I have two brothers and one sister. My Dad died in 1979 at the age of 45 with a severe heart attack. He had diabetes real bad also.
My oldest brother married a rag-a-muffin to say the least the same year a few months later. They both thought they had to have brand new things without worrying whether they could pay or not. My Mom and the whole family have given them money when they asked. I also was stupid enough to let them use my gas credit card on summer with the understanding they would pay it off... HA! I just happened to open one of my bill's and they hadn't paid a dime and they were going to turn me over to collection. My Mom and I immediately paid off the bill. They also borrowed money from her Mom and Dad (did I just say Dad too?-two incomes not my Mom's retirement money) and they had to pay them back! We never asked for it back and was never, ever offered any money back!!!
Here's the kicker - they treat my Mom like dirt! Oh they talk normal to her but as soon as she leaves the room they are trashing her, making fun of her and putting her down in any way they possibly can think of.
My sister doesn't live close or she'd probably be cracking some heads. I'm not like that - I get mad and usually take it.
My younger brother has a wonderful wife that works all the time and loves their kids terribly. They have watched their money since they had gotten married and both have pretty good jobs. Well my brother wants to buy my Mom a house which I think is wonderful. If I could or my sister - Mom would live in a mansion. I hadn't told my older brother about him wanting to buy a house because he thinks Mom should move to a high-rise and have nothing. My Mom stills gets around good, drives everywhere and is on her own - no need to be in a high-rise. Her house is the house we all grew up in and it is falling apart is why my younger brother has been looking. Well my younger brother decides to tell the older one. mistake...mistake... He comes with us to look at one house that my DH and I had looked at and thought was pretty nice. He talks crappy to Mom the whole time he is with us.
Tonight we had our Christmas play at our church and my DS loving his Uncle (oldest brother that lives closest) wanted him to come to the play. He showed up without Auntie (good!) and I was talking about the house and he says "well Kathy (younger brother's wife) would probably pay double for the house so Mom wouldn't move in with them!" I was so pissed. I wish I was as big as him. I would bust him in the mouth.
I know we all don't get along. No one does. Mom and I go around some days but I love her. I don't know what Mom has ever done to these two idiots (older brother and his wife). She buys them presents for every birthday, anniversary and Christmas. Ya know I'm bad. I talk about my MIL but I don't trash my own Mom....come on what's up.
What do I do??? My brothers weren't getting along very well for awhile until my younger brother had angioplasty done with one blockage being 99% blocked at age 40! I don't want to step back and make things worse. I don't want my son to grow up not knowing my family. And ya know if I stand my ground they will probably start trashing me (I'm sure they already do!) and I'll never see my brother again.
please any ideas
Tori
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UGH....I know all about family problems! I wish I could offer advice, but I can say a prayer for you and your family tonight. Hope that helps!
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