Hi my name is mandy. I found out that i was pregnant last week, I went to the er due to the fact i was bleeding and spotting for two weeks and cramping also. I knew that if i was pregnant i was atleast 4 weeks. The doctor i saw told me that i was only a week along due to my beta 103 and that everything was fine.
He gave me some papers on miscarrages and said that they were standard literature they give to everyone.
Well this week i was in such pain and the spotting was still the same. I was in there for 6 hours to find out that my beta was the exact same and that everything was not fine. I had an u/s at the first hosp. and that my woom was empty and i was in a process of m/c at the first hosp. Why didnt they tell me this? And now i hurt inside, all i want to do is cry, and i wonder what i did wrong?
Thanks for listening
Mandy
I'm so sorry you are going through this. Know that you did absolutely nothing wrong. Unfortunately these things happen, why they have to happen to you, me, and the other women on this board, no one knows.
At the first hospital, they probably didn't know for sure you were miscarrying. At only 4 or 5 weeks, it is common not to see anything in the womb. Your Beta number needs to be about 1500 before anything is visible. I'm guessing that the second hospital based the fact that you are miscarrying on the fact that your beta did not rise. It is supposed to double every 48-72 hours.
Wanting to cry is a normal reaction- go ahead and sob your heart out. I cried for days. You experienced a loss and it is perfectly normal to grieve.
Mandy,
((Big Hugs))
I'm sorry for your losses. I wish we knew why these happen, but instead we just deal with them. There are tests for repeat pregnancy loss, and your doctor might be interested in starting that process if you want to investigate. I haven't had any of these tests, but several on this board have and might be able to offer suggestions.
Take care, sweetie,
Sheri
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I'm so sorry for your loss. You did nothing wrong. Please check out the resources on m/c that the hospital gave you - hopefully they will be helpful. And cry all you want - it's your right and you deserve to let your feelings out.
I have compiled a Word document full of resources I found after my miscarriage - info on PCOS, D and C's, coping with miscarriage, books to read about miscarriage and trying again. If you send me a PM with your email address, I'd be happy to email it to you. (Same goes for anyone reading this message.)
Thanks,
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mandy {{{lots of hugs to you}}} you did nothing wrong, i have been going over everything i did for the 3 weeks i was pregnant, and figured there must be something, anything to explain why. but i have come up with nothing, you did nothing. i know this probably does not help any, it hasn't me. go ahead and cry, i still do several times a day, you have lost your precious babies. you are their mother and no one can ever take that away. that is the only thing that has kept me going in these long weeks. if you wish contact me and maybe we can get through this together.
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Hi everyone.
Just want to thank everybody for your support. I would have got back to yall sooner but i spent most of yesterday in the hospital with a gleaming hope that the doctors were wrong and there was still a chance. I dont know why i keep fooling my self and to top it all off i got my bill for the first doctor i went to it was 2440.00. I could not believe it for a doctor who lied to me and didnt see me but ten minutes.
Help Please 
