Well I havent posted in a while because there is nothing to really report!
We started our homestudy and our caseworker was kind of dragging her feet. Spreading our appts out a month apart, and then we were two days away from our final visit and she called and told us she was putting us on hold. Because she wanted my husband to get a mentor for school! Hes not going back to school. So whatever we told her that he wasnt going to back to school, and she told me that she would call in a month and we'll set up the last appt. So fine I actually called her about a month later to ask her a question about something that didnt even involve us, and at the end of the conversation she said well I'll call you in about a month! I mentioned that she had said that before and she said that she felt we still needed time. We basically gave up.... we had/have no hope left. Well we got a call about a month ago and we were told that our caseworker was fired. She was no longer with them and that we were getting a new one, but they had to sort all the people that that our casework had been assigned to, and get them to other caseworkers. So fine we were waiting getting some hope back! Then we got a call last week from our agency again, asking if we had a rough draft of our homestudy? We dont I guess we were suppose to get a copy of one but we never did. Come to find out our caseworker was let go on not so good of terms and is refusing to give them our homestudy and others as well! So we are back at square one! Starting over... have to go thru all our visits again, and all the same ole' stuff we already went thru. The problem is I have taken so much time off already for the visits and her no shows etc that I dont have much time left to take off. So I'm really going to need this caseworker to work around our schedule!
So this is what has been going on. Not a lot of fun! We've been really stressed, and gave up hope, only to get hope back. I pray every night that this horrible cycle would just end and we could have our child(ren) in our arms! There are so many out there that need us yet we have this problem an unfinished homestudy!
Please pray for us! Pray for our new caseworker whom ever that is, and pray that all the children out there in the world will be in the arms of love ones soon!
Oh Roberta, I'm so sorry you've been treated that way! There is no reason for a homestudy to take more than 2-3 months TOTAL. In a pinch, they should be able to get it done even faster than that. Please remember that these people are working FOR YOU. You are paying them a fee to provide a service. If they continue to give you the run around or refuse to work with your schedule, after all they've already put you through, I would demand a refund and run as fast as you can to another agency. If they refuse to refund your money, I would contact the Better Business Bureau, any licensing agency that is in charge of them and also spread the word to any adoption agencies who recommend this homestudy agency to their clients!
We too had a horrible experience with our first homestudy. It took over 6 months, and the only way we got anything done was to finally get fed up one day and I called the head of the agency and told her what was going on and that I wanted my money back or my homestudy in my hand or I would be filing legal action against them. Two days later I had my homestudy. (We had already had our visits and jumped through a thousand unnecesary hoops, the SW was dragging her feet on getting the report to us and had used an expired notary on 2 different occasions!) Once we had the report, we immediately switched agencies for our post placement reports! I told our placement agency about my experience and they no longer recommend this HS agency to their clients, and have actually hired SW's to be on staff and do their own homestudies!
I will keep your family in my prayers. Please believe me when I say that once you have your child in your arms, you will know that all things happen for a reason. God's timing is perfect, and you will have the child He meant for you from eternity.
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We are not paying for homestudy... we are going thru a Christian adoption agency that does not charge any fees and does the homestudy free of charge. I guess that is where we might have gone wrong... wanting to save our money for our child(ren)! When I got to work this morning there was a call waiting from our new Caseworker... so hopefully they can get us done and over with asap. The head of the project (foster to adopt program) has called a couple of times now and keeps telling us she wants to get our homestudy done asap! They have children who are waiting to be placed... and not enough familys! So that gives us hope... but we really just want the homestudy done. There are 4-5 familys that we started this process with that already have their children, and are in the process of waiting the six months for the adoption to be finalized. I guess its was their time... but this is getting kind of crazy for us. Even if we had our paperwork done and we are waiting for our child... I would feel better knowing that we have that part done and we waiting for God to pick our child for us.
Just keep remembering that everything happens for a reason. Your child is out there...maybe its just not time yet.
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the "administration" process can be one of the most frustrating!
Legally, they should be able to get the paperwork from her and may end up having to take her to court. Of course, that doesn't help you right now. I pray they are able to get this worked out quickly and your family completed!
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I'm gonna stop looking back and starting moving on
And learn how to face my fears
Love with all of my heart, make my mark
I wanna leave something here
Go out on a ledge, without any net
That's what I'm gonna be about
Yeah, I wanna be running
When the sand runs out
- Rascall Flatts "When the Sand Runs Out"
I spoke with our new caseworker yesterday and she is wanting to set up an appt for the last weekend of this month. Which is fine... now we've just got to set up the time (she said for my husband and I to decide that). She said that instead of having multiple visits she thinks she can get it all done in one. Since we were really complete on our homework and she is sending us out some information to have ready for her when she gets here. So that gives me home that our homestudy could be done by mid october to beginning of november. Then we can get the referral to the state license dept for our foster license. Which hopefully wont take too long I would like to be licensed by the end of the year.
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__________________ "To laugh often and love much; to win the respect of intelligent persons and the affection of children...to find the best in others; to give of one's self; to leave the world a bit better, whether by a healthy child, a garden patch or a redeemed social condition; to have played and laughed with enthusiasm and sung with exultation; to know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived...THIS IS TO HAVE SUCCEEDED" Ralph Waldo Emerson
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Havent posted in a while! Update 
the "administration" process can be one of the most frustrating!
