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Old 01-07-2007, 08:12 PM   #1 (permalink)
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And wanted to introduce myself. I just recently had a miscarriage on Christmas Day, at 5 weeks pg. Unbelievably, it was a surprise pregnancy. I don't think I've ever ovulated on my own in my entire life. I never even get my period on my own. My daughter, now two, was conceived using injectibles. My OB thinks I may have m/c b/c I conceived on like day 21 of my cycle, and the egg was "old". At the time I wasn't on met or any other drugs. I hadn't even fully believed I was pregnant, I just couldn't allow myself to believe that could happen for me without any fertility meds. I finally had started allowing myself to get excited and then the m/c happened.

After the go-ahead from my OB last week, I started Met. I'm on 500 mg once/day to work up to 1000mg/day. The first two days were fine, but I woke up this a.m. on day 3 of met and feel so crappy. Nauseus, lethargic, and worst of all, DEPRESSED. Is this normal? Has anyone else felt depressed after starting met? Could it be the heavy meal, two drinks, and lots of candy I had last night? We had date night and I kind of splurged.

I'm not sure if the depression is a delayed reaction to the m/c (both hormonally and just plain mentally) or could be caused by the met. I just feel really down in the dumps and frankly, kind of pissed. I just want to lay in bed and cover myself and cry for the next few days. Not easy when you have a 2 year old begging to play Play-doh.

Anyway, thanks for letting me have a pity-party with you all. As much as DH tries, he just doesn't get it and it find it frustrating.

I hope to get to know you all better!
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Old 01-07-2007, 09:36 PM   #2 (permalink)
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I'm so sorry to hear about your loss - such a hard thing to go through, espeically during the holidays.
Although the met might be making your feel yucky, it's probably also your hormones adjusting and you starting to deal with your loss. While checking out for a few days might not be realistic, you should try and get some time for yourself.

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Old 01-07-2007, 10:10 PM   #3 (permalink)
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I am so sorry for your loss. I am not on Met, so I really can't help you there, but I have had losses and that could be the cause of your depression. And I can't imagine having to play playdough with a 2 year old when you just need to grieve. I would call the dr. about the depression - just to be sure that it isn't the Met. Also, I know that when I splurge with heavy meal, drinks and candy - I feel totally crappy for a couple of days.

Take care of you, and I am so sorry for your loss.
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Old 01-08-2007, 01:02 AM   #4 (permalink)
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Thanks Hannah. I appreciate it. I'm sure it's a combo of everything I've been through lately, including the m/c, the meds, the hormones, everything. Luckily my DH is great about giving me "me time" and taking DD on what he likes to call field trips.

I am sorry about your loss as well.
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Thanks Kath. I appreciate it. I hauled myself out of bed today for a dinner with family friends and it made me feel a lot better to get out of the house. If I don't stop feeling down within a couple of days, I'll definitely call the doc. I just don't think I allowed myself the opportunity to properly grieve when it was happening. I was at my in-laws house and never was able to really wallow or even come to terms with what was happening b/c we were doing all the family stuff and I didn't want to be a downer. Like Hannah said, I just need some time for me. I think that will help.

I am really sorry for your losses as well.

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Hi,

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Sorry for your loss.
I had a m/c 2 days before Christmas a few years ago; it was a hard Christmas that year.

So nice that your DH is giving you some "me" time. You need time to grieve. Your depression is probably just part of the grieving process.

My thoughts and prayers will be with you.
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welcome to sc. Sorry to hear of your loss.
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Old 01-08-2007, 10:03 AM   #8 (permalink)
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I'm very sorry to hear about your loss. It's hard anytime, but I think especially hard around the holiday's when like you said, you try not to be a downer.

I would think your sadness is coming from your grief. Give it some time. If you are stil feeling badly, contact your doc.

I'm new to SC, too. I'm looking forward to getting to know you.
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aw, hun I'm sorry for your loss.

The yucky feeling is probably more the hormones adjusting, since your body is still coming back to normal after the loss, and the met takes a few days to adjust to. Take it during a meal (not on an empty stomach), and it'll help with the yucky feeling. the depression is probably also hormonal, as well as time catching up with you.

Things will get better, I promise!
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Thank you to everyone for your warm welcome and good advice. I am feeling a lot better today, both mentally and physically. This is the first week we're back to our regular routine of classes, activities, etc after the holidays. It feels good to be back doing the normal stuff.

And I don't feel sick today, at least not like yesterday. Bloated and gassy but not sick to my stomach. That's a relief.

Again, thanks!!!
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I'm so sorry for your loss. The met can cause nausea and a hungover feeling after you have a few drinks.

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