I was always worrying about myself and trying to get pregnant, I could see that my fiance was worried and I never really took the time to stop and think about how I could help him through this too. As a nurse and person wanting to become a mother I forgot about those around me. Its' time to stop and find out how he's doing because this is just as hard on him as it is on me.

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Married 08/25/07
Dx PCOS 08/23/06
TTC #1 07/01/06

-1500mg Metformin
-10mg Provera
we're out of TTC for August and possibly september as RE is doing investigations...no clomid
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Mommy2Drew

Just being there for her will make her feel better. I know most women that really want a child will be willing to go thru hell and back to make it happen. In the end it is all worth it!!!!!!!!! You can't do it for her but knowing you will help in any way she needs you to will make her feel better. I think it is great you want to help... I wish there were more men out there like you.