Hmmm....

jimsbaby · 05-10-2008, 01:35 AM

I think I am going to have to get my husband on here. Hes always looking up info on pcos.

sexyswamprat · 06-01-2008, 01:10 PM

It's a very good source of information for men. They need to know what women with pcos go threw and how we can help eachother to deal with whatever this syndrome has in store for us.

sexyswamprat · 06-01-2008, 01:11 PM

Trying to get my husband on here also.

soulfulqween · 06-01-2008, 01:51 PM

Thought about telling my hunny...I'm not sure yet, we'll see

nikbee · 06-02-2008, 09:11 AM

You can try to get him on here but I am sure he will not stay for long. If you read any of the threads my dh has posted he often gets attacked by women on here and now officially will not come back here. I am just in here today to stop getting updated emails on threads and i am no longer coming on here either. If my dh can't get support... I feel like I should not be here either.

aj1785 · 06-02-2008, 10:29 AM

I think this is a great site for dh's, df's, and dbf's! It's unfortunate that some men are uncomfortable on here or feel that they get attacked (not saying that they aren't actually getting attacked!). I hope more men become interested in understanding what is going on and check it out!

Sweetface · 06-02-2008, 02:04 PM

I think its important to give the respect and dignity that you would like to receive from others. That doesn't always happen here. I really think Kat needs a better Terms of Service that is accessible as a reminder of what proper conduct and respect are for both sexes here. There's no room for disrespectful behavior or insults wether its a mans corner or not.

I've seen all kinds of explosive forums elseshere and this forum is mild in comparison.

Talking about and accpeting the realities of hormonal disorders is a very difficult subject matter anyway.

LilBitMagoo · 06-02-2008, 07:25 PM

The issue is that the husbands/boyfriends corner gets over ran by the women. So the men probably feel it is pointless to come on here and express what they are going through. Now, I don't see the adults going into the teens area, so the women should respect the mens area. I see no problem with the women asking the men questions since its nice to get their point of view.

SandV · 06-02-2008, 07:37 PM

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Originally Posted by LilBitMagoo

The issue is that the husbands/boyfriends corner gets over ran by the women. So the men probably feel it is pointless to come on here and express what they are going through. Now, I don't see the adults going into the teens area, so the women should respect the mens area. I see no problem with the women asking the men questions since its nice to get their point of view.

I would agree it would be a great area for men to learn about what women are going through. Maybe the "Men Section" should be broken down into specific subcategories for:
-Men talking to Men
-Women asking Men questions
-Men asking Women questions

I would love to get DH to understand more about what is going on inside my body. (I have to fight a cultural issue with him wanting to learn it as well).

AmyElnora · 06-02-2008, 07:55 PM

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Originally Posted by SandV

I would agree it would be a great area for men to learn about what women are going through. Maybe the "Men Section" should be broken down into specific subcategories for:
-Men talking to Men
-Women asking Men questions
-Men asking Women questions

Many people have brought this issue up to Kat in the "ask Kat" section. I have even suggested the exact same thing you did SandV, making subcategories.

Kat stated that after the upgrades are all done, she's going to look into helping solve the issues in the mens section. I'm pretty sure that the problems with women taking over the section were brought up to her a long time ago, way before the upgrades, and nothing was done then either. I guess time will tell.

http://www.soulcysters.net/husbands-corner-243361/

Sweetface · 06-02-2008, 08:32 PM

Sub catagories are great! And if a woman accidently posts in the wrong area then men can be gentlemen about it.

I don't think men hang out in forums as much as women do so one eason men may not come in general is that they'd rather learn without admitting they don't know, so they lurk.

I think this is about the question I asked the men and when I clarified my thread and brought someone back to the topic he took it real personal so I defined a boundary based of dignity and respect but he might not have gone for it.

But it sounds that if men are blasted by women repeatedly its more about manners. Women in general are very social conscious and we don't normally like to behave with bad manners, but men sometimes are gruf and forgetul of manners and very competitive with their opinions which to a woman can be very insuting since most of us are sensitive anyway.

It's really about conduct. I expect men to be gentlemen. I also expect that if they really don't want to be helpful, they don't have to respond.

I have only been here 2 weeks and that one instance was enough for me to realize that men think its ok to belittle women is its their corner. It's not ever ok.

MOTB has been wonderfully kind hearted and a few others. But I am new so I don't know al the men here.

Ground rules on appropriate behavior is needed and subcategories.

AmyElnora · 06-02-2008, 09:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Sweetface

I have only been here 2 weeks and that one instance was enough for me to realize that men think its ok to belittle women is its their corner.

I have seen the men repeatedly and nicely tell the women that they are invading the area too much. They started nicely, but didn't get anywhere. It's the type of thing where you ask over and over nicely, and eventually you get fed up and you get angry.

What really infuriates me, as well as most of them men, is when a woman asks a questions for the men, and instead a bunch of women respond. Any post that starts with "I'm not a man, but" doesn't belong here. If a womans opinion was wanted, it wouldn't have been posted in the mens section.

The Man of the Board · 06-02-2008, 10:24 PM

Y'all opened a can of worms so i am going to reply very carefully here. When my DW first showed me this site I was over joyed in the since I needed a place to learn futher and get posted with out thinking about what I was doing. So at first I was rude and almost driven from these boards. I am finding out its not only my DW that i need to care for every day but its also all of you women that come to these boards.... PLZ PLZ PLZ dont take this wrong I seen the error of my ways i have no problem with this. But as I have stated its hard enough for some us to even say we need help or talk what is on our minds. Ladies, most of us men think or are the rock and dont want to seem to our DW's that we also need help , learning, or just vent. I would love to see more men post on here. Last week I posted man needing a man POV cause i was having a bad day, but i was not going to talk it out on my wife. I agree we need out own cornor that we know its only men posting learning venting seeng what other men are dealing with and how to handle it. As many of you know I start posting and it truns into a rant in a way. Ladies know us hubby/DB love you and we need our way to vent. So to you ladies thinking of showing your hubbies or DB do at the most it helpful for you cause all the info. ok rant off, thank you for your time.

Sweetface · 06-02-2008, 11:10 PM

See? What a sweete!

The Man of the Board · 06-03-2008, 12:09 AM

response to what i juswt posted Jimsbaby,sexyswamprat,soulfulqween,nikbee,sandv I hope that your men come and learn and talk whats on thier mind. I am always looking to talk and help others men. PCOS is not only affecting our women but us as well. To help understand what my 3 year period of couping with this disorder with my DW might be differernt then someone brand new to it. We need to get together and talk about things. I am also trolled the other fourms about met and SF's that i did not know about. My DW and I are able to talk better about it now since i got a better idea what she goes thru everyday. So I ask everyone dont attack for someone feeling's man or woman. ok rant off