Hey Guys?!

daisies72000 · 07-14-2002, 10:58 PM

How do I get DH to understand what I am going thru?? Everytime that I come to this website, he cringes and runs away.

Like this isn't his problem too....

Help me understand.

Thank you!

SoulHubby · 07-15-2002, 01:46 PM

This is a tough question, and the answers are going to be probably going to be very individual.

Lets start with what he DOES understand--- where is he at now? What about PCOS DOES he understand now? For me, looking thru one of the PCOS books that everyone recommends here was a good start for me.

I'm not sure what to suggest... I take it getting him to sign up here would be out of the question?

Best of luck, and god bless-

-=\Eric/=-

Yolanda · 07-16-2002, 01:22 PM

Yikes Josh, you didn't "piss" me off, but I think you may be assuming things that aren't true. Just because Daisie's DH cringes when he see this site doesn't mean he doesn't care. I have PCOS and IBS. I know I talk about my problems, ALOT. I know my DH sometimes doesn't want to hear about it anymore. That's okay, sometimes I don't want to hear another word about this truck or that tire or this guys mustang (My DH's a mechanic, and loves trucks and old cars). Does that mean I don't care about him or his thoughts and concerns? Of course not. Perhaps Daisie's DH sees this site as a bunch of women who share the same problem, and who know tons more about the problem than he will ever know, and he feels out numbered and slightly ignorant (to the problem of PCOS).

I've been married for almost 12 years. My DH and I have had our ups and downs just like everyone else. I know that when the poop hits the fan, he is there, always. I also know when I say to him "This is important, I need you to sit down and listen" he is completely supportive of me. But the fact that he isn't sitting over my shoulder reading each and every post on this web site, and going to every doctor appointment with me, and reading every book I read, is absolutely fine with me, and doesn't mean he doesn't care. Matter of fact, I'm glad he isn't that involved, he'd drive me crazy! LOL!

Anyway, Daisie, maybe if you take a minute, away from the computer, when things are quiet, and tell him exactly what you need from him, he will be right there for you. Sometimes guys just don't know what we want from them.

daisies72000 · 07-16-2002, 09:36 PM

I truefully don't think that he understands what is exactly wrong with me. Granted, he has only gone to 2 (at the max) doctors visits with me, he never seems to "have time" to listen to what exactly is wrong with me. I spend much more time with my DH than I do here, so I don't think that is the problem. I really truely think that he just doesn't get it.

Oh, well...I appreciate everyones input in the matter. It is so hard to express what I am thinking in writing. I just wish that DH would be more understanding to what I am going through. Being diagnosed with PCOS was a total shocker for me. To know that I have to go through so much just to be able to have a child makes it even harder. DH thinks that we can just "hop in the sack" and **BING** I am pregnant.

He hasn't even had the nerve to ever do his SA, when it has been recommended by 2 of my doctors. I guess it is a matter of his "manhood" and he automatically thinks that there is nothing wrong with his "little swimmers."