i wonder if anyone else feels like this? i feel useless. i'm always exhausted, constantly stressed, i feel like i can't do anything right. i don't want to die and i'm not suicidal, but sometimes i wish i'd never been born as life is such a struggle.
Hey I know how you are feeling. I feel like that too sometimes. Work is too much for me, I put on loads of weight that I spent 6 months losing last year! Urgh... I have no time for myself... it just sucks. However, I am taking it upon myself to change this situation - looking for a new job and closing down my main business. Need to join some exercise classes/a gym and get my butt moving. Focus on diet and see if I can sort that out... Taking control... that makes me feel better - just need some energy to do it!
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Furbabies: Millie, Yorkie, 3 years old
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I am a pescatarian and on a low-calorie, healthy diet trying to incorporate as many low-GI and low-carb ideas as possible. I am also excercising - mainly by doing workout DVDs and walking our 3 dogs.
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Aw, love. I sometimes think as women we're conditioned to think of everyone else's needs and are automatically considerate to others, but forget to be kind to ourselves, too. That's really important! Cut yourself some slack. Be kind to yourself, and those things you can control - take control of. Those things you can't, accept they're not your fault!
We're only here a short time - life is so precious. I found learning to meditate massively helpful in de-stressing and also helped me generally become more laid back and accepting of myself.
You know what? We contend with this thing, PCOS, each day of our lives. I reckon that makes us special and brilliant and impressive!
Be kind to yourself. Accept there's things that will always be challenging, but also they're things you learn the most from. Anyway - I happen to know you're great... or you wouldn't be a cyster here with us, eh?
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thanks for your replies ladies. i'm on school holidays at the moment. i've been off work for three weeks and i am still so tired that i end up crying a lot. i'm trying to lose weight, dieting, exercising, taking xenical. i'm covered in spots, hair, eczema. i've moved to live with my boyfriend near his job and friends, and all my friends are miles and miles away and i have noone i could call for coffee.
and i've no idea how to make new friends where i live now as i work miles away and i have no money or energy to be going out and meeting new people in the evenings.
i'm so lonely, and tired and sick of my life being a struggle. i just want a little break - to lose some weight, to meet a new friend, not to be as tired as i am. i'm not asking for much but none of it is happening.
i know if i tell my doctor this he'll tell me i'm depressed, but i'm not depressed. i know what it's like to be depressed. i'm tired, exhausted. and life is very hard when you're so tired you ache all over and your head wants to explode.
i know if i tell my doctor this he'll tell me i'm depressed, but i'm not depressed. i know what it's like to be depressed. i'm tired, exhausted. and life is very hard when you're so tired you ache all over and your head wants to explode.
I hate it when they do that! Hmmm... I am not sure how to make friends either - not very good at it myself. Sometimes joining an exercise class or something similar helps... gets you out of the house/doing something positive. Do you work as a teacher? I just wondered because you mentioned the school holidays. At the moment I have terrible spots, am waiting for my period, have put on loads of weight and have hairloss/terribly greasy hair. I totally feel what you are going through.
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Furbabies: Millie, Yorkie, 3 years old
Auntie to 3 furbabies: Cleo (Rescued dog), Asher (Papillon) & Pippin (Rescued kitten, now a big lazy cat!)
I am a pescatarian and on a low-calorie, healthy diet trying to incorporate as many low-GI and low-carb ideas as possible. I am also excercising - mainly by doing workout DVDs and walking our 3 dogs.
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I really feel for you ellie . Moving to a new area, or away from your friends is tough at the best of times so it must be twice as tough as your feeling tired and stressed aready. I also think it would be a good idea to going the gym, I went to the ladies night at my local gym and it was not as half as scary as I thought it would be and it gave me the confidence to go at my prefered time and on my own. For some reason doctors answer to everything is "depression" so explain how you are feeling and if you don't get help then try to see another doctor, thats what they are there for after all!
thanks guys. i've managed to put on 3lbs this week even tho i've not eaten that much. i put on weight just looking at food. i managed to get a whole 2 1/2 hours sleep last night - the insomnia isn't helping my mood!
i'm going to go to the gym a lot this week, maybe swim a bit. i know it isn't a great aerobic work out but i like the weight-less feeling!
first of all can i send you a big friendship hug and a smile.
i know JUST how you feel and ive been feeling particularly like that lately - the last couple of weeks have been a nightmare. i feel lonely and useless and gross.
i think an exercise class is a great idea. i met one of my now closest friends through the gym. she has recently moved away and i really miss her, but we email eachother all the time and tell eachother what we have been up to at the gym and in life in general.
if i were you i would go swimming as well seeing as you enjoy it- the best way to stick to anything is to do something you enjoy. why not alternate a swim session with a gym session or a walk or something? and set yourself little targets. such as, if i go to the gym 3 times this week i'll treat myself to a magazine and a long hot bath to read it in? i had to break my habbits of 'treating' myself with chocolate etc. coz i would feel good...and then feel minging coz the reward was something i was trying to cut out!
also, there is NOTHING better than a little pamper party. last week i was really fed up and felt minging, so my cousin said i had to give myself a pamper party. so i went home, i had a bath with oils and candles, i painted my nails and toenails, had a face pack, plucked my eyebrows and put on some fake tan. and as superficial as it sounds..... i felt a bit better for actually spending some time on myself, doing the things i never have time to do.
hope some of these ideas help
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my GP is being useless so i'm having to pay to go privately and i'm going to london on thursday. i can't really afford it but i'm so desperate to feel better that i'm willing pay anything at the moment.
i'm still feeling rather hideous, but i've stopped taking the xenical and the headaches, upset stomach and eczema have disappeared. i'm still feeling exhausted and useless, but i'm hoping that with the visit to the private doc on thursday that i'm going to start getting better, and that this is the worst i'm going to feel ever.
i'm feeling cautiously optimistic at the moment. i don't care what i have to pay, i just want to feel better - and what better use for my credit card!?
i'll let you know how i get on with the Prof on thursday - but my bf and i are going to stay in london for the weekend. we couldn't afford a holiday this year, but now we're having to go to london anyway and pay all the travel expenses and one night in a hotel, that we've decided to pay for 2 more nights in a hotel and have a bit of "us time". i'm rather excited about it all!
elliecat - good luck - will be interested to know what happens with your doc visit as I am considering the private route too. Have a nice time with your OH!!
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Furbabies: Millie, Yorkie, 3 years old
Auntie to 3 furbabies: Cleo (Rescued dog), Asher (Papillon) & Pippin (Rescued kitten, now a big lazy cat!)
I am a pescatarian and on a low-calorie, healthy diet trying to incorporate as many low-GI and low-carb ideas as possible. I am also excercising - mainly by doing workout DVDs and walking our 3 dogs.
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hating yourself 
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. Moving to a new area, or away from your friends is tough at the best of times so it must be twice as tough as your feeling tired and stressed aready. I also think it would be a good idea to going the gym, I went to the ladies night at my local gym and it was not as half as scary as I thought it would be and it gave me the confidence to go at my prefered time and on my own. For some reason doctors answer to everything is "depression" so explain how you are feeling and if you don't get help then try to see another doctor, thats what they are there for after all!
