How to ask for help?

jayjay5 · 02-17-2008, 01:05 AM

I just wanted to ask

R0xyg4l · 02-17-2008, 02:29 AM

You should be a bit more openminded! Anti depressants can make you feel better and not isolate yourself. They can give you more energy therefore making yourself more opt to exercise and diet. An unlabeled use of Prozac is for obesity. You may still be hairy (join the club!

) but you can change your weight and things can be done about the hairyness....

At therapy I don't just talk about myself. I talk about things that happened around me. Events that may upset me. The arguement I had the other day with my husband. Why my mother in law can be annoying... anything thats on my mind!

I don't think not seeking help was an option for me. I needed something and couldn't continue to live with panic attacks and the way things were. I felt like there was no other option. I'm glad I got help. Sometimes just admitting you need it is the hardest thing to do. I just kinda opened my phone book called and see if they took my insurance. My psychiatrist recommended a therapist... and here I am. If you ever need someone to talk to let me know! I hope you seek the help you need and feel better soon!

TickledPink · 02-17-2008, 06:48 AM

you must seek help, it is a tough road to go alone.

Sweetangel127 · 02-17-2008, 07:05 AM

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poiball · 02-24-2008, 02:49 AM

Depression is a nasty beast that can easily consume you if you don't fight it. I was diagnosd with clinical depression about 15 years ago and I've been on anti-depressants for the entire time. I was a mess and I reached a point where I just couldn't keep it together. I've been to about 4 different psychiatrists and 6 different psychologists/therapists and I can say from personal experience that you have to find someone that you can click with. There are plenty of doctors out there and you've got to just try to find the best fit for you.

Depression is just anger turned inward. I've found that I feel better when I:

Fight that demon, Depression. It's a daily battle
Do something for someone else - it really takes your mind off your own problems
Work on improving my own self esteem (there's a workbook one of my many therapists suggested that actually helped called 10 Days to Self Esteem )

I hope that helps. I know there's sometimes a stigma attached to psychiatrists, but it's really minor compaired to the help you receive when you overcome the stigma and get help.

Good luck!!!

jayjay5 · 02-24-2008, 10:33 PM

Thanks for the replies ladies. I'll definitely look into the Insulite. I just needed to vent - it's so much easier to do it somewhere relatively anonymous such as a forum than to go and see someone face to face, but I know I've got to go to the doctor because things just can't stay the way they are.

NurseJackie - I could have written your post. Pretty much everything you describe is the same for me - ignoring the phone, not leaving the house and trying to come up with excuses for not following through with plans to meet up with people. I too used to speak to my mum all the time but now I hardly ever do - I just don't have anything to say. And inevitably she'll ask me if I'm seeing anyone, go on at me for being single, and saying 'Why don't I care?' or 'Why aren't you looking?' and how I'm not getting any younger. And that makes me feel even worse than I already do, because I can barely leave the house, nevermind find anyone to date!

02-25-2008, 01:29 PM

It's hard to ask for help, I know I've been there and I struggled like crazy to open up to people, in the end I did and in all honesty for me I got a little support and then it tailored off, it was not really what I expected when I finally asked for help... but of course I am in the UK and our NHS is really poor, well I find it is...

Good luck in getting the help you need.

Bethann · 02-25-2008, 07:45 PM

Try not to think about it as going to get a medicine, or committing to long term counseling. Think of it in small steps--call your GP and get a reference (or ask friends if you think they would be open), then call and make an appointment, the go the first time and see how it feels.

You may find it easier to talk there than you think--I find it almost impossible to ask for help or tell people there's a problem, but I worked with a couple therapists to my real benefit.

Kathy2579 · 02-25-2008, 09:52 PM

Make a phone call. It will be the toughest thing. Don't go it alone

pal · 03-20-2008, 06:17 AM

Poiball, thanks for the book suggestion. The author's other book "The Feeling Good Handbook" is also a classic and very helpful. I'll check out "10 days to self esteem".