He Ended Our Relationship And I'm Not Coping At All

SillyandSad · 11-01-2009, 06:14 PM

My boyfriend ended our relationship 3 days ago in the most awful way. He took me out for food and drinks with his family and then dumped me infront of them. I tried to take an overdose but he caught me and flushed all of the tablets down the sink. I was put on Prozac just over a week ago by my doctor because I was crying all of the time and I was starting to feel a little better but obviously now i'm just in tears all of the time. I love him so much and I miss him terribly. I've gone from having his company to being alone with my daughter and i'm just not coping. The anxiety is unreal and I can't eat or sleep. I am not suicidal now and realise how stupid I was being in thinking about taking an overdose. I just have no idea how to get over feeling this horrible. I just want him back so badly and I know that it's not going to happen, i'm just so sad, I feel as if my heart is breaking. Any help or advice that anyone can take the time to give me would be greatly appreciated xx

Happy Wife · 11-01-2009, 10:19 PM

If he is such an a$$ that he would dump you infront of his whole family he is not worth your time. You need to focus on yourself and your daughter right now. Some of the depression and anxiety you arefeeling could be a symptom of pcos. How is your pcos being treated? I can sympathize with you. My husband of almost 12 years walked out on me in June (we have sense reconciled) my OD of choice that night was alcohol. I was taken to the hospital suffering from alcohol poisoning and anxiety (my bp was 225/150 and they thought I was going to have a stroke in the ambulance) I was on antidepressants and seeing a counselor at the time. In the hospital I was also put on lorazipam. I was diagnosed with PCOS in August and put on metformin. I feel more emotionally stable than I think I have ever been. I am off all antidepressants and antianxiety meds and have stopped seeing a counselor. My depression and anxiety are pretty much gone and I don't have regular thoughts of wanting to die anymore (I have had these thoughts pretty much since I was 15 years old) I wish you all the best.

beavetm17 · 11-02-2009, 01:18 AM

If you are able to, find a therapist to talk things out with to help you not feel so alone. A therapist can help you learn to cope and is a nice addition to medication treatments. Not to mention exercise will work on your depression symptoms. I know that when you are feeling crappy the last thing you may want to do is be active, but take your daughter for a walk to bond with her, find a good friend to talk to, and again, seek out professional help. Talk therapy is very effective in the treatment of depression and anxiety, and if you ever feel suicidal again, please contact a hotline in your area, or a friend or close family member. You are a very important person to many people, and overdosing is not the answer to cope with your pain. I hope this helps!
Tiffany

magzarooni · 11-02-2009, 01:12 PM

First of all I would like to say that how your bf ended things was very very cruel. Next I would like to say that I totally understand where you are coming from when you say you are lonely as I have been a single mum in a relationship that has ended and sure, you are lucky to have your daughter but, there is nothing selfish about wanting to have someone for yourself to love you and fancy you.I think you need to concentrate on your daughter and getting yourself back on an even keel at the moment, whether it be crying your eyes out or going to see a counceller/therapist, you do what is best for you as this guy doesn't even deserve any of your time or thought as he has been a total jerk to you.You sound like a really nice person and you deserve to meet someone who really deserves you and your daughter and not someone who discards you at the drop of a hat!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!. You might think it's all very easy for me to say but , really I have been seriously hurt in my past and now I have a wonderful guy in my life, I am a true believer of "things happen for a reason", and I'd say the reason here is to make you available for someone who will love you a treat you right. Hope you feel better soon and give your daughter a big hug from me . Magz xxxxxxxxxxxx

DAT_VICIOUZ_MAMI · 11-02-2009, 01:26 PM

surround yourself with people who love you family, friends, your daughter, find someone to talk to about your feelings & stay busy. The pain will hurt like hell for a while & its okay to be mad, hurt, sad but only allow yourself to cry & wallow for 5 minutes a day...after 5 minutes say out loud: I'm Over It!

SillyandSad · 11-02-2009, 04:19 PM

Thank you so much to all of you for taking the time to reply to me. Today has been a little better. I've had no tears yet but i'm still feeling very sad and lonely. I've gotten so used to the company and now i'm alone all of the time.

magzarooni · 11-05-2009, 04:23 PM

Hey thereI just thought I'd leave a little post to see how you are doing now ?? Magz xxxxxx

Leighbie87 · 11-07-2009, 06:29 AM

The feeling of being dumped is probably the most awful feeling in the world. Find the motivation to pull yourself together and work on this grief. I call it grief because technically you are grieving the loss of someone in your life. Go out with the girls, spend time with your daughter, eat ice cream, go for a walk. Find some coping skills-things that can distract you from your stressors. It takes time to get over this loss and you just have to find the strength to get through it, and you will get through it. It takes hard work and bravery. You can get through it and don't be afraid to get a therapist to talk through it and to get that extra support. Good luck and take care of your self.