I understand that most member of this board have either been diagnosed with PCOS or suspect that they have this diagnosis. My case is a little different.
My girlfriend was recently diagnosed with PCOS. This diagnosis has led to considerable anxiety to both of us. She has to deal with the abnormal facial hair growth, weight problems etc.
I am under considerable stress too, since I am really worried about our future together. I am worried that we might not be able to start a family. Some of the things that I have read on the internet have made me question if we shall be able to live a normal married life. This has led to quite a bit of emotional turmoil in me. Sometimes I question myself if I should continue this relationship into marriage despite knowing potential problems. At other times I feel that I shall be failing myself, and her, if I let a health condition alter the whole relationship. I really want to make sure I do the right thing for myself and for her, but I am not able to resolve this dilemma.
Please guide me in taking the right decision!!! I am really really confused, I do not know what is right.
If you love her than help her and support her through this. There are many women with PCOS that have happy families and your girlfriend deserves to be one of them.
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Having PCOS does not mean you cannot have children, yes it can be difficult to conceive and there are those that cannot have children, but plenty of women can and have a happy family. Its nice that you are taking such an interest in the condition, my boyfriend knows about it through me and knows there can be difficulties with me becoming pregnant but he loves me and having this condition doesn't change that. We are buying a house next year, and we plan to start a family. With so many success stories I am not letting myself think that we cannot have the children we hope for. I'm in the process of losing weight so that I can make it happen. Support your partner, and if you love her you will stick with her no matter what the future may hold. I was diagnosed with PCOS getting on for 10 years ago, so I know all the facts and am no longer panicked by it. It isn't quite as serious as you think it is, it can be managed it just is alot to take in at first and you cannot help but think the worst. Don't panic its not as bad as it seems.
Everyone is right, haveing PCOS does not mean you can't have kids, I have 2 myself. It might make it harder to concive. Another woman in my family has PCOS her and DH TTC for 12 years, after Dx of PCOS and the right mediations She was able to get PG in less than 2 months. Some people have a harder time than others, but if its something you really want no amount of trying and work is gonna be to much. If you are in love with your GF then a medical problem shouldn't stand in your way of marrying her and having an amazing life together. (FYI Clomid and Metformin worked really well for the other woman in my family)
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there is a link to the newbie roadmap in my siggie for you both.
