snfr02chic

Needless to say, when I got my first ever BFP we were overjoyed. We spilled the beans as soon as my beta blood test was back. Being that hindsight is 20/20 I wish we hadn't, but we have already discussed the pregnancy with DSD. She has 2 little sisters at her mom's, but none with us. She was more excited than we were. It breaks my heart to have to tell her the news, but I don't know how to do it in a way that won't be traumatic for her. She is 7 1/2 and very smart. I don't know if I should just be honest with her or sugar coat it.

How have any of you handled this type of situation?

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Me 26 ~ Dh 29 ~ DSD 7
Married 10/20/07 ~ ~ FINALLY!!!
Mother of 2 furbabies, Ceasar 4 year old Dachshund
Bella, 10 month old Kitty
DXD August 5th, 2005
Current meds:
2000mg Met
81mg Aspirin
Prenatal Vitamins

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Got first BFP 9/3/2009 first miscarriage 9/27/09

TDoern

I don't have any earthly children yet, the best advice I can give you is to be honest with her. Tell her that for whatever reason this baby wasn't meant to live here with you. Tell her what you are feeling she might want or need to hear, and let her know it's okay.

I responded to your other post, but just know I'm praying for you.

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snfr02chic

Thank you.

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Me 26 ~ Dh 29 ~ DSD 7
Married 10/20/07 ~ ~ FINALLY!!!
Mother of 2 furbabies, Ceasar 4 year old Dachshund
Bella, 10 month old Kitty
DXD August 5th, 2005
Current meds:
2000mg Met
81mg Aspirin
Prenatal Vitamins

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Got first BFP 9/3/2009 first miscarriage 9/27/09

kwannabee

Hugs

When we lost our twin girls my son was just naturally compassionate without me saying too much. He just sat with me alot and comforted me, but i have to say that sometimes it was hard not to just want to be by myself and wallow.

We talked alot about twinkle stars, and we'd say good night to the moon and stars every night before he went to bed. He picked two little twinklers that he said were Aimee and Dana's and we talked about Heaven.

It wasnt something that i thought about it just came about naturally...if he asked questions i wasnt ready to answer...or too emotional..he seemed to sense that and we'd just hug and i'd tell him to ask me again later...he was okay with that. He was about 6 or 7 at the time, and he probably had others to talk to also...i dont know to be honest if he talked to anyone.

he did have a program at school with the school resource teacher, talking about grief and loss...so i would check into her school too and see what they have. Also our local funeral parlor had alot of info on dealing with grief...

Good luck and take care, and again i'm so sorry for your loss.

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Kim 40 PCOS/IR/IC/PIH/PTL
DS6yrs-preemie-30w)Twins-Met,Prometrium, Puregon Injectibles DS3YRS

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