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dpdunn20 · 07-29-2002, 09:16 PM

Hello every one...My name is Danny and this is the firs time I have posted on here all though I have been reading here for a while.My question is what do you guys do when your sweetie is on a war path?I try not to make Ramona mad but it never works she always ends up so mad she will not talk to me and its killing me! I hate seeing her like that it hurts me so bad because its my job to make sure she's happy.... if shes not happy im not doing my job right.I hate this **** please help me!!!!!!!

SoulHubby · 07-29-2002, 09:41 PM

Rock on Danny! Great to see you here! Ramona and Aimee (my wife) are friends from SC.

Anyway, to address your question: I usually just take a step back and assess the situation. If it something that I've done, and I'm truly wrong, I apologize and try to work it out. Taking a moment to reflect, for me is essential.

So.. I'm not sure if this all helps... it seems that it might be a "trial and error" type of thing.. try different things, see what works

Good luck and welcome! Great to see ya here.

-=\Eric/=-

yistersister · 08-02-2002, 03:31 PM

Hope you don't mind if butt in here being a dw instead of a dh. This is what DH and I do. While I realize PCO is a major drag on the old emotions, I try real hard not to use it as an excuse either. So DH and I try to decifer through my "war paths". Granted I don't have very many. Honestly. I really believe in a marriage that has open communication. See I believe PCO or not, that I have just as much responsibility to be honest and open with him about what I am feeling. I wouldn't want him treating me badly and not know why. He is a guy and so naturally he wants to fix everything. Sometimes I just look at him, cry or whatever and tell him there just isn't any reason why. We now are able to talk through it. Sometimes I need afirmations, sometimes I need to get out for a walk. We are a team. The point is WE work it out. I just try to remember PCO dosen't give me a right to kill him or even treat him less than I would want to be treated. Each marriage is different so I guess the core to my advice here is to talk together about a solution. Set up a code system if that works. Just help her see that no matter what you are a team. Also, being newlyweds adds a different spin. Didn't I see on your dw sig line that you were recentely wed? There is also time of adjusting there too PCO aside. You two are learning to live together. While I have loved every minute being married, DH and I say neither one of us would go back for a minute. We have grown together.

I don't know if any of this helped but I hope so. Thanks for letting a girl invade your boy party

Good luck,